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Best passive aggressive/petty moments..

588 replies

LittleMissUnreasonable · 11/05/2022 16:49

The other day I was trying to park in one of those private run car parks where there are no designated spaces. There was only one quite awkward space left and there was another car behind me who was practically sat on my tail trying to get this awkward spot. I decided to reverse out and find another car park but this tailgating car was not letting me go go as they were so hell-bent on getting this space and were trying to go around me. I just thought screw it and drove into the spot as I had nowhere to go. You could practically see the red mist coming from the driver's ears as they had to reverse and find another car park 😤

Another consistent one is that we have a manager who will without fail walk up to a small group of colleagues with a query and direct it to the men, completely ignoring the women. So now, even if I know the answer and the male colleague doesn't, I will just get on with my work and not intervene. It's funny to see the manager flapping around trying to work out the answer when he could have just asked...you know...a woman😱

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Lesperance · 13/05/2022 19:32

TalkingCat · 13/05/2022 11:25

@TaysideTeuchter Cunt is an acceptable word on Mumsnet, it's not bannable. It is, after all, a UK site. The word cunt is like saying house or car or dinner in the UK. It's an acceptable word that everyone on here seems to use. I don't like the word and rarely use it, but it's a UK site and the word cunt is perfectly acceptable in the UK.

I think you're wrong. It's like saying fuck, it's not like say car.

Martz · 13/05/2022 19:39

I was a child when I did this, must’ve been around 8 years old. I’d gone food shopping with my mum and my great-aunt came with us as she couldn’t drive so my mum would take her shopping every week. Backstory on my great-aunt is she was an absolute bitch and the rest of the family had washed their hands of her long ago because she was a very spiteful and mean spirited old woman. My mum was aware of how she was, but she hadn’t got the heart to tell her to jog on because she was old and would literally die alone if my mum didn’t tolerate her (she has since died). I absolutely hated going on the food shop, but my mum told me if I behaved myself and didn’t complain then I could pick something from the bakery. I behaved and once she’d finished her shopping she said I could have my reward. As we walked back round to the bakery section I picked up some cream buns that looked amazing and asked if I could have those as my treat. With that, my great-aunt snatched them from me and said she would be having them instead as I wouldn’t eat 2 anyway. They were the last ones and I was so disappointed, but I didn’t complain and picked something else instead. When we got to the till my great-aunt told me to make myself useful and help her pack her shopping. She snapped at me to make sure her cream buns were on the top bag so they didn’t get squashed under the rest of her shopping, then with a smug grin added that she couldn’t wait to enjoy them with a cup of tea when she got home. That final look she gave me was the last straw, so while her back was turned I squeezed the box with the cream buns so hard that the filling spilled out of the sides of the plastic, I then shoved them to the bottom of the bag. My mum saw me do it too and never said a word. When we dropped her off home, I shouted to her “hope you enjoy your buns and cup of tea”…. Petty but she deserved it!

SpaceFarce · 13/05/2022 19:52

My favourite part of this thread is @Indicatrice thinking she comes across as witty and clever, when in reality everyone is thinking the opposite. Perfect for a petty thread, really 😅

SchadenfreudePersonified · 13/05/2022 19:56

this was in fact a problem with old wiring, particularly at night when there is more electricity in the wires due the the lower demand

"More electricity in the wires"

Priceless! 😂

Dagnabit · 13/05/2022 19:59

@Indicatrice

he often had issues as obviously a young black man had probably stolen the card.

Are you going to explain your post because it just like racist AF at the moment.

You may want to go back and re-read the thread before posting. This has been discussed. Ad nauseum.

StooOrangeyForCrows · 13/05/2022 20:03

1000yellowdaisies · 13/05/2022 10:08

So on a regular basis, you would get up before dawn, sneak to his drive and unnoticed by anyone, hover there doing your business? I note you say 'his drive' so you didn't live together? So does that mean you got up before dawn and drove to his? Or if you did live together you got out of bed in the wee small hours and crapped on your own drive?

No you didn't do this at all.

A bit of both. I lived with him until my DMum got ill and I moved in to care for her. I told her about it to make her laugh.

When DMum was dying, ex partner asked me to go over to his and I said no as I didn't want to leave Mum. He said turn up or don't bother going back. I chose the latter.

It was very much his drive.

StooOrangeyForCrows · 13/05/2022 20:06

ScreamingMeMe · 13/05/2022 10:38

Are you Amber Heard?

Amber Turd more like! No I'm not but I can see how the frustration of living with someone that treats you like dirt makes you want to shit on their life 😊

Allthegearbutnoidea82 · 13/05/2022 20:30

Absolutely cringing but creased too! Of all the threads in all the world to have your embarrassing just desserts, this one is just comedy gold!! 😂😂

Stigolini · 13/05/2022 20:41

Beautiful.

DelphiniumBlue · 13/05/2022 20:44

crowsfeet57 · 12/05/2022 14:41

The lady refused, she was reading a 1400 page book throughout the flight, just before landing she went to the toilet and my mum ripped out the last few pages of her book, which obviously contained the conclusion of the story she was reading

That's not passive aggressive it's just plain aggressive not to mention criminal damage. People don't have to swap seats on planes you know she was well within her rights to say no.

"Well within her rights", maybe, but obviously really selfish and deserving of being on the receiving end of petty revenge.

Indicatrice · 13/05/2022 20:51

SpaceFarce · 13/05/2022 19:52

My favourite part of this thread is @Indicatrice thinking she comes across as witty and clever, when in reality everyone is thinking the opposite. Perfect for a petty thread, really 😅

How sad, the thread is full of some really good anecdotes and yet your favourite part is a part that doesn’t exist, as I’ve neither said or implied that I’m witty or clever.

You have contributed nothing to the thread except to join a pile on. Hope it’s been fulfilling.

Mollymoostoo · 13/05/2022 20:52

I asked my lecturer how I could improve my grade from a 2.1 to first. She told me not to be disappointed if I never get a first because the report would have to be perfect and it takes a lot of work. Guess what I got on my next report....a mid first and guess who awarded the mark! I just raised my eyebrows and smiled...my look said it all.

AllyCatTown · 13/05/2022 20:54

Sorry not rtft.

On the issue of leaving notes especially at uni accommodation. I don’t think anyone is so busy that they can’t hold off to speak to you. They could text or call if they wanted but I think people leave a note as they’re getting to say how things are with no immediate response. I only had one note left for me at uni (which accused me of something I hadn’t done) but I do remember other friends having notes left and there was often something passive aggressive about them.

blablablah · 13/05/2022 21:03

Parking at my work used to be total nightmare, full by 7.45, double parked people blocking other people in etc. So when one morning, after driving round and round, I spied a space I happily drove to it. When I got closer I saw why it was empty. Car on the left side (nose in) was parked right on the line, and car which had reversed in skew-wiff on the right was slightly over the line into the empty space making it all but unusable. I did some of the finest parking I’ve ever done and got in that space, but because I couldn’t open either or my front doors I had to climb through the front seats and out of the one of the back doors. Totally worth it.

proudbrows · 13/05/2022 21:04

My ex husband had been an absolute dick, out on the lash for days, when he finally came home, absolutely hanging, the lovely Jehovah’s witnesses knocked on the door (I say lovely because once, after this, when they knocked when I had glandular fever and could barely move they offered to go shopping for me. I said no but I’ve never forgotten the kindness of that) Instead of politely listening at the door for a few minutes like I usually did, I invited them in, made them a cup of tea, sat them down with my husband and fucked off out shopping

SchadenfreudePersonified · 13/05/2022 21:10

crowsfeet57 · 12/05/2022 14:41

The lady refused, she was reading a 1400 page book throughout the flight, just before landing she went to the toilet and my mum ripped out the last few pages of her book, which obviously contained the conclusion of the story she was reading

That's not passive aggressive it's just plain aggressive not to mention criminal damage. People don't have to swap seats on planes you know she was well within her rights to say no.

Just because you can do something, it doesn't mean you should do it.

She wouldn't allow a mother and small child to sit together. She wouldn't let poster.'s mum get past her to use the toilet. She complained when poster's mum had a meal.

She was lucky to get a few pages ripped out, and not her head ripped off!

PleaseGoDontGoAgain · 13/05/2022 21:13

Opaljewel · 13/05/2022 08:04

I think you're being very harsh to people.

Saying they are racist because they hadn't realised what his skin colour had to do with it? No dear that means they aren't racist because they don't associate skin colour with crime unlike back then when it rife to make these horrible assumptions.

Of course it still happens today. But kind explanations to help people understand go a lot further than horrible goady posts than yours. Education and kindness is always the key. Remember to be kind when people just need some explaining. Not everyone is you!

No Dear, phrases like I don't notice skin colour mean you're either ignorant about racism or totally oblivious to it because it doesn't affect you.
Neither should be worn like a badge of honour.

ThinkAboutItTomorrow · 13/05/2022 21:20

kshaw · 12/05/2022 03:06

ExH when on the phone to DD always suggests things we could do 'why don't you and mummy go to soft play today?' etc... really annoys me as I generally have plans with her and I'd never do that to him. So he was on the phone saying he'd bought some new poster sized photo frames for his living room. I piped up with 'i think a picture of your hamster (that lives with me) would look good in them' and now my hamster obsessed 5 year old wants a poster sized photo of her hamster in his living room 😂

Please update us (with pics if possible, even if surveillances style) when she gets her own way.
I really want you ex to have an A0 hamster poster in her front room.

I'd probably feel like this even if your exh was an ok guy, it's just a pleasing idea.

JudgeJ · 13/05/2022 21:24

PurpleParrotfish · 13/05/2022 17:05

I think I read that in the US it’s used to abuse women specifically, is that right @SenecaFallsRedux ? Whereas in the UK it’s a very non-family friendly swear word that would be offensive in most situations, but isn’t targeted in that way. So is even used e.g. in friendly banter between blokes in some circles, “Hi, how’s it going you big cunt”

Until coming on to MN I had only ever heard the word used towards women and I'm in the UK. It's not a word I would use towards anyone.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 13/05/2022 21:40

ShirleyPhallus · 12/05/2022 20:14

Excellent

This reminds me of my old work which had a few computers in the shared space where people could check social media / personal emails etc. One guy used to spend so much time there that he was regularly missing work deadlines etc, people got quite annoyed about it as he was obviously shirking.

Someone (anonymously) changed the screensavers on those computers for a message to scroll saying GO BACK TO YOUR DESK AND DO SOME WORK ALAN

This thread is so riddled with posters trying to keep that ridiculous post going that nuggets like these two are swept aside. I love the subtlety of both; very funny too. Grin

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 13/05/2022 21:44

SpaceFarce · 13/05/2022 19:52

My favourite part of this thread is @Indicatrice thinking she comes across as witty and clever, when in reality everyone is thinking the opposite. Perfect for a petty thread, really 😅

You just sound spiteful. Are you trying to rally some more chums to bang on about it again? It's really tiresome and cluttering up what is a really amusing thread.

ThomasinaGallico · 13/05/2022 22:31

I was once in a house share which started off OK and then people started to leave, being replaced by others who were not so nice to live with. Gradually the atmosphere began to sour. It became harder to get money off people for the gas and electric (prepay meter) and they started to try pulling a fast one over the itemised phone bill (this was before widespread mobiles and GDPR complications). Then my wine got raided from the fridge, and the last straw was when a fiver went missing from my bedroom.

I moved out a few weeks later. I was the TV licence holder for that address; nobody had asked, so I didn’t tell them. I simply changed the address and left them to work it out. I even took back my ironing board that I was going to leave behind. 😂

Nevergoingtobemrsjones · 13/05/2022 22:38

proudbrows · 13/05/2022 21:04

My ex husband had been an absolute dick, out on the lash for days, when he finally came home, absolutely hanging, the lovely Jehovah’s witnesses knocked on the door (I say lovely because once, after this, when they knocked when I had glandular fever and could barely move they offered to go shopping for me. I said no but I’ve never forgotten the kindness of that) Instead of politely listening at the door for a few minutes like I usually did, I invited them in, made them a cup of tea, sat them down with my husband and fucked off out shopping

I did something similar
years ago,they knocked on my door-my ex answered and told them I was busy with the kids but if they came back a week Monday (my only day off-at the time he lived 36 miles away and wouldn’t be at mine by then) I’d be in to listen to them
So I waited-week Monday arrived and they knocked
i made a point of looking puzzled, then the ‘penny dropped’
’oh’ says I ‘him?yes I know him-I have him to stay Friday to Sundays-he is in the local mental hospital in the week,he’s harmless just not very well mentally,poor lamb-guess god has his own reasons’

they saw him get off his bus a few weeks later and they ran away from him

same ex reeeaaalllllly pissed me off one day,so I waited until he’d gone to the shop and logged into his fb
signed him up to over 100 ‘big cocks/gay/I heart anal’ pages
i knew it would come up on his mums wall that ‘notmrsboyfriend likes big black cock’ etc
it caused hell-he was so homophobic-best bit was it took him years to unlike them all as he didn’t know that all he had to do was go into his groups and unlike
he was forced to delete them as they came up in his feed-I’m sure there will still be random ones on there

best revenge was our ds grew up-and came out last year-I couldn’t be more proud of the man he’s become but ex is hating the fact he has a ‘faggot’ (not my words!) for a son

Zazaz · 13/05/2022 22:40

Petty not PA

Saw a nice outdoor table and chair set positioned at the front of a nearby driveway - looked as though it was there to be taken. Thought I better double check so I knocked on the door to ask if it was going free. Bloke opened the door and when I asked, he looked at me like I was completely mad and said "of course it's not, can't you see it's on my bloody drive". I was taken aback at his rudeness but politely said "well just so you know it does look like it's there to be taken".

A couple of days later I went past again and there was a sign on the gate saying "please return our table and chairs"

Oh how I laughed!

SpaceFarce · 13/05/2022 22:43

Indicatrice · 13/05/2022 20:51

How sad, the thread is full of some really good anecdotes and yet your favourite part is a part that doesn’t exist, as I’ve neither said or implied that I’m witty or clever.

You have contributed nothing to the thread except to join a pile on. Hope it’s been fulfilling.

It really, genuinely has. Thank you 😘

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