Women "blank" pregnant woman on train, while men expected to rise to give seat (embarrassing double standards?)

[CurvyBirdy]

Today a heavily pregnant woman got on a full train.

3 women saw her (eyes went back down to the ground)
3 men saw her, all in unison immediately rose.

This is really embarrassing behaviour - AIMU

I am a little old white haired lady. I always give up my seat to anyone who is pregnant?carrying a child/disabled. Then I give the stony evil eye stare to the nearest able bodied male until he gives up his seat to me. It never fails.

I have found far far more women offering a seat when I was pregnant and helping with a buggy then men!

Always a ‘my nanna gave birth on a farm threw the baby over her shoulder and carried on working for 14hours….’ thrown in.
Mumsnet users really do hate pregnant women on here.

I was heavily pregnant and on crutches as severe spd pretty much everyone offered me a seat! Londoners way better than Parisians for this.

On MN everyone has a hidden disability

You are being unreasonable because according to Mumsnet everything can be blamed on the menz.

I see this constantly unless there is a massively disproportionate number of disabled women who happen to use trains where I live. Where women demand equally but still expect men to be chivalrous.

I remember getting a commuter train when I was about 6 months pregnant. I had a seat then a lady got on who was close to term and had a toddler with her as well.
Someone called out 'pregnant lady needs a seat' and all the male commuters hid behind their Times and pretended not to hear. After 20 seconds I stood up and said 'here, you need it more than I do' at which point a man did finally give up his seat.

I'm now of the view that Surrey's men are just SHABBY!

completely different on the tube though. I think I was offered a seat most mornings.

When I was pregnant the only people who offered me seats were women. It really just depends on the people you’re around.

I still remember the tall, smartly dressed woman on the tube who got my attention and said “I can get you a seat” (she was also standing), and looked around with such confidence that two people jumped up to offer me a seat. I felt like I had been taken under her wing! 😂
If you’re out there, mystery woman, that meant so much to me!

They are obligated if they’ve chosen to sit in the priority seat but don’t have a good reason to be there. Far better I tap someone on the shoulder to get a seat than stay standing and faint or puke.

Perhaps you/the pregnant woman should’ve opened your/their mouth to actually ask for a seat

YABVU you have no idea why specific women didn’t offer to stand

@Oscarthedog

absolutely agree.

I offer my seat to pregnant women. Even when I was on crutches with a dislocated kneecap! Another commuter looked mortified & offered her his seat instead!

Interesting. I find the exact opposite.

Same. I stood up once to give a pregnant woman my seat on the tube and some little shit about a third my age shot into it. He obviously had little experience of older women because he looked petrified when I told him to get out of it immediately because I hadn’t stood up for him. In my experience it’s usually women who offer their seat.

Maybe the women thought that the men should "be kind" for a change. You got a seat. Why does it matter who gave up theirs?

I got the tube to work throughout both of my pregnancies and found the opposite to be true. Also if men did offer, it was rarely the suited banker types, usually the builders in paint splattered clothes or the hard looking tattooed men with beards. I certainly learned not to judge a book by its cover when living in London!

Also when I was pregnant myself I often gave my seat to other pregnant women or elderly people as I was OK standing.

You don’t know their personal circumstances. I have epilepsy and sometimes have absence seizures in public. Following one of those, I have to sit down or I’d fall over. I might not look disabled but I wouldn’t be able to give my seat up to anyone, including another disabled or pregnant person. I need to just sit and regain my strength, balance and cognition.

As has been said, YABU to assume these women are able to stand.

I also remember last year in the maternity department- it was so overcrowded. Men were sitting I. Seats and heavily pregnant women were standing! It irritated me to no end, one of the midwives came out and told them to get lost, one time.

Not just men, rude people in general. But there's something particular irritating seeing men sitting in a women's health unit at the expense of women

When I was pregnant travelling on London buses, I was often offered a seat by men and women. Actually, when I was travelling by train with toddler DD, a woman offered us her seat. I must look weak.

OP if women had stood and not men youd have got very different responses.

Attitudes like this make me worry about society! Pregnancy is not a disability and yes it's a choice but when did people stop giving a shit about others? I hope I'm leading by example when it comes to raising my children, because if my son or daughter grow up with an attitude like yours I'd consider myself a failure as a parent and would be totally ashamed.