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To say it’s only a game? Man City supporters wife

132 replies

BadAtMaths2 · 05/05/2022 06:53

First day of holiday likely to be ruined by v grumpy Man City supporter whose first words this morning were ‘it’s such an injustice’.

OP posts:
DinoRock · 05/05/2022 06:54

I wouldn't say that to him no. Do you think he will get violent?

Sharrowgirl · 05/05/2022 06:56

I wouldn’t say it’s only a game to him. It’s a bit inflammatory. Something more along the lines of there’s always next year, there’s still the league to win, sometimes it goes your way, sometimes it doesn’t etc.

Mymindisnotmyown · 05/05/2022 06:57

It’s not only a game. But still he shouldn’t let hit affect him so much that he would take his mood out on you. He’s allowed to be disappointed though.

Saying it’s an injustice is ok.

NancyJoan · 05/05/2022 06:59

I wouldn’t say it, but I would definitely think it.

TokyoSushi · 05/05/2022 07:00

It's not an injustice, they bottled it again! Grin (Huge LFC fan)

Hopefully he gets over it quickly and you have a lovely holiday.

pilates · 05/05/2022 07:01

I wouldn’t

Oblomov22 · 05/05/2022 07:02

I would play it down, not say anything and try and enjoy the rest of your holiday.

teablanket · 05/05/2022 07:05

It's not "just a game" to a lot of people - football has a huge social and cultural importance to people around the world. (and I say this as someone who isn't really a fan)

As with anything, he doesn't have the right to take his disappointment out on you, but he has every right to feel how he feels.

BadAtMaths2 · 05/05/2022 07:06

DinoRock · 05/05/2022 06:54

I wouldn't say that to him no. Do you think he will get violent?

Nooo. We’ll maybe if he met the referee, he’d probably say some terribly thing like ‘I say, that is just not on! and do a mr darcy from Bridget Jones bad feint punch that would miss.

im not going to say it’s just a game but I am going to think it.

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AgnesNaismith · 05/05/2022 07:07

But it is just a game though? Urgh toddler men and their football tantrums are so unattractive.

Knockoneofftheshelftowin · 05/05/2022 07:07

I met a woman once who wouldn't put ketchup on her chips because it was red, she was a blues fan and hated United.

FourChimneys · 05/05/2022 07:08

I really can't summon up any interest in a bunch of sweaty men running round in polyester shirts but it matters to some people so maybe not say too much.

In your position I would take myself off for the day and then plan some activities together in a day or so when he has got over it.

BusterSword · 05/05/2022 07:09

DinoRock · 05/05/2022 06:54

I wouldn't say that to him no. Do you think he will get violent?

You think because he's a football fan he's going to get violent?

Alexaplaysomething · 05/05/2022 07:12

It's really is just a game, people even say "did you see tonight's game?", usually then followed be mind numbingly boring conversation about the performance of other men playing a game those people aren't good enough to play themselves, but feel qualified to comment on as if they are. Yawn.

Blarting · 05/05/2022 07:13

@BusterSword of course, don't you know every male football fan is a violent drunk? It's not a minority, so when Wembley is at 90,000 capacity, with maybe 70000 of them men, they're all violent if their team loses.

Blarting · 05/05/2022 07:15

@BadAtMaths2 it was a shocker though!

Noisyprat · 05/05/2022 07:16

I'm with Agnes on this, I find it a bit pathetic how men become so over the top about what's actually just a game.

Additionally it is widely known that domestic violence increases dramatically when 'their team' loses. Not just here but around the world, it's evidently very bad in NZ if the ABs lose.

cliffdiver · 05/05/2022 07:17

DDs went to watch a profession ladies match recently, they lost.

DH said "Ah well, at least they got to see X number of goals."

I said I'd quote that next time his team lost, he wasn't impressed Grin

Doyoumind · 05/05/2022 07:21

AgnesNaismith · 05/05/2022 07:07

But it is just a game though? Urgh toddler men and their football tantrums are so unattractive.

You might not be interested in football but this is a sexist comment.

OP I would cut him a bit of slack as City came so close and fucked up and it's still raw. People are allowed to be diisapponted when they're passionate about something.

DinoRock · 05/05/2022 07:25

BusterSword · 05/05/2022 07:09

You think because he's a football fan he's going to get violent?

No but I know that some football fans do get violent when their team loses. I wasn't saying OP's DH will, just that if there is a possibility then she has bigger issues.

Ponoka7 · 05/05/2022 07:25

Football might be a game, as such, but it's a big part of our culture and brings in a lot of revenue. It's a hobby and a lifestyle. However defeats shouldn't be affecting behaviour to the point it spoils a holiday. One of my ex's and his family were season ticket holding Evertonians. So were often disappointed. There was two day chat about the defeats and those of us who wasn't that invested would just make the right noises in agreement.

BadAtMaths2 · 05/05/2022 07:32

He’ll get over it. He needs a good long chat with his dad over the minutiae of the game and a boisterous walk with the dog up a glen.

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bigbluebus · 05/05/2022 08:01

It's a phrase we regularly use in this house when we see interviews with animated fans on TV - but then we are a household of non football fans! Don't think I'd risk saying it to someone who takes football seriously though.
Hope he gets over it soon so you can enjoy your holiday!

brookstar · 05/05/2022 08:02

Didn't take long for the 'will he be violent' comments to pop up. Nothing in the op suggests he will be violent. People are allowed to be grumpy! It doesn't mean they will turn violent - even if they are a football fan.

He'll get over it OP. My DH is also a city fan. He was a bit sad last night but he's snapped out of it already.

hangrylady · 05/05/2022 08:03

DinoRock · 05/05/2022 06:54

I wouldn't say that to him no. Do you think he will get violent?

Why on Earth would you think that based on the OP? Are you one of those who thinks all football supporters are wife beating thugs? Ridiculous comment.

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