Page 18 | Best passive aggressive/petty moments..

LittleMissUnreasonable · 2022-05-11T15:49:00+00:00

The other day I was trying to park in one of those private run car parks where there are no designated spaces. There was only one quite awkward space left and there was another car behind me who was practically sat on my tail trying to get this awkward spot. I decided to reverse out and find another car park but this tailgating car was not letting me go go as they were so hell-bent on getting this space and were trying to go around me. I just thought screw it and drove into the spot as I had nowhere to go. You could practically see the red mist coming from the driver's ears as they had to reverse and find another car park 😤 Another consistent one is that we have a manager who will without fail walk up to a small group of colleagues with a query and direct it to the men, completely ignoring the women. So now, even if I know the answer and the male colleague doesn't, I will just get on with my work and not intervene. It's funny to see the manager flapping around trying to work out the answer when he could have just asked...you know...a woman😱

Indicatrice · 13/05/2022 12:33

PlentyOFool · 12/05/2022 21:28

I imagine they're getting some small, cheap thrill from being deliberately ornery and obtuse, or maybe they're actually this inept at reading. Either way, it's tiresome

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Well, no, I’m engaging with the posts in good faith. It’s you and others like you that keep making personal attacks and bringing up previous posts even though the thread has moved on. One wonders what you hope to gain by it? I’d say that you’re the ones getting cheap thrills, but each to their own.

Luckily, the opinion of you and others like you means so little to me it’s laughable.

Kat1953 · 13/05/2022 13:09

Oh my god - are you guys still at it??

For the sake of the sanity of everyone else reading this thread, give it a rest, please!

PipeScatter · 13/05/2022 13:23

On the misspelling of names front, my DH always thought it was strange that a relative spells his first name wrong, given that they're pretty close relatives.

I discovered the other day that DH has been spelling their surname wrong for over 30 years! So now I'm wondering whether his name will miraculously start being spelled correctly when he next sends them something!

TreatTrimTame · 13/05/2022 13:36

A few months before a friends wedding her fiance left and she had paid around 10k worth of deposits and money that was never reimbursed. He also had not paid a penny towards the wedding as he convinced her to pay out the deposits and he would sort his half off the balances. Walked out that morning and she has never seen him since or had a conversation with him since. Any initial texts she sent were ignored so she quickly stopped sending them. A few weeks later his new girlfriend was plastered all over his social media.

He worked away a lot for work and all his flights were booked by his office, who had his details, however he held his own passport. Before taking bags of his belongings to his mothers she cut his face off his passport. He only realised when he was in the airport. She got a text from him (her first since the day he left) angrily asking her if she knows how much money she has just wasted and how inconvenient and childish it is. He would now have to rearrange his meetings and these were important people he was dealing with. No self awareness of what he did to her and how much money and time she wasted or the important family members that had booked accommodation for the wedding and had to be let down etc..

ScreamingMeMe · 13/05/2022 13:52

TalkingCat · 13/05/2022 11:25

@TaysideTeuchter Cunt is an acceptable word on Mumsnet, it's not bannable. It is, after all, a UK site. The word cunt is like saying house or car or dinner in the UK. It's an acceptable word that everyone on here seems to use. I don't like the word and rarely use it, but it's a UK site and the word cunt is perfectly acceptable in the UK.

It depends where in the UK you are. It's still considered The Worst Word Ever in many places. Its certainly not bandied about causally where I live.

Anyway, not banned in Mumsnet, no. So type what you like 😀

ScreamingMeMe · 13/05/2022 14:01

Anyway: I once wrote "wanker" in pencil on the underside of nasty colleague number 1's chair, and "arsehole" under the other's.

KettrickenSmiled · 13/05/2022 14:09

@ScreamingMeMe 😂😂😂That is SO perfect!

Are you British, by any chance? 🎩

SchadenfreudePersonified · 13/05/2022 15:12

ThatWriterInTheCorner · 12/05/2022 09:21

If you know me you'll already know this story, so this will absolutely out me, but I enjoy telling it so I don't care. On my first day back to work after mat leave with DD, our resident office knobber decided to share his opinion that "if" he ever had children then he and his (entirely theoretical) partner would never put them into nursery. Instead, he would earn enough money for his partner to stay at home and look after their baby. Lovely.

Important background info: Office Knobber, like many of us, often ate his lunch at his desk, using cutlery borrowed from the office canteen for this purpose. The canteen staff (quite reasonably) didn't appreciate us wandering off with all their cutlery, and would regularly make requests for the return of all their missing items. At the time, Office Knobber had managed to accumulate a massive collection of spoons and forks. (He wasn't going to take the cutlery back to the canteen, on account of being A Very Important Knobber.)

So I waited until he was out of the office for a good four-day stretch, and then I collected up all his spoons and forks from where they were scattered among his belongings and laid them out in a long, neat row, right across his desk. There were really quite a lot of them. It looked amazing. Also,completely unhinged. After a while, a couple of people walked past his desk and saw it and said, "That's brilliant" and then the word obviously got out, because over the next four days, people started coming from all over the building to make a pilgrimage to see the desk of this strange, strange man, inexplicably covered with contraband cutlery. My proudest moment was when the factory manager came from over the road to have a look. (We were all in marketing, and were therefore a bit annoying and poncey, so having someone with a real job like Factory Manager come and visit us in our natural habitat felt like a special experience).

The best part was that most of our visitors thought he'd done it himself, for inexplicable Knobber reasons of his own. The general consensus seemed to be that 1) this was somehow about what they'd expect of him (somehow) and 2) they'd always thought he was a wrong 'un and were glad to have their suspicions confirmed.

And then when he came back, I got the enjoy the even bettest best part: before he could even put down his laptop, he had to collect up all the cutlery and do the Walk Of Shame up to the canteen to return it. And because there was so much of it, all the canteen staff hated him for ever more and he always got the edge piece on pie day and he never got extra chips ever, ever again. And for the rest of his time at the company, he was known throughout every department as "that weird marketing guy who had all the cutlery on his desk".

Revenge: a dish best served with seventeen spoons and twenty-one forks.

This is one of the best things I've ever read.

At our university we had a "Spoon Police". This woman was paid many 000s of our English pounds to do a job but instead spent all day every day (or so it felt) sending out e mails to the ENTIRE LANGUAGES AND LINGUISTICS SCHOOL saying "Whoever has taken a teaspoon from the coffee room PLEASE RETURN IT IMMEDIATELY".

One of my colleagues, a senior lecturer, left to take up a post abroad. She bought 4 dozen cheap teaspoons, tied them together with nylon cord (about 2" between spoons), and pinned them the the Spoon Police's notice board with "Here you are, X - knock yourself out. With my love and appreciation for all of your messages over the years".

SenecaFallsRedux · 13/05/2022 16:05

It's still considered The Worst Word Ever in many places. Its certainly not bandied about causally where I live.

It's pretty much the Second Worst Word Ever in the US. So much so that I have never heard it spoken aloud in my entire life. It's been an adjustment to see it bandied about on MN.

PurpleParrotfish · 13/05/2022 17:05

I think I read that in the US it’s used to abuse women specifically, is that right @SenecaFallsRedux ? Whereas in the UK it’s a very non-family friendly swear word that would be offensive in most situations, but isn’t targeted in that way. So is even used e.g. in friendly banter between blokes in some circles, “Hi, how’s it going you big cunt”

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 13/05/2022 17:07

TreatTrimTame · 13/05/2022 13:36

A few months before a friends wedding her fiance left and she had paid around 10k worth of deposits and money that was never reimbursed. He also had not paid a penny towards the wedding as he convinced her to pay out the deposits and he would sort his half off the balances. Walked out that morning and she has never seen him since or had a conversation with him since. Any initial texts she sent were ignored so she quickly stopped sending them. A few weeks later his new girlfriend was plastered all over his social media.

He worked away a lot for work and all his flights were booked by his office, who had his details, however he held his own passport. Before taking bags of his belongings to his mothers she cut his face off his passport. He only realised when he was in the airport. She got a text from him (her first since the day he left) angrily asking her if she knows how much money she has just wasted and how inconvenient and childish it is. He would now have to rearrange his meetings and these were important people he was dealing with. No self awareness of what he did to her and how much money and time she wasted or the important family members that had booked accommodation for the wedding and had to be let down etc..

I love this one.

ScreamingMeMe · 13/05/2022 18:03

KettrickenSmiled · 13/05/2022 14:09

@ScreamingMeMe 😂😂😂That is SO perfect!

Are you British, by any chance? 🎩

Of course 😆

SenecaFallsRedux · 13/05/2022 18:04

PurpleParrotfish · 13/05/2022 17:05

I think I read that in the US it’s used to abuse women specifically, is that right @SenecaFallsRedux ? Whereas in the UK it’s a very non-family friendly swear word that would be offensive in most situations, but isn’t targeted in that way. So is even used e.g. in friendly banter between blokes in some circles, “Hi, how’s it going you big cunt”

Yes, that's right. In the US, it's only used for women, and it's considered a deeply misogynistic slur.

HappyCup · 13/05/2022 18:08

SenecaFallsRedux · 13/05/2022 18:04

Yes, that's right. In the US, it's only used for women, and it's considered a deeply misogynistic slur.

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It’s interesting how various countries have completely different feelings about it. In Australia it’s almost a term of endearment.

HappyCup · 13/05/2022 18:08

SenecaFallsRedux · 13/05/2022 18:04

Yes, that's right. In the US, it's only used for women, and it's considered a deeply misogynistic slur.

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It’s interesting how various countries have completely different feelings about it. In Australia it’s almost a term of endearment.

HappyCup · 13/05/2022 18:09

No idea why that posted twice, sorry!

Somethingsnappy · 13/05/2022 18:23

This one isn't an example of pettiness or passive-aggression, but was a satisfying little revenge moment nonetheless.

A long time ago, in my early twenties, some friends and I were in a pub in the Scottish Highlands. There was a table of German (male) students near us, and they kept talking about us (I speak German). I had to walk past their table to go to the toilets, and as I passed, one of the blokes reached out and smacked or pinched my bum. I didn't react at the time, but about 15 minutes later, my (very attractive) friend and I went over to them. I bent down and whispered in the ear of the pincher/smacker, in German (to make sure they knew I'd understood what they'd been saying about us), 'are two women too much for you?'. He looked all flustered and stuttered, 'no no!'. I said, 'well, come on then'. He jumped up, grabbed his coat etc and followed us to the door, with his friends cheering. We waited until he got to the door, and then I turned around, and said something along the lines of, 'in your dreams'. He had to skulk back to his friends, who thought it was hilarious. He took it in good humour, to be fair. Hopefully he thought twice before doing the same thing again to someone else!

ChateauxNeufDePoop · 13/05/2022 18:44

HappyCup · 13/05/2022 18:09

No idea why that posted twice, sorry!

Because you're a....

😉

LifesTooShortForYourNonsense · 13/05/2022 18:52

This is horrible. Life is too short- there’s plenty of crap in the world, I’ve no idea why anyone would want to spread more. What an awful thread ☹️

Spuffcat · 13/05/2022 18:55

These are hilarious 😂. I love petty revenge and am ninja 🥷 grade annoying. Put smoke alarm with dying battery underneath neighbour windows after they had kept me up partying. That intermittent beep must have driven them mad.

I have committed many mischievous petty pranks on those who have wronged me. It makes me laugh and feel better about it 😂

Spuffcat · 13/05/2022 18:58

SchadenfreudePersonified · 13/05/2022 15:12

This is one of the best things I've ever read.

At our university we had a "Spoon Police". This woman was paid many 000s of our English pounds to do a job but instead spent all day every day (or so it felt) sending out e mails to the ENTIRE LANGUAGES AND LINGUISTICS SCHOOL saying "Whoever has taken a teaspoon from the coffee room PLEASE RETURN IT IMMEDIATELY".

One of my colleagues, a senior lecturer, left to take up a post abroad. She bought 4 dozen cheap teaspoons, tied them together with nylon cord (about 2" between spoons), and pinned them the the Spoon Police's notice board with "Here you are, X - knock yourself out. With my love and appreciation for all of your messages over the years".

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I am not worthy, that makes my stories seem weak and feeble!!! 🤣🤣🤣

Poppingmad123 · 13/05/2022 19:20

When I was at uni, I was going through a tough breakup and was sat in my bedroom upset, when one of my flat mates starts banging on my door. Initially normal knocking, so I ignored it as I really wasn’t up for visitors but she then started banging louder and louder and shouting I know you’re in there along with some abuse. Blimey, I wasn’t going to open it now. It turns out the reason she was banging and going ballistic was because she thought I had drank her milk! Wtf 😳 I didn’t. I always shopped regularly for myself and wouldn’t take anyone else things anyway. Never needed to. But she decided to repay me for something I didn’t do by putting fairy liquid in my coca-cola. I had never had a bad word with her so why she suddenly flipped out without any evidence like that is beyond me. Ive always remembered that, how petty she was but also dangerous that she could have caused me harm.

Everydaydayisaschoolday · 13/05/2022 19:24

TalkingCat · 13/05/2022 11:25

@TaysideTeuchter Cunt is an acceptable word on Mumsnet, it's not bannable. It is, after all, a UK site. The word cunt is like saying house or car or dinner in the UK. It's an acceptable word that everyone on here seems to use. I don't like the word and rarely use it, but it's a UK site and the word cunt is perfectly acceptable in the UK.

I live in the U.K. and although it's a word that's often heard and is certainly used a lot on here ImI think it's overstating it to say it's 'perfectly acceptable'. It's a word I have occasionally used in extremis but it's not even on the level of shit or bloody let alone house or car!

I'm thinking of my two largest groups of friends which total about 25 people, mostly London raised and a few immigrants who have lived here a long time. I have never yet heard one of them call anyone a cunt - not even when they deserved it.

margesimpson40 · 13/05/2022 19:32

no the manager was rude, bad customer service, he deserved it.

LittleMissMe99 · 13/05/2022 19:32

Find it interesting you assume they are being judgmental when all they did was "look". In actuality isn't it you judging them by assuming what they are thinking? So YOU judged them and made them walk 40 minutes in hot weather.