Cheeky Fucker - Group Gift

[TulaOfDarkWater]

Friendship group of six. One member has a birthday coming up & the other five people decided to get together & buy her a big ticket item.

Site A sells the item for £500 so £100 per person, everyone agreed & was happy with this.

Site B has a deluxe version for £700 so £140 per person, everyone agreed this was out of budget & unanimously decided to go with the £500 option from site A.

Just before the item could be purchased, a member of the group, let’s call her Anne, said she had a 20% off voucher for site B which was due to expire soon & it would be silly to waste it so how about we use it to buy the deluxe version & pay a little extra as birthday girl has had a shitty time of it lately etc.

In the group chat, we discussed:

£700 - 20% = £560

£560 / 5 = £112 per person

Anne thumbs up emoji liked this message!

Everyone agreed they could stretch to the £12 extra & it was decided that we would buy the deluxe item from Site B. The ONLY reason we agreed to this was due to the discount voucher, everyone was happy to purchase from site A otherwise.

Anne purchased the item using the voucher & sent everyone her bank details asking for £140. When this was queried, Anne said the 20% voucher represented her 1/5 contribution & so everyone else owes £140.

1. Anne knows the reason the £700 option was vetoed in the first place was because everyone - including Anne - agreed £140 was out of budget

1. At no time did Anne say the 20% voucher was her contribution & the rest of us had to pay full price. Another member of the group had the exact same voucher & we could have used hers if we had known

1. There are text messages where the group discussed the maths & agreed to £12 extra each & Anne did not dispute this & in fact thumbs up emoji’d it. Her excuse for this is she didn’t read the messages properly, the thumbs up was a mistake / she didn’t do it deliberately / know it was there & she is bad at maths anyway so tuned out!

So am I being unreasonable to think Anne is a cheeky fucker & deliberately mislead us? If we had stuck to the original plan then Anne would have had to pay £100 but this way she pays nothing & the rest of us an extra £40!!

Just to be clear, this voucher was one of those promotional email ones that are sent to those on the company’s mailing list, it wasn’t a voucher that had any monetary value or was a gift to her which would be different & like I said, another member had the exact same voucher which she was happy for us to use instead if we had known this is what Anne was doing.

I worked with an Anne like this. For a secret Santa gift she gave a leaflet offering a free month Netflix. It was a leaflet from a magazine that was everywhere. She said it was a great present as it could be used to watch films worth 50£. Absolutely awful behaviour. Wonder if it’s the same Anne.

I would not let her get away with that, so cheeky. I’d either pay the £112 or suggest she returns it and order again with your other friends code or if you want to avoid drama (as much as possible) just say you can’t afford £140 and didn’t realise that’s what you would be paying, let’s return it and buy the cheaper one for £100 each.

That’s so cheeky!

No way she's a Liberty taker I'd send her £112 and no more. X

Anne is an asshat. I’d call her out explicitly. “So, to be clear, Anne, you offered this voucher you got for free so you could pay nothing towards the gift? That’s what you think is fair, is it?” 🤔

Hold firm and then edge Anne out of the group. What a horrible thing to do.

Anne needs to be confronted! Perhaps just by one of you rather than the whole group.

Definitely this!! ⬆️ Cheeky f*cker!!

What an amount to pay or not, depending on how this goes for a friendship. Anne obviously puts no value on the friendship of the 5 of you. Really sad tbh.

Wow 🙀🙀

Play dumb and reply something like:

Anne, I'm completely lost here. We all agreed that £140 would be too much each to pay, which is why we didn't go for version B and agreed on £100 each for version 1, so there's no way that we would have agreed to split the £560 between 4 of us with you paying nothing. Is this what you're suggesting- that the 4 off us pay £140 each while you use your email promotion to pay nothing toward the gift, because I'm really confused when we'd already decided that was above our maximum budget.

Put it to her like that, how can she argue it?

I would simply write “You’ve got to be fucking kidding me!”

*Also, don’t explain why. She knows what she’s doing. She’s been allowed to get away with it so far.

Any chance you can find a 20% off code and tell her you had one too , why does she get to benefit financially ?

Good luck OP.
Hope it all works out.

That’s a hell of a lot of money for a friend’s birthday.

Send the £112 you agreed to, but only after you've seen evidence that she's actually bought the deluxe version and not the cheaper version.

Well as Anne has already paid for the item, she is atm out of pocket. So you all hold all the cards!

She may well end up with no money from any of you and £560 down if you all decide on buying individual gifts for Birthday Girl now to "keep the peace"

@whynotwhatknot I think what we're getting at is that she definitely knew what she was doing but she mistakenly assumed a 20% discount would mean she wouldn't pay and the others would still pay £112 which is why she thumbs upped it - the idiot couldn't do maths and is now backtracking once she realised it would lead the others having to pay £140.

Honestly can’t believe her cheek!

Eww, Anne sounds slimy as fuck. Honestly, I'd pay the £112 and drop her immediately. And cross the road if I see her. Why would anyone be friends with such a fraud?

This. It would serve the bugger right. What a shitty thing to do.

Eww, Anne sounds slimy as fuck. Honestly, I'd pay the £112 and drop her immediately. And cross the road if I see her. Why would anyone be friends with such a fraud?

^Completely agree, I wouldn’t want to be friends anymore with Anne.