To not want a career?

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Anybody else feel the same? I’m happy as I am in my job and don’t really want to progress or want a career? I feel like I should want it though?

me personally I think a child would prefer a present and loving parent over materialistic things, another person may see that differently and that’s ok.

People don't just work for money though. I would like my son to be proud that I started a successful business at 27 and think wow that was so cool my mum did that.

Nobody said they would be. The poverty comment was about a hypothetical newly SINGLE woman with children on £30k who suddenly had to RENT.

I agree there’s something insincere about this.

Op you asked me a question then ignored the answer. I presume you didn’t get the answer you wanted.

it’s absolutely fine to not pursue a career. Or pursue one later or not.

However, your posts are littered with dogs at working Parents. You keep saying your husband will regret it. He probably won’t. Especially if he facilitated you staying still in your job for a while.

My children have present and loving parents. But we also work and I progressed my career. Not sure materialistic would even be an assumption or where it comes into it.

Chances are your aren’t anymore nurturing as a parent than average. You are a parent. More than likely an average parent. You made a choice that works for you. But that’s not reflective of how well you parent.

Just be confident in your own choice. You don’t need to try and talk yourself up and others down, to be comfortable with it.

Wanting to meet your rent/mortgage and utility payments and put food in the cupboards isn't materialistic though.

OMG you’re labouring this.

Do whatever works best for you, and best for the children, best for your finances and best for your life after children. It is entirely your call in conjunction with your OH.

The idea that people work for a living because they don’t have nurturing personalities is ridiculous, though. Generally the two reasons for working are 1) Money, 2) Fulfilment.

If you don’t need the money, and you can find fulfilment via a different route that’s fabulous, but it’s opportunity not personality.

This is quite heavy handed and unfair OP.

The vast majority of people have agreed that you shouldn't feel you need to have a career just for the sake of it. And you shouldn't.

But you seem to be wanting to validate this fact by asking people to confirm a lot of slightly old-fashioned and bigoted stuff about how working parents are "materialistic" (in fact most of us do it just to keep a roof over our children's heads) and mothers who don't work are more "nurturing".

Own your life choices as no one has a problem with them but don't use the thread as an excuse to kick working parents, many of whom don't even have the option to stay at home even if they want to.

I’m a nurturer and adore being with my kids as well.

I have a career, too…

A relative minority of people really want to make a career. Leaders are not made. They are born. You would be a leader if you were born with the proper brain structure. If you are not, you will not, no matter how hard you try and what training you attend. So you must understand yourself and accept all your strengths and weaknesses. You will go forward and realize how far you've come. I work in public utilities, and I take my career very seriously because it is public utilities a good career path. Utilities are critical to modern society and help every day.