AIBU to think work isn’t working for us?

[Workingisntworkingforme]

When I had a baby, it never really crossed my mind I wouldn’t work but now I’m in the position where my life is extremely stressful. I’m not necessarily looking for advice on managing that stress, but I would be interested in peoples thoughts.

DS is 17 months and I’m concerned about him. He’s never slept through and frequently refuses to go to bed until late, won’t go back in his cot after waking which happens around midnight after bed at 9, up at 6.

I look awful. I’ve aged ten years in the last 9 months. It’s really taken a toll on me.

Im not doing a brilliant job at work either because of this, I am only just keeping my head above water.

DS is ridiculously clingy because (I think) he doesn’t see enough of me in the week. I go to the toilet he has a tantrum … I do a lot with him but that in itself is so so tiring.

I am really thinking work isn’t working for my family. And I am thinking of the family as a whole here.

I know I’ll get flamed as a lot of you manage it but I’m only talking about me here.

I also had a child that wouldn't settle for my husband despite repeated attempts. She was obsessed with breastfeeding and has always been glued to me.

Instead, he did all night wakings with our older child, got both children up in the morning and out to childcare, effort I started in bed, and took on more of the house chores etc, to try to balance this in a way that he could.

The problem here isn't your child waking up lots, that's pretty common at his age still, it's that your are juggling everything pretty much by yourself.

If you are both working full time, then everything else should be shared equally.