He snores. He isn't overweight but has a significant family history of sleep apnea which he refuses to acknowledge.
We have a spare room with a double bed and it's always made up. I tend to sleep in there. He complained that this left him with the lion's share of kids wake ups, which is true, so I suggested we take turns. We do generally take turns but he's getting increasingly annoyed at it. He wants to share a bed. I want some fucking sleep.
I've agreed to share a bed if he goes to the doctor's about his snoring. He refuses. He doesn't believe it's that bad despite me recording him and others commenting.
He says I need to "get over it" and just go to sleep. I can't. I'm an incredibly light sleeper and after 6 years of broken sleep from kids I just can't cope anymore and I've been really enjoying getting full night's sleep.
When we do share a bed (on holiday or if we have guests) I wear custom made ear plugs which help but they hurt my ears after a while and I can't wear them every night.
Aibu or is he?
Our sex life is fine and we have plenty of contact/ intimacy outside of the bedroom.
AIBU?
To not want to sleep in the same bed as my husband?
Thebeastofsleep · 16/05/2022 20:44
Am I being unreasonable?
667 votes. Final results.
POLLfloofycroissant · 16/05/2022 21:14
Wow, that's actually shocking. He has no respect for your feelings. Sleep deprivation can have massive heath implications. How does his minimising make you feel?
Have either of you ever tried monitoring your sleep? I'd be really interested in the quality of his. It might surprise him too.
Is he normally quite stroppy when he doesn't get his own way? I don't really get why he's so intent on you sharing the bed, is he just quite traditional, or is it a move towards wanting more sex?
floofycroissant · 16/05/2022 21:15
Honestly I'd find his behaviour a massive turn off.
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Cherrysoup · 16/05/2022 22:25
My parents were like fucking bandsaws, their bed was head to head with mine. Shocking.
Are you starting off together or do you go straight to separate rooms? I start with my Dh then invariably move about 2am, I don’t sleep well. I’d say alternate rooms but after you’ve done all the baby wakings, I don’t see why he can’t take his turn.
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