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Wearing white to a wedding

117 replies

Hiimblahblah · 15/05/2022 21:30

Went to a friends wedding yesterday, and one of the guests was there in a white dress. I've never seen this before and was a bit baffled by it! I thought this was a big no-no?

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Dinotastic · 15/05/2022 21:32

Only unreasonable if the bride is wearing white!

Youdoyoutoday · 15/05/2022 21:33

It's wrong!

Knockoneofftheshelftowin · 15/05/2022 21:34

Most weddings I've been to there have been guests in white.
Two weddings recently, one I attended, the bride's mothers wore white.
Its not bad etiquette anymore.

Cakecakecheese · 15/05/2022 21:35

Was it plain white? Was the bride wearing white? If yes then that does seem like a very odd choice.

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 15/05/2022 21:36

My sister wore her wedding dress to my wedding. I didnt mind because I was CLEARLY the bride, she asked me before and paired it with very non bridal accessories.

Palavah · 15/05/2022 21:37

I find it bizarre. There's just no need - plenty of other colours to choose from.

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Hiimblahblah · 15/05/2022 21:37

Dinotastic · 15/05/2022 21:32

Only unreasonable if the bride is wearing white!

But, they wouldn't have known if the bride would be wearing white until they seen her, and by then it's too late? 🤔

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artisanbread · 15/05/2022 21:39

Just white, no. Pattern on a white background is fine though. I wore a white dress with big yellow flowers to a wedding last year. I was a bit worried beforehand but once I got there it was obvious how non-bridal I looked and there were many guests wearing similar.

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Hiimblahblah · 15/05/2022 21:39

Cakecakecheese · 15/05/2022 21:35

Was it plain white? Was the bride wearing white? If yes then that does seem like a very odd choice.

The bride and the guest were in white, yes.

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NashvilleQueen · 15/05/2022 21:40

I wouldn't care unless it was obviously bridal and twinned with a veil or a train. She may have checked in advance. It's really none of your business

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Hiimblahblah · 15/05/2022 21:40

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 15/05/2022 21:36

My sister wore her wedding dress to my wedding. I didnt mind because I was CLEARLY the bride, she asked me before and paired it with very non bridal accessories.

Hold on......your sister wore her wedding dress to your wedding??!! Was this agreed upon beforehand??? 🤯🤯

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loobylou10 · 15/05/2022 21:42

@Knockoneofftheshelftowin it really is still bad etiquette! The brides mother wearing white is totally different to a general wedding guest wearing white. Loads of other colours to chose from - wear one of those.

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Hiimblahblah · 15/05/2022 21:43

NashvilleQueen · 15/05/2022 21:40

I wouldn't care unless it was obviously bridal and twinned with a veil or a train. She may have checked in advance. It's really none of your business

There's always one......🙄🙄

Since when was it unacceptable to ask a question about something you're curious about online? 🤨🤨 I'm assuming you've worn white to a wedding, so you're touchy about the subject?

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NashvilleQueen · 15/05/2022 21:49

I haven't been to a wedding in about two decades but no I've never worn white. I'm far too fat to get away with a white dress.

There's a ridiculous obsession on MN about wedding wear that I just never see in real life. There's a massive difference between some spurned admirer dressed up like it's her big day and hoping to upstage the bridge and someone just wearing a white dress. I honestly wouldn't give it a second thought.

Somuddled · 15/05/2022 21:50

I've worn white to a wedding and I wouldn't have cared if someone wore white to my wedding. You'd have to be thick as shit to not know who the bride was or to feel that a particular colour could upstage the bride and groom. Not a big deal at all.

Knockoneofftheshelftowin · 15/05/2022 21:50

loobylou10.

To be fair it might be in your environment but not in mine.

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Hiimblahblah · 15/05/2022 21:52

Somuddled · 15/05/2022 21:50

I've worn white to a wedding and I wouldn't have cared if someone wore white to my wedding. You'd have to be thick as shit to not know who the bride was or to feel that a particular colour could upstage the bride and groom. Not a big deal at all.

If you didn't care that's fine, but the bride who's wedding you attended might have? 🤨

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LakieLady · 15/05/2022 21:53

I'm with @loobylou10 on this: it's bad form.

GarlicGnocchi · 15/05/2022 21:54

I find it odd. There's no need for it.

TheSmallAssassin · 15/05/2022 21:55

I don't get the outrage, really. How can anyone "upstage" the bride and groom? Literally everyone at the wedding knows who they are and is there to celebrate their union.

cottagegardenflower · 15/05/2022 21:56

I've always found it bizarre to not wear whatever colour, including white, to a wedding. Provided it's not tulle and lace, of course no one will confuse you with the bride. Bloody silly imo.

BetterDaysareComming · 15/05/2022 21:57

I wore white to a wedding once. Didn't realise it was frowned upon until someone asked me why I chose to wear that colour dress.

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Hiimblahblah · 15/05/2022 21:57

cottagegardenflower · 15/05/2022 21:56

I've always found it bizarre to not wear whatever colour, including white, to a wedding. Provided it's not tulle and lace, of course no one will confuse you with the bride. Bloody silly imo.

Unless you're @StrictlyAFemaleFemale and your sister wears a wedding dress to your wedding 😅

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FuckingNoise · 15/05/2022 21:58

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 15/05/2022 21:36

My sister wore her wedding dress to my wedding. I didnt mind because I was CLEARLY the bride, she asked me before and paired it with very non bridal accessories.

Lol whaaaaat?! This is mental!! 🤣

happypineapples · 15/05/2022 21:59

Unless it looks like a wedding dress I don't see the issue. I've never bought a white dress and been concerned that people might think I was getting married in it Hmm