Cheeky Fucker - Group Gift

[TulaOfDarkWater]

Friendship group of six. One member has a birthday coming up & the other five people decided to get together & buy her a big ticket item.

Site A sells the item for £500 so £100 per person, everyone agreed & was happy with this.

Site B has a deluxe version for £700 so £140 per person, everyone agreed this was out of budget & unanimously decided to go with the £500 option from site A.

Just before the item could be purchased, a member of the group, let’s call her Anne, said she had a 20% off voucher for site B which was due to expire soon & it would be silly to waste it so how about we use it to buy the deluxe version & pay a little extra as birthday girl has had a shitty time of it lately etc.

In the group chat, we discussed:

£700 - 20% = £560

£560 / 5 = £112 per person

Anne thumbs up emoji liked this message!

Everyone agreed they could stretch to the £12 extra & it was decided that we would buy the deluxe item from Site B. The ONLY reason we agreed to this was due to the discount voucher, everyone was happy to purchase from site A otherwise.

Anne purchased the item using the voucher & sent everyone her bank details asking for £140. When this was queried, Anne said the 20% voucher represented her 1/5 contribution & so everyone else owes £140.

1. Anne knows the reason the £700 option was vetoed in the first place was because everyone - including Anne - agreed £140 was out of budget

1. At no time did Anne say the 20% voucher was her contribution & the rest of us had to pay full price. Another member of the group had the exact same voucher & we could have used hers if we had known

1. There are text messages where the group discussed the maths & agreed to £12 extra each & Anne did not dispute this & in fact thumbs up emoji’d it. Her excuse for this is she didn’t read the messages properly, the thumbs up was a mistake / she didn’t do it deliberately / know it was there & she is bad at maths anyway so tuned out!

So am I being unreasonable to think Anne is a cheeky fucker & deliberately mislead us? If we had stuck to the original plan then Anne would have had to pay £100 but this way she pays nothing & the rest of us an extra £40!!

Just to be clear, this voucher was one of those promotional email ones that are sent to those on the company’s mailing list, it wasn’t a voucher that had any monetary value or was a gift to her which would be different & like I said, another member had the exact same voucher which she was happy for us to use instead if we had known this is what Anne was doing.

And send her a thumbs down emoji if she argues.

I bet she’s used topcashback too 😂

Gotcha - sorry its been a long day!

Jesus Christ Anne, what is wrong with you?!

I wouldn’t send Anne any money. She’s a CF and a thief, she can’t be trusted. She could quite easily pocket everyone’s money and not provide the gift.

Tell her to return the item and get her money back. Someone else purchases the cheaper item from Site A. If Anne refuses to pay her £100 then exclude her from the group.

There's not really a dilemma here is there.

She's been very devious.

In your place OP I'd say given she's so untrustworthy she won't even get the £112 owed until she hands the gift to the birthday girl because I wouldn't put it past her to return it if she doesn't get the £140 she's demanding.

Frankly she's lucky if none of you tell the birthday girl that she thought so little of her and the rest of you that she gifted nothing whilst pretending she'd gifted a fair share.

Then drop her from the group. She's a shitty person.

This. Give her a choice. You all pay what was agreed or she can send it back. Do not cave.

If you divide £700 between 5 each person is paying 20% of the total (20% = £140). She paid using a voucher that got her 20% (£140) off of the £700. She’ll saying that’s her share sorted covered by the voucher.

£700 - 20% discount equals £560, 4 x £140 = £560, Anne has contributed nothing financially other than the voucher

What are the rest of your friends saying about this??

Sorry @Lynnthesearesexnotgenderpeople Xpost with @44PumpLane

Ooh Anne is a gallus one, isn't she?! Absolute CFery!

That'd be friendship over for me.

Wow there's CFs and there's 5 star CFs. I wonder how many friends Ann will end up with after this.
Send 112 quid and not a penny more

Oh Anne! What a cheeky fucker you are!

I wouldn't pay anything until she has agreed to £112 each. If she doesn't like it, then she can return the item and you can buy it from the original website. Or maybe even by the cheaper version with the discount code and exclude the CF if she refuses to agree to £112 each.

How well do you know Anne?

In a group of friends you all know well enough to organise a present like this, I can’t imagine one of my close friends suddenly pulling a stunt like this.

I'd say you can't afford it so as agreed you can forward 112, or could she please return it so you can get the 500 pound version.

Send the £112 and say that’s what was agreed - put it on the group chat.

If she can’t afford it tell her to cancel/return it and you’ll get the cheaper one.

Missing the point but Ive never known anyone to spend so much money on a present for a friend!

She actually thought you'd all pay 40 quid extra to enable her not to pay anything?? <boggles>
I couldn't be friends with a complete imbecile like this...

If you wanted to be REALLY vengeful you could all buy the £500 version between the 4 of you (for £125 each - still less than £140!) and leave her paying for the not-quite- £700 version by herself.

not that I’m advocating that. But she’s running a risk!

Anne is ridiculous.

I would agree to either pay her £112 as discussed or she can return it and you buy from site A.

Oh and as she's shown her true colours do not send the money until it has been handed over to the recipient.

Her excuses are bullshit. Even if she hadn’t realised how the maths works out, she knows now you’ve explained. I’d tell her to return it and you all go with option A.

I know!

Is Anne the most well off by any chance?

Definitely just send her the £112. And don't even worry about it!