Best passive aggressive/petty moments..

[LittleMissUnreasonable]

The other day I was trying to park in one of those private run car parks where there are no designated spaces. There was only one quite awkward space left and there was another car behind me who was practically sat on my tail trying to get this awkward spot. I decided to reverse out and find another car park but this tailgating car was not letting me go go as they were so hell-bent on getting this space and were trying to go around me. I just thought screw it and drove into the spot as I had nowhere to go. You could practically see the red mist coming from the driver's ears as they had to reverse and find another car park 😤

Another consistent one is that we have a manager who will without fail walk up to a small group of colleagues with a query and direct it to the men, completely ignoring the women. So now, even if I know the answer and the male colleague doesn't, I will just get on with my work and not intervene. It's funny to see the manager flapping around trying to work out the answer when he could have just asked...you know...a woman😱

@ShirleyPhallus I also didn't understand that the husband was the black, young man in this situation... was a bit confused (or just thick!) Thanks @Kanaloa

@Kanaloa I think poster and myself are taking issue with @BeforeGodAndAllTheFish who got aggressive

Your explanation was needed and now makes sense of the original post so thanks!

Reading comprehension really has gone downhill.

Yes I know 😂 I was just explaining that I was also confused initially. But luckily not ‘too thick’ to figure it out. Bit mean to call people ‘thick.’ The person who asks is stupid for a minute but the one who doesn’t ask is stupid all his life etc. I think the stupidest people are those who pretend they already know everything. Clever people are those who ask when they don’t know, because then they know!

That is neither passive nor aggressive.
They cleaned it all so you were all starting from the same acceptable level of cleanliness and assertively but politely asked that it be kept clean going forward.

Passive aggressive would cleaning one salad box of the fridge and keeping all their stuff in there, one shelf of a cupboard and only using that, washing their own things and piling up the dirty stuff outside other peoples bedroom door.

So has spelling 🤦🏻‍♀️

You're just thick and COUNT figure it out

Please see the original post.

His exact words were ‘Madam, that’s not my problem’.

So have basic manners and graciousness, but oh well!

I bloody love this.

Proper made me chuckle.

Mine is a small act.
A boss of a small company asked the company I worked for to do a favour.
I got lumbered with the favour which involved 45 minutes of my day every day until ??? A point in the future.
I had to do this favour later on in the day because my own job.
This one day, I went to do my 45 minutes. As I was leaving I pulled the bin out for the cleaner who was in the office. The boss of small company said something like "I have OCD and we dont leave bins or chairs out here " I replied, "I dont have to enable you" and I walked out.
I think I only did that favour for another week or so.

This was a few years ago now. Me and OH have lived together for 35 years but haven't married and, when sending cards, OH's sil always addressed me as 'Miss'. Being middle-aged this irritated me and made me feel like she was belittling me, as she has a fine line in put downs. I waited for the right opportunity and at the family gathering where she was present, once dinner had been eaten and everyone was still sitting at the table, a little merry by now, asked her if she called me 'Miss' because she thought I was still a virgin. OH's family enjoy ribald humour, though I'm known for being the quiet one, so the table erupted in loud hilarity at something like this being said by me. Of course, the question then had to be asked 'DO you think Handy is still a virgin?'. Her blushes were a picture.

Yes, exactly, he didn’t say ‘Not my problem’. 🤦🏽‍♀️

Great comeback. I and all the other “thick” posters who didn’t understand the (pretty confusing) sentences graciously accept your apology

@Buffyismyaltaego

What on earth does, "I think poster and myself," mean?
Im guessing you meant to say, "I think poster and I."

Mumsnet has a bit of a problem with racism. A lot of posters doing the, "oh, what difference does being black" make thing.

A woman write a paragraph about her husband being a black man. Then a separate paragraph about a white customer. It really wasnt confusing. Pretending not to realise that being black would make him a target is a classic mumsnet line.

So either, you're being disingenuous and pretending you dont understand racism. Or you genuinely dont know about racism.

I hadnt considered it was simply very poor reading comprehension.

I think you mean a woman ‘wrote.’ It’s also hadn’t rather than hadnt, wasn’t instead of wasnt, I’m rather than Im, and you don’t need a comma after either. For better flow, you could include a comma after ‘so.’

There, that’s my pettiest moment.

No, I don’t. But I don’t think she should have tipped the basket upside down either, better to use your words..

Right, you’re so keen to call out racism that you mightn’t have stopped to see that I was actually calling out potential racism myself by asking why the poster had even mentioned someone being black?

This sentence:
Back in the late 60s early 70s credit cards were less common and he often had issues as obviously a young black man had probably stolen the card
Could easily be read as this:
Back in the late 60s early 70s credit cards were less common and he often had issues as obviously it was young black men who had probably stolen the card.

Just be gracious and accept that you were unnecessarily rude in what was actually a very confusing sentence, which lots have other people have said they didn’t fully understand. I was actually calling out potential racism myself and instead you called me thick.

Agreed that speaking up would have been better.

@Kanaloa 👏🏻
I'm also not sure what the end of this sentence is supposed to mean A lot of posters doing the, "oh, what difference does being black" make thing.

@ShirleyPhallus I also read your initial comment as pointing out racism as I also interpreted the post your way.

Anyway, poor original poster who probably quickly wrote down an anecdote now having her post dissected, but all cleared up now.

@Kanaloa

There is a massive difference between typos and writing, "The poster and myself."

That's another common mumsnet phrase. It's always, "My husband and myself" or, "He gave it to myself".

Never just I or me.

It isnt a typo or text speak. It is entirely the wrong word.

"Poster and myself" makes absolutely no sense.

at BeforeGod poorly comprehending* what multiple people were confused by, then berating us for poor comprehension!

I didn't take my DH's surname on marriage. He would have liked me to, but has accepted my decision. He now jokingly, every so often, crosses through my surname on envelopes and puts his own surname instead.

So now we're waged in a silent petty war of him changing my name on the post, shortly followed by me hiding all the pens in the house so he can't do it again (and by "hiding" I mean putting them away where they're supposed to be. He never looks there!)

Neither of us has acknowledged what we're doing, but I know we both just find it amusing now!

It’s ‘isn’t.’ Not isnt. Also, when you’re quoting a short sentence or single word, all punctuation should fall within the quotations. ‘Like this.’ Unless you’re using MLA citations, in which case you should include your in work citations before punctuation. Like this - ‘I am an officious little SPAG corrector despite having poor SPAG myself’ (BGAATF).

Go one step further and change his surname to yours!

Yes he did.

The fact he also said the words 'madam' and 'that's' changes nothing.

Madam doesn't make a sentence polite. It can equally be used to be breathtakingly rude.