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Cheeky Fucker - Group Gift

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TulaOfDarkWater · 19/05/2022 18:06

Friendship group of six. One member has a birthday coming up & the other five people decided to get together & buy her a big ticket item.

Site A sells the item for £500 so £100 per person, everyone agreed & was happy with this.

Site B has a deluxe version for £700 so £140 per person, everyone agreed this was out of budget & unanimously decided to go with the £500 option from site A.

Just before the item could be purchased, a member of the group, let’s call her Anne, said she had a 20% off voucher for site B which was due to expire soon & it would be silly to waste it so how about we use it to buy the deluxe version & pay a little extra as birthday girl has had a shitty time of it lately etc.

In the group chat, we discussed:

£700 - 20% = £560

£560 / 5 = £112 per person

Anne thumbs up emoji liked this message!

Everyone agreed they could stretch to the £12 extra & it was decided that we would buy the deluxe item from Site B. The ONLY reason we agreed to this was due to the discount voucher, everyone was happy to purchase from site A otherwise.

Anne purchased the item using the voucher & sent everyone her bank details asking for £140. When this was queried, Anne said the 20% voucher represented her 1/5 contribution & so everyone else owes £140.

  1. Anne knows the reason the £700 option was vetoed in the first place was because everyone - including Anne - agreed £140 was out of budget
  1. At no time did Anne say the 20% voucher was her contribution & the rest of us had to pay full price. Another member of the group had the exact same voucher & we could have used hers if we had known
  1. There are text messages where the group discussed the maths & agreed to £12 extra each & Anne did not dispute this & in fact thumbs up emoji’d it. Her excuse for this is she didn’t read the messages properly, the thumbs up was a mistake / she didn’t do it deliberately / know it was there & she is bad at maths anyway so tuned out!

So am I being unreasonable to think Anne is a cheeky fucker & deliberately mislead us? If we had stuck to the original plan then Anne would have had to pay £100 but this way she pays nothing & the rest of us an extra £40!!

Just to be clear, this voucher was one of those promotional email ones that are sent to those on the company’s mailing list, it wasn’t a voucher that had any monetary value or was a gift to her which would be different & like I said, another member had the exact same voucher which she was happy for us to use instead if we had known this is what Anne was doing.

OP posts:
BerylFeatures · 19/05/2022 22:04

Yes I agree. Tell her to return it and then buy the cheaper one.

SpaceMaaaaan · 19/05/2022 22:05

Any bad feeling would only come from Annie and she's the one who had caused this and is relying on it causing bad feeling if you objected.

ventreàterre · 19/05/2022 22:07

That is beyond cheeky. Everyone should pay just the £112 previously agreed to. Anne's not in any worse condition. Well, except that now everyone in the group knows she's shameless and will think less of her.

JessesMum777888 · 19/05/2022 22:09

Anne is a dick head.

whynotwhatknot · 19/05/2022 22:09

i dont understand the bad maths comment-she knew exactly what she was doing

and why one of the group wants to pay for everyones share to keep the peace-so anne still doesnt pay anything-dont let that happen

MooFroo · 19/05/2022 22:13

If CF Anne has paid, trader just the £112 otherwise 4 people have paid. Cope and paste the working out in this thread to show her how the payment works

cheeky beeeyatch!!

Needanewadventure2021 · 19/05/2022 22:13

I laughed at this. But only because I cannot believe someone can have the audacity to do this. And a so called friend! Some people shock me. Tell her to shove the coffee machine up her arse and I'd reconsider how much of a friend she really is.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 19/05/2022 22:14

What a CF extraordinaire!

With hindsight, it's a shame you couldn't all have replied to her asking for £140 each with a thumbs up, making her think she'd got away with it, and then send her the £112. If she then dared to quibble it, oops, it looks like she isn't the only one who replies with a thumbs up to messages that she's 'misread'.

At the very least, if you did end up paying the £560 between the four of you, I'd make it very clear to your friend: "Yes, Beryl, Claire, Debbie and Ethel clubbed together to buy you this special present - and Anne kindly insisted on ordering it on our behalf as her token contribution".

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 19/05/2022 22:18

Anne is a dick head.

Yes, Enid Blyton also made an unbelievable basic maths error when naming her character group - she should have realised that it was only The Famous Four, as Anne and Dick were actually the same person Grin

Dutchesss · 19/05/2022 22:20

Get your other friend to send Anne their 20% off voucher and split as planned.
Anne should be ashamed.

WimbyAce · 19/05/2022 22:20

Has anyone in the whatsapp group actually responded to Anne yet? Like what the hell Anne, are you having a laugh?! I mean is she actually genuine and not having a joke that she pays nothing?

StCharlotte · 19/05/2022 22:25

"That's not how it works Anne, here's my £112."

winterchills · 19/05/2022 22:29

Anne's a right cheeky cow!!!

chubbachub · 19/05/2022 22:30

Anne's at it again.

Just send £112

Alovelydayatlast · 19/05/2022 22:32

Next birthday for Anne she gets a Costa voucher...

Pickabearanybear · 19/05/2022 22:33

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Bollindger · 19/05/2022 22:35

Just realised how to put it too her,
We all agreed to pay £112 for this gift, now you can either accept this amount, or YOU can return the item at your own cost and we will repurchase the item

SquishyGloopyBum · 19/05/2022 22:36

Do not cave in for an easy life. That's how CF get away with it.

Either return or just pay the £112.

Hatinafield · 19/05/2022 22:37

”We all (including you) agreed the purchase at £112 each Anne. We can either go ahead and transfer you that amount still, or you can return the item and we will go back to Plan A and purchase x item from y supplier for £z each.”

Harrysutton · 19/05/2022 22:38

Yep £112 or return. What a brass neck.

Worriednow21 · 19/05/2022 22:44

Wow Anne is a CF, she seriously expects a free 20% off voucher to be her share. Tell her to send it back as you all won't be paying the £140 she's asked for.

Shookspeared · 19/05/2022 22:44

Give Anne the other friend’s 20% off voucher and all pay the £112

Conniebanana · 19/05/2022 22:46

I'd see if I could get a voucher for 20% and ask Anne for her money.
Seriously though, In no way would I excuse this. Her paying zero is insane

SomersetONeil · 19/05/2022 22:48

Anne is counting on everyone to not want to make a fuss or create at atmosphere when the bday girl is clearly unwell.

I can see how this will pan out - and that’s that Her Royal CFness will get away with it.

I hope each friend is worth the £140 that she’s throwing them under the bus for.

billy1966 · 19/05/2022 22:48

OP,

Whatever you decide, you now know that Anne is so vulgar as to try and screw her friend group out of her contribution towards a thoughtful gift for an ill friend.

She has after years of being a CF just put a £ value on her friendship with the group.

To save £112, she has mortified herself.

Life is too short to spend around people like that.