He snores. He isn't overweight but has a significant family history of sleep apnea which he refuses to acknowledge.
We have a spare room with a double bed and it's always made up. I tend to sleep in there. He complained that this left him with the lion's share of kids wake ups, which is true, so I suggested we take turns. We do generally take turns but he's getting increasingly annoyed at it. He wants to share a bed. I want some fucking sleep.
I've agreed to share a bed if he goes to the doctor's about his snoring. He refuses. He doesn't believe it's that bad despite me recording him and others commenting.
He says I need to "get over it" and just go to sleep. I can't. I'm an incredibly light sleeper and after 6 years of broken sleep from kids I just can't cope anymore and I've been really enjoying getting full night's sleep.
When we do share a bed (on holiday or if we have guests) I wear custom made ear plugs which help but they hurt my ears after a while and I can't wear them every night.
Aibu or is he?
Our sex life is fine and we have plenty of contact/ intimacy outside of the bedroom.
AIBU?
To not want to sleep in the same bed as my husband?
Thebeastofsleep · 16/05/2022 20:44
Am I being unreasonable?
667 votes. Final results.
POLLSurfsupsidedown · 16/05/2022 20:49
Boo hoo to him
Agree with pp you could alternate who sleeps in the main bedroom
but if you’re a light sleeper who come wakes up and you don’?’t?
Thebeastofsleep · 16/05/2022 20:58
That is what we currently do and he isn't happy.
floofycroissant · 16/05/2022 21:01
Can you discuss sharing for the night with the agreement that you will wake him up repeatedly whenever his snoring wakes you? I don't see how that alongside recorded proof he would still minimise how much this is affecting you. In fact it'd be really worrying - is he this uncaring in other ways? Why is he in such denial?
Sexnotgender · 16/05/2022 21:02
Why is he not happy?
Is he usually so selfish?
Thebeastofsleep · 16/05/2022 20:58
That is what we currently do and he isn't happy.
Thebeastofsleep · 16/05/2022 21:04
I've already done this. He gets really really annoyed at being constantly woken and just says I need to get over it, stop being so sensitive.
floofycroissant · 16/05/2022 21:01
Can you discuss sharing for the night with the agreement that you will wake him up repeatedly whenever his snoring wakes you? I don't see how that alongside recorded proof he would still minimise how much this is affecting you. In fact it'd be really worrying - is he this uncaring in other ways? Why is he in such denial?
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