No photos of new house

[beetuljoos]

DP and I are in the process of renovating our home. Huge job, big changes, lots of effort involved. Very proud of the result. DP is absolutely adamant I cannot put any photos of it on my private instagram account (maybe 200 followers, all people I know). I want to share a few snapshots of it. I don't mean constantly, but share a before/after of a finished room once we complete one perhaps. Is he right?

He's right. As harsh as it sounds nobody cares about your renovations other than you, and to splash it online makes it look like you're bragging.

I must live in an alternate universe to most people on here as I don't know anyone IRL who would object to something like this.

There's always someone on my friends list that's renovating their home and garden, and I love seeing all the differences and the photos of their new places.

If OP wants to share on a private social media account, I really can't see why anyone else would object. She doesn't need to tag her DH in it or link it to his profile in anyway.

he's obviously private, nothing wrong with that.

@User354354 - that's so rude!! I love seeing before and after pics of houses. I'd be interested.

Loads of people are looking for decor inspo on Insta/Pinterest too.

why do you need him to approve what you post on your social media?

I thought it was just home pictures he has an issue with?

I’m with DP on this.

I am with your DH. My friend's niece recently bought a house with her boyfriend, and she posted pics of it on twitter. She said 'my new house!' and put pics of it from the front, and a few of the inside. A totally random man who she didn't follow and didn't follow her, said 'hello Jenny from 3 Willow Close, Milton Keynes....' with the postcode and everything.

She was so freaked out she deactivated her twitter. He had reverse image searched the outside photo of the house from the front, and it had come up on the estate agent's website, and it didn't take Columbo to track down the EXACT HOUSE.

A public twitter account isn't the same as private social media, though.

I would agree with your dp. Just send some privately via WhatsApp if you must, or even better, invite them around for a house warming once it’s complete

Agreed, it’s a very normal thing to see on social media in my world. I don’t get what’s so ‘private’ about it. Unless you wanted to put a picture up of the bathroom while he’s taking a shit! I love seeing people’s houses and decor, I’m interested in interiors and design and it’s nice to get inspiration for my own place too. I follow some people I’ve never met on insta purely because I like their interior tastes!

I must live in an alternate universe to most people on here as I don't know anyone IRL who would object to something like this.

perhaps it's a generational thing? I send pics to friends of any renovations or in the main just invite them round after.

when i put my house for sale, I didn't have a board though so I guess I'm naturally private.

Would you invite 200 people round and give them a tour of your house, bathrooms and bedrooms included? If not, don't assume they want to see photos of it either.... Sorry.

Can you really not see the difference between posting a photo of a person and the inside of a house

It's not just a house. It's his home. If anything, that's much more intrusive than posting a picture of your partner, actually.

It would never occur to me to send those things privately because IMO it puts pressure on people to reply and pretend to be interested.

Whereas on social media (private account where only people I know IRL can see what I post) people can scroll by if they're not interested, just click "like" or comment if they want. No pressure.

I'm guess I'm just not that fussy about who sees the inside of my house, lol.

I don't see it as this private, personal sanctuary. It's just a house.

Gosh, what an incurious and uninterested friend you must be!

I'm always fascinated (and often inspired and incredibly impressed) by the before and after pictures of renovations and building works my friends have done - especially if they've done lots of the work themselves.

He's right. It's both showing off and an invasion of privacy. Nobody needs to see these photos.

Ah yes. The cardinal Mumsnet sin of 'you must never display any pride or enjoyment about anything positive in your life or that you have achieved, for that is Showing Off and must be put down at all costs.

I can't afford to renovate and have a tiny garden that means that even if we could do the renovation I dream of, it would necessarily be tiny and a total compromise.

Luckily I don't let my own circumstances steal my enjoyment of and interest in the good fortune and hard work of my friends.

Pride and enjoyment doesn't need to involve showing photos to 200 people!

Nobody should post anything on social media, in that case 🙄

I think it’s nice to show the results of your hard work, creativity etc. What’s wrong with that? People show their craft projects on social media . It’s normal. Making something out of nothing, growing something. Transforming something. It’s therapeutic. But if your DH doesn’t want you to, that complicates things.

They don't need to, but they certainly can involve that - why not share things about the parts of your life you're proud of an that bring you interest and joy?

I'm glad people do because I find interest and enjoyment in the achievements of my friends, particularly those I live a long way from and don't get to see that often.

YANBU if you want to post photos on social media then that’s your decision, if he doesn’t want to post on his then he doesn’t need to!
I love looking at photos of house renovations/ home decor. For everyone saying no one wants to see these type of photos, there are thousands of home accounts on Instagram so plenty of people do want to see them.
Id just be careful with hiding address etc.

It would never occur to me to send those things privately because IMO it puts pressure on people to reply and pretend to be interested.

Why would you assume I would just randomly ping off photos? Obviously it would evolve from a conversation 😆

How does putting them on social media not create pressure for your audience though?