I have an 8 month old baby. I am just getting back into running post baby. On holiday recently I returned from a run wearing tight running shorts and a vest, and my gran said to my aunty - "look isn't she enormous!".
I was pretty taken aback to be honest and sharply said what do you mean to which she laughed and said nothing.
I know for a fact I'm not 'enormous' as I'm 5'5 and weigh 54kg. However I have a history of restrictive eating so I have been much much lighter than this in the past - so probably compared to the stick I used to be maybe I am enormous. I'm proud of getting my body to a place where I have been able to have a baby, and had been finding confidence in my new body - but her words ring in my ears and I don't want it to make me go down the route of restrictive eating again.
Should I raise it with her and ask what she meant and why she said it? She's 100 and I don't want to upset her, in every other way she's lovely and I don't know why she felt the need to say it.
Or should I just work on forgetting and move on? Am I being unreasonable to be annoyed by this?
AIBU?
To be annoyed at being called enormous
Howenormous · 19/05/2022 16:21
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLParkperson00 · 20/05/2022 11:35
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Clymene (2022-05-19 15:34:31):
Just ignore it. You're slim. If she says anything again, ask if she thinks she's beginning to suffer with dementia.
Johnnysgirl · 20/05/2022 11:42
You sound so aggressive, Clymene
We're talking about a 100 year old person here...
Mally100 · 19/05/2022 16:26
Yanbu that was a horrible thing to say given you've had a baby. I'm 5'4 and weigh 54kg and I'm a petite size 8 so there is no way that you are enormous, let alone in any way overweight. So what if she's 100, she should know better at her age! I would definitely say something as she will probably do it again.
AffIt · 19/05/2022 23:07
Maybe I'm just a cynic, but are there bits of this story that don't add up?
5'5" and weigh less than 9st... yes, fair, it's on the lighter side, but not impossible. Lots of people are naturally slim.
Called 'enormous' even though on the lighter side - again, we live in a shitty society that views women as commodities, so not entirely a million miles away from the truth.
To a woman who has a very young child, so 45 at probably the absolute widest margin, by a gran, who's 100...
Um. Rly?
Parkperson00 · 20/05/2022 13:56
@Clymene I don't think many people would respond by calling a very elderly lady a 'cunt' in real life. It is horribly aggressive and ageist
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