No photos of new house

[beetuljoos]

DP and I are in the process of renovating our home. Huge job, big changes, lots of effort involved. Very proud of the result. DP is absolutely adamant I cannot put any photos of it on my private instagram account (maybe 200 followers, all people I know). I want to share a few snapshots of it. I don't mean constantly, but share a before/after of a finished room once we complete one perhaps. Is he right?

I agree with your dh

i have no idea why people want to share their whole lives on Instagram or Facebook, I don’t have either thank god and I don’t get it

were also building our own home. I don’t mind people coming round when it’s finished but I’ve got no reason to put photos up for people I’ve never met to see my own home.

I mean with hackers and stalkers online the. You don’t know who is able to work out where you live.

There is something satisfying about before and after photos, but really the person who gets the most enjoyment from it is you. Make the photos, but just keep them for yourself.

Removing him from your sm so he won't know about pictures? Such a rubbish idea, not only is it disrespecting his wishes and privacy it could be a deal breaker for him in that his dp could be so deceitful.

Not everything need to be shared. He's right.

Blimey, I must have a really odd set of friends as most people I know share their home renovations on social media 😂

I'm with you OP - I really don't see why it's such a big deal.

If you want a before and after of each room for your own memories and record, then that's one thing, but other people seeing it would be a no from me. Home's private for both me and my DH. Even if I didn't feel that way I'd respect his opinion.

I like seeing pictures of my friends home renovations/decoration, lots of people do it.

I wouldn’t even think to ask my DHs opinion on this tbh, I’d just do it, why do you need him to approve what you post on your social media?

Weird comparison but meh.

I don't tell my bloke what he can and can't do with his SM. I'm not a controlling twat.

This thread is properly funny though. Continue.

Yeah me too, it’s really normal/common for people I know to do this!

I love seeing people's before and after photos on Facebook (and interim ones if it's a long job). When I moved and renovated my house I put loads of photos up and lots of my friends were interested enough to comment regularly.

Exactly - I find it weirder that OP even asked. I don't need his permission to post stuff on my social media, lol.

It’s a whole thing on Instagram.

I wouldn’t want to put on a personal account as that’s a bit show off (well I don’t even have a personal account!), but my house does have an account.

It’s not linked to us unless you knew us (only a few close family on there). It’s a useful way to follow others for inspiration, advice and document the journey for later reference. I really regretted in the last house how we had loads of photos which are stuck on old iPhones or a 1000 scrolls away.

I don’t just do it for the house. I have a few different hobby/ niche insta accounts and I love them. It’s a great platform for finding communities of people interested in similar things.

So yanbu to want an insta Reno account. Probably unreasonable to merge it with your personal account if dp disapproves.

I mean with hackers and stalkers online the. You don’t know who is able to work out where you live.

I know all the people on my social media, they already know where I live 😆

If anyone leaves their social media open for anyone to see or adds complete randoms then they should know better.

Why weird? Seems totally comparable to me.

I guess if they're the estate agent pics, people might be able to reverse image search them and find the listing and therefore your address.

I don't think there's any risk taking pictures yourself, especially if you don't have any obvious identifiable landmarks outside the window visible...

I can understand sharing the photos with family that perhaps are unable to visit or live a long way away, that's quite a nice update to see what you're getting up to, however to post on social media always seems a little bit boastful even if you don't mean to be and just want to be proud of your achievements.

Can you really not see the difference between posting a photo of a person and the inside of a house after it's been renovated?

It is his home OP
You must respect his request on this
same as if he doesn’t want his children on social media

the fact that you are asking this on here would indicate that the house will eventually be split between you, so will you or he get to live there?! Because not a chance if this issue is causing tension between a couple doesn’t it have long term legs to it

He's got the right to be"controlling" about his own private space.

But it's OP's house too.

Why does he get the final say and get to control what she posts on her own social media?

She should post whatever she wants - and he's then free to make sure the photos aren't visible on his profile, and he can obviously request not to be tagged in them too.

Because when it comes to privacy, social media and your home - that trumps your partner wanting to show it off to her 200 followers for the likes

Seriously who cares ? If you want to parade your own life on social media go ahead, remember tho, half of the home is his so he has a right to say no.

Not controlling in the slightest so the feminist anti men brigade can do one.

Not if it’s someone’s private space, no.

I wouldn’t want photos of my bedroom or bathroom all over the internet. Just send them via WhatsApp if you’re that bothered.

It's his house too. He has a right to keep things off social media if he wants.

My DH isn't keen on social media either and like your DH he doesn't want our newly renovated house on their either.

It's not controlling to say he wants to keep somethings private