To say it’s only a game? Man City supporters wife

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First day of holiday likely to be ruined by v grumpy Man City supporter whose first words this morning were ‘it’s such an injustice’.

Exactly, living in Norfolk I've heard all about the drop!
Maybe if it was not such a lower class game, in some people's eyes, their reactions would be different!

Best club in the world! Certainly comes with its share of ups and downs but if you're Leeds then you're leeds for life! Hope for both of us the next few results go our way, I'm so not ready to go back to championship fixtures again 😪

Must be awful following a team like Norwich, it's a constant yo-yo act.
I'm leeds and its still all to play for, until last week I still felt confident but Evertons win at chelsea has thrown up some serious doubts.
Fingers crossed both teams be meeting in the prem again in 2024!

I'm a Real Madrid fan so I was buzzing after the game, but if we had lost then I would have been absolutely heartbroken - it's all part of being a football fan and if someone said "it's just a game" then I'd feel like they were being deliberately condescending and rude in the same way as random men who shout "Smile, love!" to random women. We all know it's a game but when you are invested in it then of course you will be more upset at losing - just like any competition, whether it's outrage your favourite didn't win Bake Off or sad that your fave celeb got voted off Strictly etc

There's nothing wrong with showing emotion (I'm recovering from surgery and have to keep an eye on my blood pressure and it was through the roof last night after the game!) as long as it is proportional - sulk the rest of the night/go over the game with fellow fans the following day and then get over it ... if you're still sulking a week later or at the point of violence then you have a problem with controlling your emotions, not with football.

No, I'm not a fan of the Canaries, I just live here! They are the bounciest team apparently between the Premier and the Championship, a good one for the pub quizzers. At the start of the season I predicted that next season Norwich and my team, in League 1, would be playing each other, my team let me down!

I’ve not seen a woman over the age of 12 mope about for day(s) due to a band splitting up or a shop closing. As for when Michael Jackson died? That’s the one you chose???

I would judge a woman or man the same for creating an atmosphere around their partner the day after they watched a game not go the way they wanted. However, from experience it’s men that do this. It’s also an indicator of abuse.

Additionally it is widely known that domestic violence increases dramatically when 'their team' loses. Not just here but around the world, it's evidently very bad in NZ if the ABs lose.

Whilst this is true, it is also the case that it is possible it’s related to alcohol consumption as the same bounce is seen at weekends and Christmas.

I’m not a football fan, but I think it’s wrong to label people as pathetic for being upset when their team loses. In fact, if my husband was an avid fan and spent a lot of his time going to or watching matches, then was meh if they lost such an important match, I’d be questioning his allegiance to his team.

People are allowed not to be 100% happy 100% of the time.

FFS
I'm a woman and I feel bad about the whole thing this morning.

@ilovesooty but are you being moody and creating an atmosphere for anyone else you may love with? Is the way you feel impacting others?

*live

I would judge a woman or man the same for creating an atmosphere around their partner the day after they watched a game not go the way they wanted. However, from experience it’s men that do this. It’s also an indicator of abuse.

Isn't everything that certain women dislike 'an indicator of abuse'? People are too quick to throw around a word they don't really understand but ticks the right box.
Reading some of the posts on this site I think that many women are incredidibly controlling of their families, especially husbands/partners, 'it's my way or the highway' is often the attitude, it borders on coercion.

I'm a woman and a mad football fan (Bayern Munich). The 1999 Champions League final is actually still my most painful childhood memory (I had a nice childhood).

Equally, the 2006 World Cup final penalty shootout is my "feel good" video that will always cheer me up, as I have always supported Italy since childhood.

It's not just men 😂 and there's nothing abusive about being into sports

Having lived through some very, very close and disappointing times (I'm an Arsenal supporter!) It really isn't just a game. But it wouldn't ruin anything more than my evening.

I'm so bloody used to disappointment now

I live on my own. I might not have been the best company today if I didn't.

I'll get over it - City fans do - but it feels pretty raw just now.

I will start by saying I'm a Liverpool fan and was very much hoping for last nights result.
I have travelled around the world to follow Liverpool for the past few decades. I never miss a match and I schedule a lot of family activities and holidays around important games, I'm sure many people think I'm crazy, but I don't really care, I can't even begin to explain the joy this club has given me not only in terms of games, but making so many lifelong friends along the way, the feeling of community and family. I just love it, for me there is nothing else like it.
So to some people it is more than just a game, it's a part of who we are, and if anyone said to me it's just a game then I would sadly realise they don't know me at all and also feel a bit sorry that they haven't ever experienced those amazing feelings that football has given me, because if they had they would understand.

That loss last night for a true city fan is a very hard one to take, they all but got the job done, this is the one cup they have never got their hands on and are desperate too. Even thought it's the result I wanted I feel very sad for all city fans today. Give him a bit of time, he'll be ok.

At least your husband probably followed Man City when they were in the third tier of English football. If he was following the team in red just outside Manchester he'd stop following if they were relegated.

Losing a semi-final is the worst feeling in sport you can have.

I think most of us 'on the other side' aren't really responding to OP. I read it as lighthearted, and was passing by the thread. Obviously if ruining a day of holiday then the man is a twat.
I'm responding to the ridiculous 'toddlers' kind of posts, suggesting the whole thing is stupid, and that it is a male domain.

My DS is a massive LFC fan. If they’d lost the way City lost last night, he’d be inconsolable. As it is, he’s delighted, but that’s besides the point.

Football is much more than a game to many people, it’s a passion, it’s an important part of their lives. Don’t minimise his feelings here, yes it’s just a game, but it’s clearly important to him. Just make sympathetic noises for a day or so and he’ll get over it.

@balalake I've supported City for well over 50 years so I'm used to disappointment and defensive suicide in the final minutes of matches. Still feel sad today though.

My thoughts are with you at this difficult time!

I love football. And it was a crap way to lose.

Exciting game for the neutral though, end-to-end.

I would say that the first rule of football is that you play to the whistle 🤣

But so many did! Everyone gets grumpy about something and it would be a strange world if we were all the same.