Page 2 | Best passive aggressive/petty moments..

LittleMissUnreasonable · 2022-05-11T15:49:00+00:00

The other day I was trying to park in one of those private run car parks where there are no designated spaces. There was only one quite awkward space left and there was another car behind me who was practically sat on my tail trying to get this awkward spot. I decided to reverse out and find another car park but this tailgating car was not letting me go go as they were so hell-bent on getting this space and were trying to go around me. I just thought screw it and drove into the spot as I had nowhere to go. You could practically see the red mist coming from the driver's ears as they had to reverse and find another car park 😤 Another consistent one is that we have a manager who will without fail walk up to a small group of colleagues with a query and direct it to the men, completely ignoring the women. So now, even if I know the answer and the male colleague doesn't, I will just get on with my work and not intervene. It's funny to see the manager flapping around trying to work out the answer when he could have just asked...you know...a woman😱

FlissyPaps · 12/05/2022 06:11

dustandroses · 12/05/2022 05:43

@FlissyPaps
Incredibly petty and passive aggressive.
We were a tight group. All she had to do was say to us face to face “guys, this kitchen’s getting a bit dirty, can we all take an hour out of our day to clean up as a team”. Not leaving silly notes on the fridge for us to find.

or you could have just cleaned up without being asked especially if it took her hours 🤔

We don’t know for sure how many hours it took her. That’s just what she put on her incredibly passive aggressive note. 🤔

Athenajm80 · 12/05/2022 06:20

VintageGibbon · 12/05/2022 00:41

I once queued for ages in John Lewis at Christmas with a basket full of presents. When I got to the front of the queue and handed over my credit card they kept staring and smirking at me, then called security to public escort me away for having stolen my own card. After interrogating me they realised they'd made a mistake and escorted me back and told me to rejoin the back of the queue. I walked to the middle of the shop floor, tipped the basket upside down and walked out. The look on that petty manager's face was worth it.

Do you know why they decided you'd stolen the card? What strange people!

Indicatrice · 12/05/2022 06:24

PomBearWithoutHerOFRS · 12/05/2022 01:36

I did once give in to "shop rage" in Aldi.
I was putting a full shop on the conveyor belt, and the woman behind me started putting hera on without leaving any room for the rest of mine, tutting and rolling her eyes and obviously In A Hurry.
I just abandoned my own still half full trolley, sauntered down the line, said "sorry, but it's this or punch her" to the checkout person, and walked out.

But you only hurt yourself here (and Aldi staff), not the woman behind you.

I would have asked her to remove every single item of hers.

TomPinch · 12/05/2022 06:39

DifficultBloodyWoman · 12/05/2022 02:32

Someone came to the office to see my Bastard Boss. Bastard Boss asked me if they were there to serve court papers on him. I didn’t know and Bastard Boss refused to see them and told me to say that he was out and escort them from the building.

Whilst I was escorting them from the building, I pointed out that if they were there to serve papers on Bastard Boss, it was very easy to bypass both reception and my office to get to Bastard Boss’s office. I even pointed out which door led to Bastard Boss’s office.

15 minutes later Bastard Boss came storming into my office to complain bitterly about the poor security in the building and to change our afternoon meetings because he had to see his solicitor and accountant ASAP.

Brilliant!!!😂

GarlicGnocchi · 12/05/2022 07:13

kshaw · 12/05/2022 03:06

ExH when on the phone to DD always suggests things we could do 'why don't you and mummy go to soft play today?' etc... really annoys me as I generally have plans with her and I'd never do that to him. So he was on the phone saying he'd bought some new poster sized photo frames for his living room. I piped up with 'i think a picture of your hamster (that lives with me) would look good in them' and now my hamster obsessed 5 year old wants a poster sized photo of her hamster in his living room 😂

Ha! This is great!

Luckinspades · 12/05/2022 07:39

I have discovered some stuff about my dh since we both started to wfh.
For eg when he gets a parcel delivery he opens up said parcel and liberally spreads the cardboard packaging all over the sofa so no fucker can sit down. Said packaging stays there all day or until he is asked to sort it.

so I move it. I pile it all up in his spot on the sofa so he has to deal with it before sitting down.

the fucker drops it all onto the floor at the side of the sofa in response instead of putting it into the recycling.

We are equal cardboard passive aggressors!

Not gonna lie, he is driving me demented.

Fraaahnces · 12/05/2022 07:47

@Luckinspades - Have you considered Origami? A coffin made of cardboard with all his postage details all over it would be great on his side of the bed.

Shinyandnew1 · 12/05/2022 07:47

VintageGibbon · 12/05/2022 00:41

I once queued for ages in John Lewis at Christmas with a basket full of presents. When I got to the front of the queue and handed over my credit card they kept staring and smirking at me, then called security to public escort me away for having stolen my own card. After interrogating me they realised they'd made a mistake and escorted me back and told me to rejoin the back of the queue. I walked to the middle of the shop floor, tipped the basket upside down and walked out. The look on that petty manager's face was worth it.

Bizarre-why would they think you’d stolen your own card?

Plasticpenelope · 12/05/2022 08:03

FlissyPaps · 12/05/2022 06:11

We don’t know for sure how many hours it took her. That’s just what she put on her incredibly passive aggressive note. 🤔

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Nope. You were being unreasonable. As was the Aldi shopper. Very unreasonable as it affected the shop more than the woman behind (they may even have had to throw away frozen items).

Love the horrible boss one and the hamster one though. Genius.

HappyCup · 12/05/2022 08:08

FlissyPaps · 12/05/2022 01:59

Incredibly petty and passive aggressive.

We were a tight group. All she had to do was say to us face to face “guys, this kitchen’s getting a bit dirty, can we all take an hour out of our day to clean up as a team”. Not leaving silly notes on the fridge for us to find.

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How is it incredibly petty and passive aggressive? 😂 It’s just a simple note rather than a face to face conversation, hardly a big deal.

You were dirty and she tidied up after you. I’m really not seeing her as in the wrong here.

GarlicGnocchi · 12/05/2022 08:12

Notes are fine, everyone is out and about in a uni house and she doesn't want to make a massive deal about it.

Luckinspades · 12/05/2022 08:13

Oooh a cardboard coffin on HIS side of the bed. I like that.
gonna save up all cardboard and fashion a home made passive aggressive coffin…

Luckinspades · 12/05/2022 08:16

Also, lunch plates/cups/cutlery… he puts in the sink.
which is above the dishwasher.
so I open the dishwasher and pull out the tray ready to receive said implements and carefully, obviously and precisely place my lunch implements into stacking trays….
the areas still puts his pots passively aggressively in the damn sink..

Luckinspades · 12/05/2022 08:17

Arse not area!

crowsfeet57 · 12/05/2022 08:19

Our new boss was a real bitch and was continually undermining me as the supervisor in front of the staff. We were in customer facing roles and she instigated a perfectly reasonable rule that we should not have our phones out in the office. This didn't apply to her of course, she often scrolled through her phone in full view of customers. One day when there were no customers in the office, the team were talking about something funny that I had done before she started. In an attempt to include her I, very obviously, looked out at the approach to the door so I could tell no customers were about to arrive, then grabbed my phone to show her a picture of the incident which was on the case.

She immediately started screeching "Put it away. Put it away." Then went back to her desk and sent me a warning in an e mail.

From that moment on I never went to the loo without playing candy crush on my phone for a full five minutes. Very petty I know.

Tippexy · 12/05/2022 08:20

FlissyPaps · 12/05/2022 06:11

We don’t know for sure how many hours it took her. That’s just what she put on her incredibly passive aggressive note. 🤔

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Passive aggressive doesn’t mean what you think it means…

coodawoodashooda · 12/05/2022 08:24

Omg i would be so stressed doing some of these things.

DonnyBurrito · 12/05/2022 08:25

My ex used to leave used (bloody) dental floss and cores of rotting fruit everywhere like the arm of the sofa or on the side of the bath, or just anywhere like that he plonked it and left it for ages.

Eventually, when I realised asking him nicely wouldn't work, I just started putting it in his shoes.

Tbf the relationship was already dead, but this did start a chain of not so subtle passive aggressive behaviour that helped put the nail in the coffin.

TheDoveFromAboveCooCoo · 12/05/2022 08:25

I had a horrible boyfriend for a couple of years in my early twenties. He was aggressive and controlling to the point where he would only "allow" me 20 minutes a week with my mum because she smoked and he saw her as a bad influence (fuck knows why I went along with that one).

Anyway I finally found the strength to break things off with him. Phew relief! A couple of days later I walked into the kitchen during the evening and he's FUCKING STOOD THERE IN MY KITCHEN!! The absolute freak! I threw him out but was so shaken up.

Anyway on to the petty bit - his mother worshipped him and honestly thought he was like a little innocent choir boy who could do no wrong! He had been on a lads trip to Amsterdam and had brought home a load of really extreme porn DVDs (like really horrible stuff) and hidden them at my house so she didn't know he had them. You could tell from the covers how extreme they were.

So after the mini kitchen invasion I bundled up his mucky DVDs, marched round to his mums house and handed them over to her and told her he had left them behind after hiding them in my house 😂😂

It felt really good!

Onacuctustree · 12/05/2022 08:28

Going through divorce with knobber ex. A joint account had some tiny amount in, something like £1.25. The account could not be closed until I agreed to the funds being transferred. I took a very very long time to respond. His emails became increasingly aggressive. Eventually, he had to pay his solicitor to write me a letter... I sent the authorisation immediately. Costing the tight git money made my day...

hangrylady · 12/05/2022 08:28

My DH knows someone who was falsely accused of shoplifting in a supermarket. From that day on he would nick something from the supermarket whenever he went in. Never got caught!

StoppinBy · 12/05/2022 08:34

My MIL to my kids 'Oh, Aunty Sandy has a drum kit that she is giving me for you'

Me to MIL 'Oh, that sounds fun, you can keep it at your house and the kids will love it'

MIL ........... ..................

Funnily enough the drum kit never showed up at her house (or ours for that matter) lol.

ChilledScandi · 12/05/2022 08:34

VintageGibbon · 12/05/2022 00:41

I once queued for ages in John Lewis at Christmas with a basket full of presents. When I got to the front of the queue and handed over my credit card they kept staring and smirking at me, then called security to public escort me away for having stolen my own card. After interrogating me they realised they'd made a mistake and escorted me back and told me to rejoin the back of the queue. I walked to the middle of the shop floor, tipped the basket upside down and walked out. The look on that petty manager's face was worth it.

Sorry but that just sounds unhinged. Same as the Aldi incident.

Justcallmeanatm · 12/05/2022 08:35

I helped a friend out in her newsagents and a snotty guy came to pay for his papers, held my hand out for the money he dropped it on the counter. Next week I was teaching law at an evening class when snotty man walked in the classroom. Said to me thought he worked in a shop what are you doing here. Told him because I practice this area of law I also teach it. Said i was helping a friend out in the shop. Oh the embarrassed squirming he did was great to watch

StoppinBy · 12/05/2022 08:36

ChilledScandi · 12/05/2022 08:34

Sorry but that just sounds unhinged. Same as the Aldi incident.

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I disagree, I love this person lol.

The ALDI person on the other hand.... what a twat..... they put all that extra work on the staff who had nothing to do with the customer who was bothering them.