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To be annoyed over a tub of egg mayo?

425 replies

Squiff70 · 15/05/2022 12:25

Yesterday morning we went shopping. We got lunch supplies for the next few days. I chose egg mayo as a sandwich filler and DP chose deli meats like chorizo.

I've just come to make lunch and found he's eaten my egg mayo. A full fucking tub. He has been known to pile it high on sandwiches but only after he's asked if we can share. This time he didn't ask.

I can't have deli meats due to being pregnant but I don't like them either, so now I have nothing for lunch. I'm fuming.

He's been in the bathroom for 40 minutes so far and has only just got in the shower. Why do men need to take a half-hour poo in preparation? He'll be at least 20 minutes in the shower than at least another 20 minutes after having a shave, so I can't send him out to get something else for lunch. My parents are coming this afternoon and I need a shower before they arrive. Instead I'm looking after our 2 year old daughter in my dressing gown and feeling grubby as well as hungry.

I also need a wee and we have no other barhroom/toilet so I'm getting very irritated.

AIBU?

OP posts:
RewildingAmbridge · 15/05/2022 13:18

What did your daughter have for lunch? Surely you can have toast or something, why don't you have anything in your house to make a sandwich with other than prepared egg mayo and deli meats?
Yes he was inconsiderate, including having first shower and taking ages, but you're being stubborn. He's offered to go and replace it, but that's not adequate and it might not be what you fancied but there will be something in your house you can eat.

KitKattaktik · 15/05/2022 13:20

Boil an egg. Peel it, chop it up and mix it with mayonnaise. Job done. 🙄

Isaidnoalready · 15/05/2022 13:21

KitKattaktik · 15/05/2022 13:20

Boil an egg. Peel it, chop it up and mix it with mayonnaise. Job done. 🙄

No eggs

FlowerArranger · 15/05/2022 13:21

Capri3 · 15/05/2022 13:15

I thought that the NHS advice was to avoid mayonnaise due to risk of salmonella?

They mean fresh mayonnaise, made with raw egg.

No eggs either as we always end up throwing more away than we actually use.

I don't get this. The smallest quantity of eggs you can buy is 6, and they last for at 2-3 weeks.

Who doesn't use 6 eggs in 3 weeks? Especially since the OP clearly likes egg mayonnaise...

WalkingOnSonshine · 15/05/2022 13:21

He’s been a little unreasonable, but there’s no reason to martyr yourself.

RedHelenB · 15/05/2022 13:22

Squiff70 · 15/05/2022 13:01

Oof. This was meant to be light hearted. Now I remember why people should never start threads in AIBU 🤣

We don't have any mayo (or any spare time today to be making egg mayo) as my parents are coming this afternoon. I haven't seen them since last September. We also don't have any cheese or other meats. No eggs either as we always end up throwing more away than we actually use. Sure, I could have the deli meats that I don't like, and put our unborn baby at risk if I get listeria, but that's clearly besides the point.

He emerged from the bathroom and I told him, calmly, that I was annoyed I couldn't have lunch because he'd eaten the one thing I chose for myself (of course we share food and I don't expect him to ask permission but he knew the circumstances here). He said "fine, I'll go and get you a tub of egg mayo" and picked up the car key. I pointed out that DD was half way through her lunch, wasn't dressed and that he'd have to take her with him so I can have a shower. My parents are coming this afternoon (very soon in fact) so there isn't time for him to faff about for hours whilst I look after DD until he comes back from the supermarket, leaving me no time for a shower OR my lunch. I've just come upstairs and left him sorting DD. He will have to finish her lunch, change her nappy, get her dressed AND take her with him. He isn't happy but only because it means he can't spend the next 90 minutes playing games on his phone just because he was selfish.

But... thanks for the female solidarity ;)

Seriously, do you think single parents never shower? I agree he shouldn't have ate the egg Mayo ( is that any better than deli meats re. salmonella and listeria btw ?) but you are blowing things out of all proportion.

oviraptor21 · 15/05/2022 13:23

Squiff70 · 15/05/2022 13:01

Oof. This was meant to be light hearted. Now I remember why people should never start threads in AIBU 🤣

We don't have any mayo (or any spare time today to be making egg mayo) as my parents are coming this afternoon. I haven't seen them since last September. We also don't have any cheese or other meats. No eggs either as we always end up throwing more away than we actually use. Sure, I could have the deli meats that I don't like, and put our unborn baby at risk if I get listeria, but that's clearly besides the point.

He emerged from the bathroom and I told him, calmly, that I was annoyed I couldn't have lunch because he'd eaten the one thing I chose for myself (of course we share food and I don't expect him to ask permission but he knew the circumstances here). He said "fine, I'll go and get you a tub of egg mayo" and picked up the car key. I pointed out that DD was half way through her lunch, wasn't dressed and that he'd have to take her with him so I can have a shower. My parents are coming this afternoon (very soon in fact) so there isn't time for him to faff about for hours whilst I look after DD until he comes back from the supermarket, leaving me no time for a shower OR my lunch. I've just come upstairs and left him sorting DD. He will have to finish her lunch, change her nappy, get her dressed AND take her with him. He isn't happy but only because it means he can't spend the next 90 minutes playing games on his phone just because he was selfish.

But... thanks for the female solidarity ;)

You were absolutely right OP. I'm glad your DH has accepted this.
Unbelievable the number of posters on this thread who wouldn't have an issue with their lunch being eaten by someone else. I think the poll gives a better idea of who the unreasonable one is.

Qwill · 15/05/2022 13:23

Have some toast, cheese on toast, beans on toast, just butter on toast. It’s a bit odd you’ve invited parents over and you only have one pack of deli meats in the fridge and a now eaten tub of egg mayo. What are you planning to give your child to eat, let alone the rest of the family! I really think you’re making a bit of a drama about it all, female solidarity or not, I’m not a fan of the dramatics.

Blossomtree77 · 15/05/2022 13:24

He was a selfish prick.
you’re being precious and helpless.
he needs to be more considerate, you need to get a grip.

SeemsSoUnfair · 15/05/2022 13:24

Know it is all done now, but you are making a mountain out of a molehill.

You could have had another sandwich or toast if hungry, not ideal or what you wanted but not the end of the world either.

You could have taken dd out of her chair for a minute to have a quick pee.

"Punishing" him is churlish. A reminder it was yours and to be a bit more considerate would have been sufficient if, as you say, he normally asks.

Randommother · 15/05/2022 13:24

I don’t get this, why didn’t you just make yourself some toast instead of all the drama?

Ohmybod · 15/05/2022 13:24

perimenofertility · 15/05/2022 12:59

He’s taking half an hour to poo because all that egg has made him a bit constipated😂

He’s taking half an hour to poo cos the OP is raging and he knows why.

OP he is a thoughtless arse but your hormonal rage is preventing you from sorting this rationally. Deep breaths, make a snack, have your pee, toddler won’t choke, get over this.

Krapom · 15/05/2022 13:25

I felt sorry for you after reading OP, but honestly you’re being really rude to people in the comments who are just trying to be nice and supportive of you. You’re not coming across well in your follow ups. I know you’re irritated but it’s no-one here’s fault!

Athleticpotential · 15/05/2022 13:26

What are you planning to feed your family, including your child and yourself for the rest of the weekend?

ThreeLittleDots · 15/05/2022 13:27

He's a dick for eating your food, wanking for ages in the bathroom and not thinking of anyone but himself. Fair play if he apologises and sorts your lunch though..

Whitney101 · 15/05/2022 13:31

Won’t leave toddler for thirty seconds to pee? Having a second child is going to go terribly.

Enterthedragons · 15/05/2022 13:32

If you looked up ‘pregnancy rage’ in a dictionary you would find this thread 😂

Ive had it 5 times, I fully understand OP.

ExD1938 · 15/05/2022 13:32

It IS possible to pee in a bucket and tip it down the loo later (if you're on the point of wetting yourself) and if your toddler is so young she can't be left for half a minute she's too young to realise what you're doing.
But put your irritation down to hormones and lets look at his irritating behaviour.
Your husband trying to show he's boss when he isn't, which means he's not feeling confident at the moment, eating your food, hogging the bathroom shows this. You are the important one at the moment and he's feeling left out - poor baby. Its a petty childish way of getting one over on you and he's probably feeling pleased with himself for showing he's in control.
But he's not, is he?
You are.
You are the queen, you have the power, only you can perform the magic of birth, so take a breath, calm down and ignore his stupid tantrum and say nothing. Don't let him know he's succeeded in annoying you.
Hope your afternoon goes well.

stuntbubbles · 15/05/2022 13:32

I feel fairly certain the OP knows how to make egg mayo and that instructions on how to do it, and how easy it is, are deliberately missing the point to goad her. It’s the same as the “husband didn’t cook the fishcakes and turnip mash” thread, everyone focussing on the food type instead of the dickhead DH.

Why does he need so long in the shower, and why so late if you’ve got plans for the day?

Vimto1991 · 15/05/2022 13:32

do you not have any local shops so it wouldn’t take hours but more like ten minutes? Or just eat/Uber eats?

FantaLover · 15/05/2022 13:34

I think you're hangry & pregnant-hormonal & you're blowing this out of proportion. Your dh was greedy to eat all the egg mayo in a single sandwich too.
I just don't believe that you do not have a single other item that you can eat for your lunch in the house?!

What are you planning on giving your parents when they arrive? Or your toddler?

Too much drama for me

DahliaMacNamara · 15/05/2022 13:34

Your shopping trip could have been more productive, but that's the way it goes sometimes. I'd have been raging over him eating my lunch. If you'd liked the deli meats and felt they were okay to eat, you wouldn't have scoffed them without a word leaving your DH with nothing, would you? No, you wouldn't, because in spite of what some posters might insist, you're not an arsehole.
I hope he brings you back something nice to eat and you can feel calmer for your visitors.

Nanny0gg · 15/05/2022 13:35

coffeecupsandfairylights · 15/05/2022 12:28

If the bathroom is unlocked I'd just go in and use the loo - then I'd eat the stuff he bought for his lunch!

She explained in the actual OP why that wouldn't happen

Hilites · 15/05/2022 13:36

Lamplightlady4 · 15/05/2022 12:44

Another thread where the OP argues with everyone’s comments because she can’t sort out her life at home!

Just went to say this. Proper drama queen

Penguinevere · 15/05/2022 13:36

You are not unreasonable but you are flapping about it in an unreasonably dramatic way.

it sounds like he saw what he’d done wrong anyway.