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Best passive aggressive/petty moments..

588 replies

LittleMissUnreasonable · 11/05/2022 16:49

The other day I was trying to park in one of those private run car parks where there are no designated spaces. There was only one quite awkward space left and there was another car behind me who was practically sat on my tail trying to get this awkward spot. I decided to reverse out and find another car park but this tailgating car was not letting me go go as they were so hell-bent on getting this space and were trying to go around me. I just thought screw it and drove into the spot as I had nowhere to go. You could practically see the red mist coming from the driver's ears as they had to reverse and find another car park 😤

Another consistent one is that we have a manager who will without fail walk up to a small group of colleagues with a query and direct it to the men, completely ignoring the women. So now, even if I know the answer and the male colleague doesn't, I will just get on with my work and not intervene. It's funny to see the manager flapping around trying to work out the answer when he could have just asked...you know...a woman😱

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ArmWrestlingWithChasNDave · 15/05/2022 12:12

Recently I was on a flight between the only two arseholes who reclined, and didn't come up even when food was served. So I made it my mission to make sure they got no sleep and were as uncomfortable as possible. A well-timed shove at regular intervals whenever they were dropping off, regularly putting in or retrieving items from the pocket in the back of their seats.

It actually really helped pass four hours and made the flight much more fun!

ArmWrestlingWithChasNDave · 15/05/2022 12:12

BEHIND* the only two arseholes who reclined.

TitsInAbsentia · 15/05/2022 14:14

CatkinToadflax · 14/05/2022 14:48

My in-laws are lovely but barking mad. FIL has a habit of getting in a sulk for the weirdest reasons. Years ago DS - who was a huge Harry Potter fan at the time - informed his grandparents that they are both in Hufflepuff. For some strange reason they were both extremely offended and informed DS tetchily that “we are in Ravenclaw!”. It was such a daft thing to be offended by that for the past several years, if FIL is in a sulk about something I serve him his coffee in a Hufflepuff mug. He doesn’t seem to notice but I find it childishly amusing.

Love it!

SkiingIsHeaven · 15/05/2022 14:22

I left Lego and a couple of upturned plugs on the floor next to my husbands side of the bed when he was drunk and had pissed me off.

whitewashing · 15/05/2022 14:56

Kitkatcatflap · 14/05/2022 08:20

Some people seem to have misunderstood passive aggressive calling someone a 'see you next Tuesday'' is aggressive. So is telling is a snooty sales rep to Fuck off. Where is the 'passive' in punching someone in the face.

Don’t worry….that’s only what they’d like to have done. Most of these stories are pure fantasy.

TalkingCat · 15/05/2022 15:35

whitewashing · 15/05/2022 14:56

Don’t worry….that’s only what they’d like to have done. Most of these stories are pure fantasy.

I think that's what you want to believe. You obviously are sheltered and don't know that there are some very aggressive and abusive people out there who talk and act like this all the time!

ArmWrestlingWithChasNDave · 15/05/2022 15:57

Yeah, but MN is full of fantasists in general.

whitewashing · 15/05/2022 16:04

Not sheltered at all! 😂 but I know a load of old tosh when I see it.

TalkingCat · 15/05/2022 16:55

whitewashing · 15/05/2022 16:04

Not sheltered at all! 😂 but I know a load of old tosh when I see it.

Just because you are not world-experienced and you can't comprehend something happening doesn't mean it is a 'load of old tosh'. 😂It just means you've seen less of the world and society than others.

whitewashing · 15/05/2022 17:16

Yes, that must be it. Definitely not as worldly wise as yourself obviously…haven’t see the world either, gosh! you got me there…bless your heart.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 15/05/2022 17:35

@whitewashing - I’m not sure what you are saying - clearly there are people out there who will punch someone or call them a cunt - I can’t see how that is a ‘load of old tosh’. I don’t think it’s out of the realms of possibility that some of these people might post on MN either.

I do agree that calling someone a cunt is straight-up aggressive, nothing passive about it, but I alsothink saying See You Next Tuesday to someone is an oblique way of calling them a cunt, and thus might qualify as passive aggressive.

DdraigGoch · 15/05/2022 18:53

Hearwego · 13/05/2022 23:42

I was working as a bus driver. A guy got on ( young adult and over 15) asked for a child ticket and offered me £20 note. He said he had nothing smaller. I said I haven’t got enough change so told him to buy the ticket later at the end of the journey.
Rnd of the journey and he’s about to get off, I call him back and remind him to buy his ticket. Out comes his £20 note again.
I decide to charge him for his ‘child ‘ ticket at the cheapest possible price. In this case 70 pence.
I then give him £19.30 in one pound coins, 50 pence, 20 pence and ten pence pieces! Literally a ton of change. He stormed off the bus whilst I shouted , don’t you want your ticket then ?!

Colleagues of mine remember someone who would pay for a £3 train fare in copper, and then occasionally with a £20 note (I realise that we could legally refuse to accept that quantity in copper, but the alternative would have been letting him off without paying). One of them steadily accumulated the copper in the float and one day when the bloke offered the £20 note returned £17 in copper.

More recently, there was a man who would routinely offer a £50 note in the knowledge that the guards would deem it too much hassle to change it. So one of the guard made sure to charge him, give him the right change, and then when they got to the next passenger said "sorry, I've got no change left" so they didn't get charged. The bloke with the £50 was hopping mad and never tried the stunt again.

LakieLady · 15/05/2022 19:41

magicstar1 · 12/05/2022 09:45

My dad was a foreman on a building site and sent an apprentice to the suppliers for some parts. The guy there was so rude that the apprentice came back without anything and quite upset. So my dad went in the next day with a huge list. The man behind the counter spent ages running around the place putting the order together...up ladders, down in the basement, outside etc.
When it was all done and packaged up, my dad told him to stick it up his arse, and that they'd get no more orders from him.

I love your dad! And I hope the apprentice knew what he'd done.

LakieLady · 15/05/2022 21:19

JudgeJ · 13/05/2022 21:24

Until coming on to MN I had only ever heard the word used towards women and I'm in the UK. It's not a word I would use towards anyone.

I wonder if its usage varies between regions or something? I'm in the SE and it's use has always applied to either sex.

I once worked somewhere where the most senior manager was so utterly unpleasant he was known as That Cunt to almost the entire department, and this was often abbreviated to TC.

He somehow got to hear that he was known as TC, and assumed it meant Top Cat. He was rather smug about it, which just goes to show what a cunt he was.

stopwaitingforpermissiontobeyou · 15/05/2022 22:12

twoshedsjackson · 12/05/2022 10:25

Back in the day, our school had an after school play centre, and local primaries who also offered this service worked on a rota system, offering all-day care during school holidays. Teachers would be asked to stow away breakables so that their classroom could be used by visiting play supervisors.
At the start of one holiday, I realised that I had left some personal property at school, so I went back to retrieve it. I knew the building would be open, as it was our turn to host the summer scheme. Access was much more open in those days.
I'm fully aware that supervisors need to be careful about random adults coming on site, so no problem with her challenging my presence politely, but the fact that various pupils from the school were cheerily greeting me by name gave a bit of a clue that I might be a regular member of staff, but this did not stop the supervisor being officious to the point of hostility.
I retrieved my property and exited smartly.
Our headteacher was a wonderful person, but he had some little flaws, and one of them was that he could not be trusted with a key. He had so many, he'd lose them like a needle in a haystack. This left the only key to the classroom in my possession.
When it was our school's turn to be host to the holiday scheme again, I realised that Mrs. Jobsworth would be supervisor again. So I cleared my classroom, locked it with the only available key, and went home.
She had to track me down and be polite, through gritted teeth, before I could make a leisurely return to the premises to helpfully unlock.
I later signed up to do some play centre work myself, to raise extra money for my house deposit, and it transpired that I automatically came in on a higher grade than her because I was a qualified teacher; I never mentioned it.

Your last paragraph..

ithoughtisawapuddycat · 16/05/2022 08:21

At a job many years ago, the staff took it in turns to make cups of tea for the rest of the team. I don't drink tea or coffee, only water, but no-one ever offered to get me water as it wasn't in the kitchen. However, they did expect me to make rounds of tea and coffee and then carry them upstairs!

After my first turn, i'd had enough and for the next few turns, i made the tea and coffee as bad as possible - very weak tea and made the coffee the same colour as the tea. They very quickly decided that everyone should make their own and put tea/coffee making facilities in the actual office.

I was only very young and didn't feel confident enough to say no.

Luculentus · 16/05/2022 08:34

WisherWood · 15/05/2022 11:37

That's a huge gamble.

Can be, and it certainly isn't a first resort. I'm just not sure the lecturer in that story would have been quite as disappointed as the poster thinks. She was marking it, she gave them a first. Job done.

My infant school headteacher described me as educationally subnormal. I went on to get a PhD. She wasn't trying to motivate me, she was just a shit teacher. Part of me did want to wave my PhD certificate in her face, but the best part of two decades had past so I'd have been long forgotten, or she would have been dead by then so I decided to let it go.

Reminds me of my first class teacher in secondary school. For some reason I'd been put in a class above my age group. Teacher was the games teacher and, as I wasn't sporty, she despised me anyway. She made no secret of the fact that she thought I shouldn't be in that class and, at the end of the first term, openly sneered at my marks in subjects like French which, given that I had to catch up with people who had had a year's more teaching, weren't actually that bad. (It was a LONG time ago when teachers used to read out marks and class position publicly).

She made me really quite miserable and my response was basically to get my head down and work. She was visibly mortified when I came third in class at the end of the year and there was no reason why I couldn't move up with the rest of the class.

PixieLaLa · 16/05/2022 18:23

This thread is brilliant 😂
Favs are the Hamster poster and cutlery knobber!

bossybitch3/3 · 16/05/2022 20:12

I taught for 35+ and am now long retired. I was the first in my family to access higher education and came from an industrialised area in the north of England. Some of my family were involved, in and representatives of, influential Unions (useful information).
Anyway, it’s 1972, it’s my first teaching post in a new, very large, comprehensive school. There was a dress code for staff and pupils. One day a supply Art teacher came in her new jeans which she had worn in a cold bath (very, very, close fit) filled with bleach - very cool, edgy faded effect! This provided the Head with an opportunity to sort out the female staff. The Senior Mistress ( yes, her job title) held a meeting to explain what could not be worn by the ‘ladies’. If we wanted to wear trousers they had to be part of a ‘tailored trouser suit’. I had been working for less than 4 months, there was no way I could afford that kind of clothing. I was dressed in a pair of M&S black wide cut trousers, a mini dress with short sleeves worn over a long sleeved blouse - I was literally covered from neck to ankle in dark, block colours. So I asked in the meeting if I was dressed inappropriately and was told by a very po faced Senior Mistress that indeed I was. I apologised profusely and said I would rectify my mistake as soon as I could. And I did. I went into the ladies, removed the trousers, donned a pair of tights and came out in the mini dress. I taught all afternoon dressed like that. No one said a word. The next day I went in dressed in the same clothes as the previous morning (clean blouse of course) and no one said a word again - except the Senior Mistress. She looked me up and down, smiled broadly and wished me a hearty’Good morning’.
I did have good legs back in the day! 😌

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 16/05/2022 21:28

Brilliant story! Grin

Nomad916 · 16/05/2022 22:11

Soon after my exH moved in with OW & one of the first times DD went overnight, DD was dropped back with her toys/belongings in a Victoria's Secret bag!

ThomasinaGallico · 20/05/2022 14:54

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ArmWrestlingWithChasNDave · 15/05/2022 15:57

Yeah, but MN is full of fantasists in general.

So true. 😂 Also true of the wider online community.

autienotnaughty · 21/05/2022 04:21

If dh annoys me in the day when we go to bed if I wake in the night I will 'accidentally' kick him and wake him up just to bother him. It's been 15 years and he's never realised!

EinsteinaGogo · 21/05/2022 11:39

autienotnaughty · 21/05/2022 04:21

If dh annoys me in the day when we go to bed if I wake in the night I will 'accidentally' kick him and wake him up just to bother him. It's been 15 years and he's never realised!

Unless your DH is an abusive twat, that's really nasty.