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Best passive aggressive/petty moments..
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LittleMissUnreasonable · 11/05/2022 16:49

The other day I was trying to park in one of those private run car parks where there are no designated spaces. There was only one quite awkward space left and there was another car behind me who was practically sat on my tail trying to get this awkward spot. I decided to reverse out and find another car park but this tailgating car was not letting me go go as they were so hell-bent on getting this space and were trying to go around me. I just thought screw it and drove into the spot as I had nowhere to go. You could practically see the red mist coming from the driver's ears as they had to reverse and find another car park 😤

Another consistent one is that we have a manager who will without fail walk up to a small group of colleagues with a query and direct it to the men, completely ignoring the women. So now, even if I know the answer and the male colleague doesn't, I will just get on with my work and not intervene. It's funny to see the manager flapping around trying to work out the answer when he could have just asked...you know...a woman😱

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GarlicGnocchi · 11/05/2022 16:52

even if I know the answer and the male colleague doesn't, I will just get on with my work and not intervene. It's funny to see the manager flapping around trying to work out the answer when he could have just asked...you know...a woman😱 why I don't get why you'd do that? Why don't you speak up? Why don't you show him what he's missing. Why don't you call him out somehow?

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LittleMissUnreasonable · 11/05/2022 17:54

@GarlicGnocchi True, he's not the most respected manager and doesn't listen

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BalloonsAndWhistles · 11/05/2022 17:59

I waited years for mine and it finally came a couple of months ago. My ex-husband was a wanker for years, violent and never paid maintenance. Anyhow, he and his lucky fiancé have set the date and I waited with baited breath for him to call me to ask for the divorce papers as I knew he never collected them from the court. When he finally did I told him to jog on and laughed. I wouldn’t even tell him the year/month we divorced so he would have had to pay for a search 😆

My now DH and I had a proper giggle at that.

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Cyderdelic · 11/05/2022 18:10

I do love a petty moment! one of my favourites has to be from a few years ago. Went to visit a small castle where you have to collect the key to the gate from a shop in the village about 20 mins walk away.

Was a very hot day, and as I was walking back after locking up nodded a hello towards a couple walking up to the castle. They gave me a disapproving look which Im used to as Im very heavily tattooed and a bit of a scruff bag when out walking in the countryside.

So, I neglected to mention that I had the only key, and there was no way they could have got close to even seeing the castle thanks to the moat and overgrown mound all around it, and because of their simple failure to acknowledge my hello.

Had a good laugh in the shop where you pick the key up from upon returning it as it was so hot and they could have saved themselves a 40 min walk had they not been so judgemental.

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itsmeagainlol · 11/05/2022 18:13

I made sure the divorce papers arrived for my ex husband on our wedding anniversary. A tiny revenge for years of verbal and emotional abuse and neglect.
Fuck him was the clear message.

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LittleMissUnreasonable · 11/05/2022 19:00

So pleased you got out of your marriages @BalloonsAndWhistles and @itsmeagainlol !! Love the pettiness as well 😉

@Cyderdelic that's brilliant!! Serves them right for being so judgemental.

I've had similar where I've been in a shop and must have been in someone's way, so said "oh I'm sorry!" Moved and smiled. I got a Paddington Bear hard stare back. So I pushed my trolley ever so slightly in their way and pretended to not notice until they had to politely say excuse me

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CaptSkippy · 11/05/2022 19:01

I have a project manager who loves to talk down to me and has clearly no idea what I do and what my expertise is. I let him struggle to fulfill his clients' needs. I have enough to be getting on with and have neither the time nor the patience to correct the behavior of stupid men.

If it was my direct line-manager and it would hinder my work, I'd speak up. But otherwise I really don't care.

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LittleMissUnreasonable · 11/05/2022 23:22

@CaptSkippy sounds similar to my situation , my manager in question doesn't hinder my work, only their own by being so narrow minded

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XenoBitch · 12/05/2022 00:21

I am a member of a community workshop type place, and we can store stuff there in boxes. Had a massive falling out with another member, so she moved her box away from mine, and placed it right at the other end of the shelving as far away as possible.
I thought that was pretty pathetic and petty. She was in her 50s!

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Kat1953 · 12/05/2022 00:36

One part of my family are experts at passive aggression. They are so good at it, that it makes it really very difficult to have an open conversation about anything that needs go be addressed - from minor annoyances to big issues.

Very occasionally, when they've succeeded in winding me up to a sufficient degree and stifled any attempt to address whatever it is, and I am making tea, I deliberately make their tea very badly.

A terrible cup of tea is their just-desserts and it makes me feel marginally better.

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VintageGibbon · 12/05/2022 00:41

I once queued for ages in John Lewis at Christmas with a basket full of presents. When I got to the front of the queue and handed over my credit card they kept staring and smirking at me, then called security to public escort me away for having stolen my own card. After interrogating me they realised they'd made a mistake and escorted me back and told me to rejoin the back of the queue. I walked to the middle of the shop floor, tipped the basket upside down and walked out. The look on that petty manager's face was worth it.

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PomBearWithoutHerOFRS · 12/05/2022 01:36

I did once give in to "shop rage" in Aldi.
I was putting a full shop on the conveyor belt, and the woman behind me started putting hera on without leaving any room for the rest of mine, tutting and rolling her eyes and obviously In A Hurry.
I just abandoned my own still half full trolley, sauntered down the line, said "sorry, but it's this or punch her" to the checkout person, and walked out.

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FlissyPaps · 12/05/2022 01:46

When I was at uni and lived in student accommodation one of my flat mates left a note on the fridge saying something a long the lines of “I have spent X amount of hours vacuuming and cleaning the kitchen. Can we all keep it clean going forwards”.

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Kanaloa · 12/05/2022 01:52

FlissyPaps

When I was at uni and lived in student accommodation one of my flat mates left a note on the fridge saying something a long the lines of “I have spent X amount of hours vacuuming and cleaning the kitchen. Can we all keep it clean going forwards”.

Is this petty? If everyone else was messing it up all the time and she did all the cleaning I can see why she’d want it to be kept clean going forward. I can’t abide by messiness and dirtiness though - I often think I’m glad I’m at uni as a mature student because I couldn’t have coped in student digs if I had a messy house mate!

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FlissyPaps · 12/05/2022 01:59

Kanaloa

FlissyPaps

When I was at uni and lived in student accommodation one of my flat mates left a note on the fridge saying something a long the lines of “I have spent X amount of hours vacuuming and cleaning the kitchen. Can we all keep it clean going forwards”.

Is this petty? If everyone else was messing it up all the time and she did all the cleaning I can see why she’d want it to be kept clean going forward. I can’t abide by messiness and dirtiness though - I often think I’m glad I’m at uni as a mature student because I couldn’t have coped in student digs if I had a messy house mate!

Incredibly petty and passive aggressive.

We were a tight group. All she had to do was say to us face to face “guys, this kitchen’s getting a bit dirty, can we all take an hour out of our day to clean up as a team”. Not leaving silly notes on the fridge for us to find.

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Kanaloa · 12/05/2022 02:07

Yes I guess she could have spoken to you about it rather than leave a note. Maybe she felt like you guys would get defensive about it? Now I’m even more glad I didn’t have to do the communal living experience!

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DifficultBloodyWoman · 12/05/2022 02:32

Someone came to the office to see my Bastard Boss. Bastard Boss asked me if they were there to serve court papers on him. I didn’t know and Bastard Boss refused to see them and told me to say that he was out and escort them from the building.

Whilst I was escorting them from the building, I pointed out that if they were there to serve papers on Bastard Boss, it was very easy to bypass both reception and my office to get to Bastard Boss’s office. I even pointed out which door led to Bastard Boss’s office.

15 minutes later Bastard Boss came storming into my office to complain bitterly about the poor security in the building and to change our afternoon meetings because he had to see his solicitor and accountant ASAP.

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kshaw · 12/05/2022 03:06

ExH when on the phone to DD always suggests things we could do 'why don't you and mummy go to soft play today?' etc... really annoys me as I generally have plans with her and I'd never do that to him. So he was on the phone saying he'd bought some new poster sized photo frames for his living room. I piped up with 'i think a picture of your hamster (that lives with me) would look good in them' and now my hamster obsessed 5 year old wants a poster sized photo of her hamster in his living room 😂

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LesMimas · 12/05/2022 04:10

I piped up with 'i think a picture of your hamster (that lives with me) would look good in them' and now my hamster obsessed 5 year old wants a poster sized photo of her hamster in his living room 😂

Love this! So innocent yet so evil 😁

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Flatandhappy · 12/05/2022 04:33

Years ago I worked as an usherette in a small theatre whilst in my last year at Uni. I briefly dated a well known theatre director I met there and one evening we joined some of the cast of his play for dinner. When I sat down at the table and he introduced me to the group one of the actresses rather sarkily said “oh, so you want to be an actress then” clearly insinuating I was screwing my way to a role. I laughed cheerfully and said “ God no, can’t think of anything worse, I want to be a clinical psychologist”. Petty but fun.

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1000yellowdaisies · 12/05/2022 04:43

BalloonsAndWhistles

I waited years for mine and it finally came a couple of months ago. My ex-husband was a wanker for years, violent and never paid maintenance. Anyhow, he and his lucky fiancé have set the date and I waited with baited breath for him to call me to ask for the divorce papers as I knew he never collected them from the court. When he finally did I told him to jog on and laughed. I wouldn’t even tell him the year/month we divorced so he would have had to pay for a search 😆

My now DH and I had a proper giggle at that.

That is excellent 👌

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StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 12/05/2022 05:42

When DS turned 3 SIL bought him a small nerf gun. We werent particularly impressed. 4 years later when her DS turned 3 DH managed to find the same small nerf gun. SIL looked horrified and said who buys such a gift for a small child? DH looked her in the eye and said you did. 😁

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dustandroses · 12/05/2022 05:43

@FlissyPaps
Incredibly petty and passive aggressive.
We were a tight group. All she had to do was say to us face to face “guys, this kitchen’s getting a bit dirty, can we all take an hour out of our day to clean up as a team”. Not leaving silly notes on the fridge for us to find.


or you could have just cleaned up without being asked especially if it took her hours 🤔

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DoItAfraid · 12/05/2022 05:56

dustandroses

@FlissyPaps
Incredibly petty and passive aggressive.
We were a tight group. All she had to do was say to us face to face “guys, this kitchen’s getting a bit dirty, can we all take an hour out of our day to clean up as a team”. Not leaving silly notes on the fridge for us to find.


or you could have just cleaned up without being asked especially if it took her hours 🤔

Totally agree!

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DoItAfraid · 12/05/2022 05:56

StrictlyAFemaleFemale

When DS turned 3 SIL bought him a small nerf gun. We werent particularly impressed. 4 years later when her DS turned 3 DH managed to find the same small nerf gun. SIL looked horrified and said who buys such a gift for a small child? DH looked her in the eye and said you did. 😁

Brilliant.

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