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Cheeky Fucker - Group Gift

704 replies

TulaOfDarkWater · 19/05/2022 18:06

Friendship group of six. One member has a birthday coming up & the other five people decided to get together & buy her a big ticket item.

Site A sells the item for £500 so £100 per person, everyone agreed & was happy with this.

Site B has a deluxe version for £700 so £140 per person, everyone agreed this was out of budget & unanimously decided to go with the £500 option from site A.

Just before the item could be purchased, a member of the group, let’s call her Anne, said she had a 20% off voucher for site B which was due to expire soon & it would be silly to waste it so how about we use it to buy the deluxe version & pay a little extra as birthday girl has had a shitty time of it lately etc.

In the group chat, we discussed:

£700 - 20% = £560

£560 / 5 = £112 per person

Anne thumbs up emoji liked this message!

Everyone agreed they could stretch to the £12 extra & it was decided that we would buy the deluxe item from Site B. The ONLY reason we agreed to this was due to the discount voucher, everyone was happy to purchase from site A otherwise.

Anne purchased the item using the voucher & sent everyone her bank details asking for £140. When this was queried, Anne said the 20% voucher represented her 1/5 contribution & so everyone else owes £140.

  1. Anne knows the reason the £700 option was vetoed in the first place was because everyone - including Anne - agreed £140 was out of budget
  1. At no time did Anne say the 20% voucher was her contribution & the rest of us had to pay full price. Another member of the group had the exact same voucher & we could have used hers if we had known
  1. There are text messages where the group discussed the maths & agreed to £12 extra each & Anne did not dispute this & in fact thumbs up emoji’d it. Her excuse for this is she didn’t read the messages properly, the thumbs up was a mistake / she didn’t do it deliberately / know it was there & she is bad at maths anyway so tuned out!

So am I being unreasonable to think Anne is a cheeky fucker & deliberately mislead us? If we had stuck to the original plan then Anne would have had to pay £100 but this way she pays nothing & the rest of us an extra £40!!

Just to be clear, this voucher was one of those promotional email ones that are sent to those on the company’s mailing list, it wasn’t a voucher that had any monetary value or was a gift to her which would be different & like I said, another member had the exact same voucher which she was happy for us to use instead if we had known this is what Anne was doing.

OP posts:
StressedMumm1e · 19/05/2022 19:13

Say “thanks, but no thanks!”

use your other friend’s voucher and purchase the item for £112.

otherwise, just purchase from site a.

do not send Anne any money

RishiRich · 19/05/2022 19:15

Lol! Imagine being tight enough do this 😂 Anne obviously has no shame, and is soon to have no friends by the sounds of it. Just pay the £112 as agreed.

dreamygirl25 · 19/05/2022 19:16

I'm gobsmacked! Like a pp, I'd be watching sue didn't return the gift and use the money to buy the cheaper one..

Jetstream · 19/05/2022 19:16

Being bad at maths is not an excuse either is not reading messages properly. None of which is your problem. Anne has a brass neck.

Mummyoflittledragon · 19/05/2022 19:16

I love the idea of all sending her the voucher as payment. Idk if I’d trust her to actually provide the gift anymore.

Topseyt123 · 19/05/2022 19:17

I certainly wouldn't be sending her a penny more than the agreed £112, and I would want to see the gift or at the very least proof that it had been purchased before doing even that.

Anne sounds like the sort who, if given an inch, will take a mile.

AtomHeartMotherOfGod · 19/05/2022 19:17

1% YABU... hello Anne?!

Send her £112 and if she queries it, say 'Oh sorry, I didn't read the message correctly.'

stopwaitingforpermissiontobeyou · 19/05/2022 19:20

When you send her 112 please all claim you didnt read the message properly and in person give her 224 50ps each

Soubriquet · 19/05/2022 19:20

Yup. £112 as agreed and not a penny more.

If she argues about it, she’s showing her true colours

jammyrose · 19/05/2022 19:21

Anne is most definite a cheeky fucker. The rest of you should all pay £112 as agreed.

stopwaitingforpermissiontobeyou · 19/05/2022 19:23

My maths if failing me.

Hasnt Anne actually made a mint here? I cant imagine 25 percent would have been 114, would it?

Beautifulmonster87 · 19/05/2022 19:24

Anne sounds like a massive twat. Pay £112 and encourage the others to as well. Don’t speak to Anne ever again!!

jammyrose · 19/05/2022 19:24

jammyrose · 19/05/2022 19:21

Anne is most definite a cheeky fucker. The rest of you should all pay £112 as agreed.

*definitely

CocktailsOnTheBeach · 19/05/2022 19:25

Yep send £112, if it's questioned just say "oh I'm sorry Anne we mustn't have read your messages properly", tinkly laugh, 😁.

BonnesVacances · 19/05/2022 19:26

Lol! Don't some people have no shame at all!

Just post on the group, so are we all paying £112 each now or is CF returning the purchase so we can get the £500 -coffee machine- one?

AnneDeluxe · 19/05/2022 19:27

YABU. I cant believe you've made this public.

As I have used o.2 of my data (which I pay 15 a month for) to reply I expect this reimbursed.

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 19/05/2022 19:29

YANBU OP. Wow. Please come back to tell us what she says

HansHoblein · 19/05/2022 19:30

Eh? You've gone to the trouble of setting up a username to pretend to be Anne? Quite sad

Sisisimone · 19/05/2022 19:30

I'd pay the £112 and would never bother with her again. What a horrible person

DinoWoman · 19/05/2022 19:31

@annedeluxe is a phony. She's can't do basic division, there's no way she's using decimals 😅

HansHoblein · 19/05/2022 19:31

That was to @AnneDeluxe

DinoWoman · 19/05/2022 19:32

@HansHoblein I'm pretty sure they're just having a laugh!

AnneDeluxe · 19/05/2022 19:32

HansHoblein · 19/05/2022 19:30

Eh? You've gone to the trouble of setting up a username to pretend to be Anne? Quite sad

Just a joke.

Ps the majority of long term MN posters have usernames based on threads.

Just thought - are you the real Anne!! Turn out your pockets for vouchers!!

AnneDeluxe · 19/05/2022 19:32

DinoWoman · 19/05/2022 19:31

@annedeluxe is a phony. She's can't do basic division, there's no way she's using decimals 😅

😭😭😭

SomersetONeil · 19/05/2022 19:33

HansHoblein · 19/05/2022 19:30

Eh? You've gone to the trouble of setting up a username to pretend to be Anne? Quite sad

It’s clearly just a joke!