Well my doubts are now gone because it turns out her neighbour offered her a bloody lift a week ago... the one that borrowed her car for a YEAR and definitely owes her lifts.
But to satisfy demand.
She was asked not to refer to our lovely client as a 'Doris' (derogatory term for old lady) because it pisses both of us off. She carried on doing it and seems to be (in part at least) blaming lovely client for why she can't have a lift from us.
I mentioned it because yeah, I am pissed off that she can't be respectful of our wishes on something as minor as that. It feeds into my 'am I just being a git because she's annoyed me' really.
I didn't want to give tons of info about my disabilities for a variety of reasons, but yeah if I am woken at 6, theres no way I'll go back to sleep, so then I'll need a piss and I won't be able to get up for one. Getting up and back into bed takes ages, and causes a lot of pain and then I'd lie there..awake and more likely to be needing the loo again before he's back (and yes I might not need the loo again... last week i might have been fine, if it were this week well, I'd have had to piss the bed in that time frame, so who knows).
I am dubious about the time she says she has to be there, a/she has form for wanting to be places an hour earlier than necessary and b/I've had multiple appointments there for various clinics, minor surgeries etc, and never had to be there earlier than 8.30. But, I could be wrong, hence 'she says'.
The lift she gave me.. was a one off, to drop me off on holiday, at a time that entirely suited her and she was paid for it (something OH has just pointed out, I was unaware of this as they'd sorted it between them). She regularly taxis people around (for cash, I know), drives for a living and professes to love driving - she could be lying, but I doubt it.
I won't be needing a lift from her for at least the next year or more! She on the other hand.. needs lifts to fetch cars from places, lifts to rescue my dads car from the pub (fair enough, he's my dad too), lifts from the pub, lifts for friends from the pub, lifts to move large furniture, requests to borrow my car (not allowed, it is a motability vehicle).
You are right, a lot of the time I don't like her very much and again, that makes me question am I being pissy because I don't like her sometimes or is she genuinely being unreasonble.
She has a tendancy to be extremely rude to me and to OH, and then demand help, wants paying for favours, is frequently dismissive and ungrateful.
My offer of paying for a taxi, after trying to explain why I didn't think my OH driving her was a viable option, was met with a 'go fuck yourself' and she hung up on me.
I did consider if she was worried about going and I suspect she is (it is minor but probably scary, something I do tend to overlook as its it doesn't really scare me), however she wasn't asking for company AT hospital at all, just a lift and boot her out at the door.
Of course this is just a tiny snippet of the relationship and often she is extremely good company, hysterically funny and can be extremely generous and fiercely loyal.