AIBU to ask for money in postnup despite being a high earner?

[dillydally24]

I have been married for several years and am a full-time working mum of two (one toddler, one baby). My husband brought a lot of assets to the marriage (about £3m), the result of years of hard work. I brought assets too, but a fraction of that amount. Before marrying, I signed a prenup which left me with half the share of assets generated during our marriage. I am now asking to have that prenup replaced by a more generous postnup, as, if we were to divorce now, the settlement outlined in the prenup would leave me with assets of about £500k, of which about £300k would be my own savings. £500k is a lot, I know, but wouldn't be enough to buy a house in our local area where 4-bed houses cost £1.5m. I am asking for more, but my husband says I don't need it because my earnings have taken off since we married (I now make about £500k a year gross of tax) and I can afford to take out a big mortgage to make up the shortfall. AIBU to ask for more? I just want enough to buy a home for me and the kids without having to stress about a massive mortgage. He makes roughly the same amount of money a year as me.

Your situation is too complicated to be addressed here. You should get advice and not sign anything until you have. A court would consider the children first and the couple second. They are young and would usually - but not always - be bought up by the mother as primary carer. The court would expect a negotiated financial settlement but will impose one if necessary. It sounds like you already have disagreement on what is reasonable for you/your children, so all the more important to get professional advice.

High incomes generally drive high outgoings, so your problems will feel as real to you as they would to those with lower incomes. Mediation is likely to be required, too. Even if it is aimed at splitting.