I have an 8 month old baby. I am just getting back into running post baby. On holiday recently I returned from a run wearing tight running shorts and a vest, and my gran said to my aunty - "look isn't she enormous!".
I was pretty taken aback to be honest and sharply said what do you mean to which she laughed and said nothing.
I know for a fact I'm not 'enormous' as I'm 5'5 and weigh 54kg. However I have a history of restrictive eating so I have been much much lighter than this in the past - so probably compared to the stick I used to be maybe I am enormous. I'm proud of getting my body to a place where I have been able to have a baby, and had been finding confidence in my new body - but her words ring in my ears and I don't want it to make me go down the route of restrictive eating again.
Should I raise it with her and ask what she meant and why she said it? She's 100 and I don't want to upset her, in every other way she's lovely and I don't know why she felt the need to say it.
Or should I just work on forgetting and move on? Am I being unreasonable to be annoyed by this?
AIBU?
To be annoyed at being called enormous
Howenormous · 19/05/2022 16:21
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLLongLiveThyKing · 19/05/2022 17:09
I can completely relate OP I have a 7 month old baby and I’m 5’6 and 52KG but have a history of eating disorders and because I didn’t lose all the weight instantly I actually got asked if I was pregnant again! At 6 weeks postpartum! By multiple people! I was only 120lbs 😫 And after a recent family dinner with the OHs family we took a group photo which my MIL sent me over message and I said gosh that is unflattering of me and she replied words to the effect of “don’t be so hard on yourself you have two beautiful DCs” along with comments saying that she even thought my SIL looked fat and she’s never thought that. This struck me hard, and even though it was weeks ago I haven’t been able to forget it as all I could think is she thinks I’m fat and she thinks I’m ugly (if she believed that truly hideous picture of me to be representative of how I look and my children to be my only redeeming feature).
I think when you are a skinny person people get so used to the underweight -and probably the really unhappy, not eating etc - version of you that they see you now at a healthy weight and you are “enormous”. It sucks but I’d just focus on being healthy for you and your baby, you know your weight is healthy and petite so I think ignoring the negative comments is the way forward. And well done for getting back to running so soon!
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