I have an 8 month old baby. I am just getting back into running post baby. On holiday recently I returned from a run wearing tight running shorts and a vest, and my gran said to my aunty - "look isn't she enormous!".
I was pretty taken aback to be honest and sharply said what do you mean to which she laughed and said nothing.
I know for a fact I'm not 'enormous' as I'm 5'5 and weigh 54kg. However I have a history of restrictive eating so I have been much much lighter than this in the past - so probably compared to the stick I used to be maybe I am enormous. I'm proud of getting my body to a place where I have been able to have a baby, and had been finding confidence in my new body - but her words ring in my ears and I don't want it to make me go down the route of restrictive eating again.
Should I raise it with her and ask what she meant and why she said it? She's 100 and I don't want to upset her, in every other way she's lovely and I don't know why she felt the need to say it.
Or should I just work on forgetting and move on? Am I being unreasonable to be annoyed by this?
AIBU?
To be annoyed at being called enormous
Howenormous · 19/05/2022 16:21
Am I being unreasonable?
377 votes. Final results.
POLLAffIt · 19/05/2022 23:07
Maybe I'm just a cynic, but are there bits of this story that don't add up?
5'5" and weigh less than 9st... yes, fair, it's on the lighter side, but not impossible. Lots of people are naturally slim.
Called 'enormous' even though on the lighter side - again, we live in a shitty society that views women as commodities, so not entirely a million miles away from the truth.
To a woman who has a very young child, so 45 at probably the absolute widest margin, by a gran, who's 100...
Um. Rly?
Longdistance · 20/05/2022 06:24
‘Gran, you should’ve gone to SpecSavers!’
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Parkperson00 · 20/05/2022 10:07
This reminds of a poster on here who left her baby with her 98 year old great Nan and then complained that her great nan fell asleep when looking after the baby . Some posters are completely unrealistic about their expectations of really elderly people. As for the posters who suggest the OP accuse her 100 year old grandmother of dementia, unbelievably unkind.
It is a common response to MILS on here. Truck them into thinking they have dementia, an incurable terminal disease. Can you imagine being annoyed with a friend and trying to suggest to her that she had breast cancer?
Some very thoughtless and cruel posters on this thread.
MN posters constantly request special consideration because they are hormonal or pregnant or have PND or are struggling with motherhood. Perhaps the same consideration should be shown for someone who is very very old?
Parkperson00 · 20/05/2022 10:50
Calling a 100 year old woman who makes a thoughtless remark a 'cunt' is pretty nasty. I hope you are never involved in care work.
Last time there were suggestions about suggesting someone elderly had a terminal illness like dementia, I forwarded a link with the thread to Age Concern who campaign for the rights of the elderly. They were pretty shocked. Hopefully most posters on MN are kind, decent people and not people who throw abusive terms such as ´cunt' at a centenarian
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