I have an 8 month old baby. I am just getting back into running post baby. On holiday recently I returned from a run wearing tight running shorts and a vest, and my gran said to my aunty - "look isn't she enormous!".
I was pretty taken aback to be honest and sharply said what do you mean to which she laughed and said nothing.
I know for a fact I'm not 'enormous' as I'm 5'5 and weigh 54kg. However I have a history of restrictive eating so I have been much much lighter than this in the past - so probably compared to the stick I used to be maybe I am enormous. I'm proud of getting my body to a place where I have been able to have a baby, and had been finding confidence in my new body - but her words ring in my ears and I don't want it to make me go down the route of restrictive eating again.
Should I raise it with her and ask what she meant and why she said it? She's 100 and I don't want to upset her, in every other way she's lovely and I don't know why she felt the need to say it.
Or should I just work on forgetting and move on? Am I being unreasonable to be annoyed by this?
AIBU?
To be annoyed at being called enormous
Howenormous · 19/05/2022 16:21
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLDiscovereads · 19/05/2022 16:29
YANBU to be annoyed, but I’d not mention it. At 100yrs old, she’s probably senile and so has regressed to having the tact of a toddler.
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GregBrawlsInDogJail · 19/05/2022 16:28
I don't think there's much to be gained from raising this with a person who is 100. Most likely her empathy is blunted and her impulse control poorer these days as her brain ages. Most likely she meant you're larger than she remembers you being when you were unhealthily small.
Hold on to the good place you're in and let it go.
Somuddled · 19/05/2022 16:36
It was an unkind thing to say but I'm not sure why you want to ask her what she meant. Surely it's is really clear. She meant that she thinks you look big.
Keeping in mind that when she was in her 20s and 30s the accepted view was that womens main value way how they looked. So I would either ignore entirely or if I did feel I had to say something it would be more along the lines of explaning to her that I felt pleased that the world isnt quite as terrible for women now on that front and if she still hold thoes views, I'm not interested in hearing them.
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