to not want to go on holiday ever again

[noborisno]

Anyone else just not bothered about going on holiday and would rather be home?

Just wondering if how many others feel the same way. I'm just not bothered and even find it a hassle. I could not care less if I was never to go abroad again in my life. I do like weekends away but anything longer I just want to be home again.

All sorts of things really. These days mostly in UK or France. Ideally train, not plane. Flights only at reasonable times. I use Booking.com to find nice flats or cottages to stay in, it's less flaky than AirBNB and usually cheaper/bigger than hotels. We do a big shop at the beginning to get in basics for breakfast and lunch and then we usually go out for dinner, even if it's just cheap pizza or street food. I refuse to spend a holiday doing loads of cooking and dishes!

We don't have huge holiday budgets so I'm used to doing a lot of research, at the same time I try to figure out the least stressful way to do everything. I like staying in smaller French towns and cities, like Narbonne or Albi or Avignon, they're pretty relaxed, or for rural we go to the Jura region. The important thing for us is just to get away, someplace with great food and a mix of things to do, that doesn't require too much hassle and isn't too crowded.

Obviously not everyone would enjoy the holidays we like, but I guess I'm just saying that if you refuse to do anything automatically stressful (like 5 am flights!) and do lots of research to find alternatives, you might be able to find a holiday you enjoy? I just don't have the stamina or patience of my youth : ) I can't cope with anything too taxing.

O and sorry about the spelling/grammar of their ect for those that are bothered about it on a chat forum. Thought I better own up before someone mentions it 😆

I just don’t understand why people have to dress up their holiday as some massive educational and cultural experience. It’s not. You get a very, very superficial glimpse. You really don’t ‘get’ the culture from you two weeks hols.

I have moved countries several times and I completely agree with this, it’s spot on.

You do get a glimpse of the culture and yes, it opens your eyes in a way (especially if they were closed before you left home…). But to be completely honest, every time I have moved it has taken me 12-18 months to start understanding what the local culture and customs are actually about.

If you don’t speak the language (fluently, B2/C1 level), if you don’t live with locals for extended periods of time, if you don’t try to navigate council admin / healthcare / jobs and schools in a country, you’re not really experiencing that culture.

I had holidayed in every single country I’ve moved to. It’s still always been a shock, a few months in. It’s nothing like a holiday and all your expectations go fast when you realise that you thought yourself an expert on the country but in reality know nothing.

I’d still encourage people to travel and explore every single country and culture they can, but let’s be really careful with calling ourselves ‘cultured’ after a hike up to Cusco, 2 weeks in Phuket or even a complete museum tour of Madrid. There’s a long way between doing those things and learning the culture.

@Crikeyalmighty Yep I'm definitely with you...Never done a package holiday, I love doing the research and finding great options myself (okay maybe that's a bit sad... : )

Oh, mate.

How can anyone not want to explore our beautiful country and get to know it as we should? My kids have friends who've never been to London but have been to every resort on the Costa Brava, and spent a week in a hotel pool or on the beach. My family have visited almost every county in England and found amazing things everywhere, food, culture, landscapes, wildlife. You don't have to go abroad to expand your horizons.

@LuckySantangelo35

If you feel like you learn a lot from a short stay in an AirBnB in another country, that’s great.

But can you really not see how arrogant and uneducated it makes you seem to assume that such an experience would be as enriching and exciting for everyone as it apparently was for you? And that no one else has access to or interest in other ways to learn about the world which might suit them better, be better for the environment, be better for the poor people who live in countries where tourism distorts the economy to their disadvantage, and would almost certainly lead to deeper insight than your hols?

I love travel, but have learned over the years that I value quality over quantity. I have a lot of places I want to go, but I want to be comfortable so we travel less but more expensively. Driver to the airport, business class, nice hotels, faster security line access, etc.

‘I have also come to realize that I like to have a bit of a home base while traveling (had a blast doing the backpacking thing as a kid, but sounds like my idea of hell now).

We are trying to get creative like small passenger boasts (less than 30 pax) that can get into the less traveled islands in the Caribbean. I’ve got my eye on an Amazon River paddle boat cruise with only 5 cabins and a Bali small boat cruise.

I’m also a bit weird that I have trips in mind for when we are older and less mobile. I’m secretly annoyed that we are going on a trip this summer that I had classified as a retirement trip, I would have been fine waiting to go there until we were much older, but a friend is getting married and my DH is the best man. So, we’re going about 20 years early 😜I’m sure I’ll have fun, but I’m kind of struggling to get excited about it and to figure out what to do when we’re there.

Long story short… travel/don’t travel, do what makes you happy.

I just don’t get the ‘I want to experience a different culture’.
I don’t enjoy being around different cultures. It frightens me because what happening is unfamiliar to me. Customs are unfamiliar. Unpredicable. I’m not sure what I’m meant to do in lots of situations abroad. Weather I’m walking into a rough place likely to get mugged. I feel people are staring at me and I feel like an easy target for scams, haggling, getting ripped off or something far worse.
Am I going to use the wrong etiquette when visiting the beach, resturant, cafe etc. Will there be jelly fish in the sea? Or other dangers I haven’t heard of.
im always on guard when in other countries, always got one eye open for danger (not in an AI hotel or similar). It’s not relaxing at all really.
I wish I didn’t feel like that and would love to just explore without worry. Really jealous of those that can.

The way to find out for sure is to absolutely force yourself to do it (potentially) one last time even if you loathe the idea...and see how it pans out!! I think the major world events have knocked us for six and skewed our perceptions like nothing else. If it does not work out then UK holidays are really great, especially coastal ones. My DCs love them too. I don't find them expensive. We aim for fantastic fish restaurants and stay in regular 4* accommodation so that it still feels relaxed enough to kick back. I don't think that British holidays deserve any of the flack they get on MN

I am in no hurry to rush abroad until I can properly understand for myself where we are with the pandemic (I am finding the recent (and deliberate) lack of regular reporting frustrating). I don't know if we will become regular travelers again in the future (the DCs may when they are older) but I'm satisfied that I almost did 98% of everything I ever wanted to do in terms of traveling.

But its you making the comparison.....I am going to bet that most people who travel for holidays have no more idea of the reality of the country that they visit than they had before they went there.....and swimming with dolphins is touristy beyond measure.
if you or anyone, enjoys travelling abroad for a holiday then say so but don't make out its some great cultural life developing bonus because mostly its not.

But they weren’t a moral issue for you in your younger days, when you did all that travelling?

I hate the bit prior to going away, and we only go on holiday in the UK, its the mental and physical load that always falls entirely to me. I do love it once we are in and unpacked and the wine is poured though We do tend to go to the same places so it feels more familiar, which helps when there are children involved.
I would love to travel more in Europe, I just need to get a passport !
I quite fancy doing a holiday around Europe by train , stopping and staying in various places, need to lose a lot of weight to achieve this travelling light goal.

I live and work to travel, I love exploring the world. But accept that everyone is different. As much as I love my home and my bed, it's all the more sweet when I have been away

I love planning, booking and enjoying the build up. I love it when I’m there. I am not so keen on the actual travelling on the day, the drive to the airport, the process to get on the plane and the flying. I used to love all of it pre children but I find it stressful with them even though they are not little any more. Saying that, it doesn’t and wouldn’t stop me going anywhere. I’m happy to be able to have the freedom to travel again but it’s much more stressful, perhaps it’s an age thing (mine!)

I want to see the world. Landscapes, cultures, foods, languages, different ways of doing things. I want to meet people who are different to me. I want to understand that what I know so far is so little, that my world is not the centre of the world. I want to discover amazing things. What altitude feels like. What swimming in different waters feels like. So many things. I want to see children up late at night, being involved. I want to feel different climates, taste new spices, play new games, see different ways of celebrating. I want to walk across bridges and climb mountains and swim in rivers. I want to watch the landscape going by out of a train window. I want to see how people dress. Look at news birds I have never seen before, ew plants.
I really really want to go on holiday as much as I can.

50 years ago, honestly climate change wasn't the serious concern it is now. Its the same as smoking, asbestos, seatbelts, helmets for bikers.....many many things that were not thought to be dangerous or damaging.....I can remember chesty children being taken out to breath tar fumes when the roads were being mended!

Yeah I get that.
What I resent is people who have travelled frequently in their younger days, seen the world, had their fun, telling younger people that they shouldn’t fly anywhere because it’s ‘morally wrong’.
I try to live in an eco friendly way as much as possible, in all sorts of ways. But my family lives abroad. I will continue to fly to see them without feeling like a moral failure.

Me too, OP. I enjoy weekends away exploring this country but am counting down the days until I come home if I go for longer or further. I'm not anxious about foreign travel and enjoy reading about and watching programmes on other countries and cultures, I just don't feel the need to see them first hand.

I love it. Researching, planning and booking. Camping, city breaks, staycations, Europe, long haul, whatever. I do hate flying but I'll take it because I absolutely love exploring new places. Sometimes it's exhausting, sometimes it's uncomfortable, once in a while it's downright frightening, but it's always different. I also love coming home at the end though - nothing better.

I can't relate to that.

We love going away and always have done. Even when the kids were babies, we did long haul.

I love everything about going away, much as I love home.

God no. I love holidays in this country, holidays abroad, camping, hotels- all of it!

my exH hates holidays, anything more than a couple of nights away and even then he’s so without that happily. It was anxiety.

But so glad he’s an ex and I am now exploring this country and others with my new dp