Page 22 | Best passive aggressive/petty moments..

LittleMissUnreasonable · 2022-05-11T15:49:00+00:00

The other day I was trying to park in one of those private run car parks where there are no designated spaces. There was only one quite awkward space left and there was another car behind me who was practically sat on my tail trying to get this awkward spot. I decided to reverse out and find another car park but this tailgating car was not letting me go go as they were so hell-bent on getting this space and were trying to go around me. I just thought screw it and drove into the spot as I had nowhere to go. You could practically see the red mist coming from the driver's ears as they had to reverse and find another car park 😤 Another consistent one is that we have a manager who will without fail walk up to a small group of colleagues with a query and direct it to the men, completely ignoring the women. So now, even if I know the answer and the male colleague doesn't, I will just get on with my work and not intervene. It's funny to see the manager flapping around trying to work out the answer when he could have just asked...you know...a woman😱

JustDanceAddict · 14/05/2022 17:32

I’ve got a tea one too! Nearly 30 years ago I was at a relative’s house with my mum and helped her daughter make tea for everyone. I wasn’t a tea drinker & so wasn’t the most experienced maker. My mum also drank tea weak so I was used to seeing a lighter liquid in the cup.
When I brought the tea over to the relative (who wasn’t known for her tact let’s say!) exclaimed ‘call this a cup of tea!!?!’ like I’d offered her poison. I was quite upset by the outburst as I rightly thought I was being nice and polite by helping and she made me feel like poo on a stick. I’d recently had some bad news so I was feeling a bit more sensitive than usual.
Subsequently I met dh and at some point told him the story as we used to occasionally see the relative in question as she lived locally. Around 7 years later, just before we got married she was at ours and dh made her the strongest cup of tea known to man - her reaction was priceless ‘think I’ll add a bit more water to this…’
im sure she’d forgotten all about the earlier incident, but it made us feel better!!

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 14/05/2022 17:37

CatkinToadflax · 14/05/2022 14:48

My in-laws are lovely but barking mad. FIL has a habit of getting in a sulk for the weirdest reasons. Years ago DS - who was a huge Harry Potter fan at the time - informed his grandparents that they are both in Hufflepuff. For some strange reason they were both extremely offended and informed DS tetchily that “we are in Ravenclaw!”. It was such a daft thing to be offended by that for the past several years, if FIL is in a sulk about something I serve him his coffee in a Hufflepuff mug. He doesn’t seem to notice but I find it childishly amusing.

Love this!

ReformedWaywardTeen · 14/05/2022 18:29

Oh my SIL

I've had to put up with her for 25 years. She has never liked me, she barely hides it. I'm very definitely not what she imagined her brother ending up with.

She is also one of those people who argue the toss no matter what. She is right. No one else ever is.

Anyway, she is very pro Boris. Would not hear about food banks and disabled people struggling (all lazy People related apparently). That UC claimants are actually for the most part working people who literally don't earn enough to get by (they should do cleaning or telesales on the side instead then).

Cut to 2020 and she and her equally twatty husband were hit hard by Covid. Their previously very secure lifestyle was significantly screwed.

Queue her complaining that Boris should do something, that he had promised to protect people like her and her husband. That- horror of horrors- she may have to sign up for UC herself.

I said "well, I did warn you. Maybe you should look at how lazy you are being, and take up a side job. There's really no excuse you know".

She looked like she wanted to thump me.

So satisfying.

Kat1953 · 14/05/2022 19:22

Bravo @ReformedWaywardTeen !

Hearwego · 14/05/2022 19:27

BadLad · 14/05/2022 00:16

If having enough change is a problem, why did you take your revenge by making sure you gave him as much change as possible? Unless I've misunderstood, you charged him less than he should have paid so that you could give more change away to him.

And why would he want his ticket as he was getting off the bus?

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He got in with a friend. His friend paid with a ten pound note and I gave him change. He then got on and lied to me by telling me he was a child , which I knew he wasn’t.
He was unreasonable wanting to give me a £20 note for a £1.70 odd fare- again he was obviously lying about his age and he was going to an adult college anyway.
By the time he got off I had accrued enough change.
He then tried to leave my bus without coming back to see me to buy his ticket, despite me being reasonable and allowing him to get to his destination. He was after a free ride basically.
People offer £20 notes to blag a free ride.
Plus at the end I wanted him to take his ticket as proof that I’d printed it and not simply pocketed the money he gave me.

sueelleker · 14/05/2022 19:57

Clearthinking · 14/05/2022 00:23

We always get told we must ring before we visit in laws to make sure they are in. We kindly have asked them to do the same. Gives me a bit of rage often finding them on doorstep or ringing us when we are out for the day sounding disappointed they are sat on our door step "making the effort to visit but we are never in" or ringing the bell while we eat tea. Fil thinks its hilarious to get our backs up.

Moved house a month ago and not told them yet...

I'd like to see their faces when the new occupants open the door!

Latenightreader · 14/05/2022 20:33

Does private pettiness count? I was made redundant in 2020, and although I understood the decision, the way they treated me was appalling. A few months later I found a work polo shirt in my drawer - no use for anyone else. I cut the badge into shreds, and turned the shirt into dusters. I take pleasure in using them for the dirtiest jobs. No one will ever know, but it feels like I’m thumbing my nose at them each time.

DaveGrohlsMrs · 14/05/2022 20:56

Ah!!! 🤦🏻‍♀️😂

sunlight81 · 14/05/2022 21:39

My DH takes his socks off in the evening and leaves them Lying around the living room.

I collect them up and shove them into one of the toe of his slippers, work shoes, trainers etc.

I love watching him trying to put on some footwear in a rush and then having to stop, pull out a sock then continue.

Usually after a few of these instances (I get two sets of footwear with one pair of socks) he's reminded to put them in the dirty washing, this lasts for a few weeks then the cycle starts all over again!!

TitsInAbsentia · 14/05/2022 22:04

starfishmummy · 12/05/2022 13:03

I was doing council job for which they got funding from an outside source. This meant 2 of us were employed to do our job only and not get involved with the daily business of the small centre where we were based. The head of centre was not our direct boss, not involved in our work but was "in charge" for all matters regarding things like timekeeping, signing off expenses etc.

All was going well until head of centre went on maternity leave. Cover was someone based at a different location who relied on the gossipy centre secretary and cleaner to keep her briefed. Started getting odd comment - nothing directly said - but clearly she had decided we were skiving so asked for daily logs detailing pur activities. First week she said they were not detailed enough.

Well she asked for it. Made sure to log that I was arriving 30 minutes before my starting time (buses) so that my early morning coffee "break" was actually on my own time and not in working hours. So I actually logged something like this
8.30-8.49 arrived and had coffee in staffroom.

8.50-9.00 arrived at desk ready to set up for the day.
9.00 contracted starting time
9.00-9.01 filling in daily log

And then I continued in a similar vein with every change of task being followed by an entry for completing my daily log!! I believe the early ones may have contained things like hanging my coat up.

Love this! For all the micromanagers that came before....if I ever get another I will use this technique for sure 😎

ThomasinaGallico · 14/05/2022 22:11

Annemaria · 14/05/2022 17:03

I was blahing on at a gathering after perhaps one too many drinks. A complete stranger butted in and said, “You’ve just contradicted yourself.” The whole room went silent. I stared, and a quote from a chapter heading in my current reading popped up. In my mind.“ Evidently you’re not familiar with Plato’s theory on contradiction.” I said. She shut up and the next time she saw me fawned on me. I should mention I know nothing about Plato.

She probably thought Plato was a brand of washing up liquid.

BobHadBitchTits · 14/05/2022 22:18

I had a colleague who was a bit of an arsehole and really fucking annoying. Our desks were right by each other so there was no escaping him.

I found out he absolutely hated coconut so I started using coconut shampoo, conditioner and shower gel.

Eightiesfan · 14/05/2022 22:32

At my previous job my team was merged with another and my new team leader was from the other team although responsibility wise we were on the same level, although my role was far more complex than his.

When doing my annual review he put in a couple of really petty negative comments, mostly I think to impose his authority.

As our salary increase was performance related this might have had an affect on my pay rise and bonus. So I queried them and asked him to give me specific examples. He tried to play it off, but I just stared him out until he eventually crumbled and conceded he had nothing.

I then followed up that shitshow by asking him if he had any idea of what my role was - he didn’t. He never tried to lord it over me after that.

TinselTinsel · 15/05/2022 02:30

I got sick of picking up my ex's sweet wrappers to put them in the bin so I put them all in his pillowcase instead.

rollingmeadows · 15/05/2022 02:40

Once bought my DH a burger called ‘The Bastard’ - smiled to myself every time he took a bite.

dontyoubother · 15/05/2022 03:04

I have a colleague who has treated me terribly, real bullying behaviour, verbal abuse, spreading lies to other colleagues, really poisonous stuff. I've had enough of being upset and am being a bit petty to help me get through it. She needs a favour from me. She hasn't asked (I'd say yes) but has been hinting for weeks. When she hints I just nod along and act as if it's gone over my head. "Ooh yes, I can imagine that will need sorting, hope you find a solution", etc. I can see it's driving her mad that I'm not getting it but she can't bring herself to ask me either

Fraaahnces · 15/05/2022 06:58

@dontyoubother - I hope there’s a deadline looming for her!

Ddot · 15/05/2022 07:49

HedgehogintheFog
Ms!

dontyoubother · 15/05/2022 08:18

Fraaahnces · 15/05/2022 06:58

@dontyoubother - I hope there’s a deadline looming for her!

Yes! She needs it done by the end of this month. I'm just holding on until she actually asks me, she won't want to because I'm so useless/nasty/judgemental/whatever she's currently saying about me, but I'm the only one that can help.

Fraaahnces · 15/05/2022 08:46

@dontyoubother - assuming you’re going to chime in with “You should have asked me sooner, Bitchfacecolleague. This would have been finished AAAAGES ago. You’ve left it a bit tight…”

WisherWood · 15/05/2022 10:18

Her lecturer told her it was near impossible to achieve a 1st, presumably with the implication that she would be unable to come close. Then said lecturer gave her a strong 1st in her next assignment, thus eating their words.

It's a good way sometimes to give someone the incentive to work harder. Tell them it's near impossible and they probably won't manage it, and hopefully they'll be bloody minded enough to want to prove you wrong. They may feel like they've proved you wrong and made you eat your words, but the reality is you were just giving them the kick up the arse they needed to make the effort.

VintageGibbon · 15/05/2022 10:26

WisherWood · 15/05/2022 10:18

Her lecturer told her it was near impossible to achieve a 1st, presumably with the implication that she would be unable to come close. Then said lecturer gave her a strong 1st in her next assignment, thus eating their words.

It's a good way sometimes to give someone the incentive to work harder. Tell them it's near impossible and they probably won't manage it, and hopefully they'll be bloody minded enough to want to prove you wrong. They may feel like they've proved you wrong and made you eat your words, but the reality is you were just giving them the kick up the arse they needed to make the effort.

Yes, it can work. But it's a shit gamble and a very poor teaching method. The responsible thing to do is to explain the gap between current grade and a first, not use some hokey psychological trick in the hope it will kick a student's ass.

DifficultBloodyWoman · 15/05/2022 10:59

VintageGibbon · 15/05/2022 10:26

Yes, it can work. But it's a shit gamble and a very poor teaching method. The responsible thing to do is to explain the gap between current grade and a first, not use some hokey psychological trick in the hope it will kick a student's ass.

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I had a teacher do that to me. I don’t think her motivation was to motivate me. She and I did not like each other one little bit.

But I am bloody minded and I aced the end of year exam - top of the class! She was so fucking pissed off!

And, when we were reviewing the answers in class, she told me to stop dreaming and pay attention, and I said I was just thinking about the answer to the last question (which I can’t remember now) and why do we describe (something I can’t remember) as (something else I can’t remember) given her last answer. She very abruptly and quickly said it was a common name versus chemical composition and moved on to the next question. Thank fuck I never had a class with her again.

Still makes me happy to think about it. 😂

Terfydactyl · 15/05/2022 11:31

WisherWood · 15/05/2022 10:18

Her lecturer told her it was near impossible to achieve a 1st, presumably with the implication that she would be unable to come close. Then said lecturer gave her a strong 1st in her next assignment, thus eating their words.

It's a good way sometimes to give someone the incentive to work harder. Tell them it's near impossible and they probably won't manage it, and hopefully they'll be bloody minded enough to want to prove you wrong. They may feel like they've proved you wrong and made you eat your words, but the reality is you were just giving them the kick up the arse they needed to make the effort.

That's a huge gamble.
I remember well as a child being told I was stupid, thick, useless.
Although I knew damn fine well I was none of these I didnt bother to try at anything.
Wasnt to prove him right, just that his opinion didnt matter to me. When it mattered for my o levels I did ok. No thanks to him.

WisherWood · 15/05/2022 11:37

That's a huge gamble.

Can be, and it certainly isn't a first resort. I'm just not sure the lecturer in that story would have been quite as disappointed as the poster thinks. She was marking it, she gave them a first. Job done.

My infant school headteacher described me as educationally subnormal. I went on to get a PhD. She wasn't trying to motivate me, she was just a shit teacher. Part of me did want to wave my PhD certificate in her face, but the best part of two decades had past so I'd have been long forgotten, or she would have been dead by then so I decided to let it go.