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To think this cake is inappropriate

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Shitfuckcommaetc · 13/05/2022 07:41

I don't understand, in what world, it's appropriate to make a cake (for a child's birthday!) showing the death of over 1500 people.

In 100 years time will we be making cakes of Grenfell tower?

To think this cake is inappropriate
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NotMaryWhitehouse · 13/05/2022 07:42

How bizarre.... how old is the child?!

ImInStealthMode · 13/05/2022 07:43

Eugh. YANBU.

Notagain76 · 13/05/2022 07:44

Cake looks well made but totally agree with you inappropriate

NightmareSlashDelightful · 13/05/2022 07:45

I don't disagree but your remark about Grenfell is really tactless OP (I'm a friend of someone who died there)

RewildingAmbridge · 13/05/2022 07:47

Odd choice for a child, but it's been made into a film, it came out when I was a teenager and a friend saw it at the cinema 19 times I could understand if it was her birthday cake. Could've maybe just shown the boat before it started sinking.

ReeseWitherfork · 13/05/2022 07:49

Yes not sure why they had to have the boat sinking. Whoever has made that is very talented though.

Furrbabymama87 · 13/05/2022 07:49

It's a bit weird but don't think it's that shocking. I can understand why a kid would be interested in the Titanic. My dd is autistic and goes through phases of being obsessed with things. Right now it's Ancient Egypt and mummies. I don't think it's comparable to Grenfell. The titanic sunk a long time ago and there is no one surviving affected by it.

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Shitfuckcommaetc · 13/05/2022 07:49

Why is it tactless? It was a tragedy on the same scale as the Titanic, no one would dream of making cakes about that

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Scabbyknackers · 13/05/2022 07:49

I agree it's in rotten taste. And does that say a 5th birthday?! Random thing for a 5 year old to be into

HaggisBurger · 13/05/2022 07:50

Yeah really fucking bad taste. Doesn’t matter that it’s 100 plus years ago imho.

PrivateHall · 13/05/2022 07:53

I agree with you op, and tragedy is tragedy no matter how long ago.

GarlicGnocchi · 13/05/2022 07:55

I agree. Good skills though.

Andromachehadabadday · 13/05/2022 07:56

I would love to know why this is the cake for a child. What made the child or parent say ‘I know what would make a great birthday cake’

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 13/05/2022 07:57

Both were tragedies caused in part by incompetence.

But there are several events in history where the "romance" seems to stick more than the tragic side. Such as the Titanic and WWII. We don't romanticise WWI or Zeebrugge in the same way. I'm sure there's been studies done on the phenomenon

EatSleepReplete · 13/05/2022 07:59

I agree that it's in poor taste, just as a Grenfell cake would be. And I disagree that there is anyone living who would be affected by it. I am early 40s & vividly remember hearing my DGF waking up screaming at night, regularly, when I used to stay over as a child. PTSD nightmares from fighting in WW2. It profoundly coloured my childhood. The sinking of the Titanic was only a couple of decades earlier.

Oblomov22 · 13/05/2022 08:01

Odd choice.

GreatCuppa · 13/05/2022 08:03

Actually my autistic child was obsessed with the Titanic for a while, it was their special interest. He would have loved that cake.

WhatNoRaisins · 13/05/2022 08:03

It's a very weird theme for a cake.

EatSleepReplete · 13/05/2022 08:03

Sorry, meant to say that there isn't anyone living who would be affected by it. I mean, I'm sure there probably are. It's only just barely passed out of living memory, there will still be people who grew up hearing first hand accounts from survivors, family members who were traumatised. It's ridiculous to think this wouldn't have affected people.

Fitterbyfifty · 13/05/2022 08:04

I think it is weird and not in good taste but for a lot of people it is ancient history. I once went to a fairground that had a bouncy castle in the form of a sinking Titanic. Why??

crossstitchingnana · 13/05/2022 08:04

My dd when younger was obsessed with The Titanic. I made her a cake with a replica on top. My replica was whole though.

NightmareSlashDelightful · 13/05/2022 08:05

Shitfuckcommaetc · 13/05/2022 07:49

Why is it tactless? It was a tragedy on the same scale as the Titanic, no one would dream of making cakes about that

Because Grenfell happened (comparatively) recently. People reading this, right now, like me, are related to or know people who lived there and died there.

Yes, the Titanic cake is inappropriate. And yes, your remark about Grenfell is tasteless and similarly inappropriate given the context of this forum.

Queenoftheashes · 13/05/2022 08:06

My nephew would love this cake too he’s obsessed with ships especially titanic.

once you make something into a Hollywood film and more than 100 years have passed I don’t think it can be seen to be as comparable with current events in terms of how they might affect living people

ComDummings · 13/05/2022 08:06

Some children get really obsessed with Titanic. I’m not sure why, they just do. I wouldn’t choose a cake of it actually sinking itself but I can definitely see why someone would want a Titanic cake.

ImInStealthMode · 13/05/2022 08:08

I don't think it's comparable to Grenfell. The titanic sunk a long time ago and there is no one surviving affected by it.

In fairness OP compared it to a Grenfel cake 'in 100 years time' when the same will apply.