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To say it’s only a game? Man City supporters wife

132 replies

BadAtMaths2 · 05/05/2022 06:53

First day of holiday likely to be ruined by v grumpy Man City supporter whose first words this morning were ‘it’s such an injustice’.

OP posts:
saleorbouy · 05/05/2022 08:48

It's an injustice for a family to have to tolerate a moody adult who can't compartmentalise a sporting activity and his family holiday.
I unsure why football fans are allowed to get moody over the lows of team support and let in encroach on other aspects of life.

Would it be OK to get moody over Lewis Hamiltons 2021 F1 title loss and carry the emotions into your social and work life?

BoredatHome321 · 05/05/2022 08:54

saleorbouy · 05/05/2022 08:48

It's an injustice for a family to have to tolerate a moody adult who can't compartmentalise a sporting activity and his family holiday.
I unsure why football fans are allowed to get moody over the lows of team support and let in encroach on other aspects of life.

Would it be OK to get moody over Lewis Hamiltons 2021 F1 title loss and carry the emotions into your social and work life?

Most F1 Hamilton fans DID get like this after Abu Dhabi, but as long as it's not football fans it doesn't matter, right?

TrashyPanda · 05/05/2022 08:55

BadAtMaths2 · 05/05/2022 06:53

First day of holiday likely to be ruined by v grumpy Man City supporter whose first words this morning were ‘it’s such an injustice’.

Does this rem8nd anyone else of Calamero?

QuirkyTurtle · 05/05/2022 08:57

I was very grumpy when my country was kicked out of the Euros due to an injustice. It's not 'just a game' to some people, and saying that to someone at that time shows that 1) you don't know them very well and/or 2) you don't care very much about their passions.

Just because you don't understand it doesn't mean their feelings aren't valid.

brookstar · 05/05/2022 08:59

if he's over 40 he'll have been taken back to the City of old - it's just how I remember them being....

That's exactly what my DH said! But that's how he's reconciled it. He says he's used to it 😂

Bunty55 · 05/05/2022 08:59

I watched it. I thought the ref made some questionable decisions. It was a good game though. Exciting !

DeirdreRashid · 05/05/2022 09:05

It literally is just a game though. Which I regularly remind my huge Leeds United supporting husband. He ignores me much the same as I ignore his bad attitude when they lose, before he remembers it’s just a game and snaps out of it

BoredatHome321 · 05/05/2022 09:09

It is just a game^^ but, people spend hundreds travelling up and down the country supporting their team, they're allowed to be grumpy/annoyed to an extent. I'm sure we all have certain hobbies/passions we all get a bit OTT for.

honestogod · 05/05/2022 09:09

Honestly. Its not unreasonable to be down about it. I'm a Leicester fan and we have a big (for us) European match tonight. If we lose, I will be very down at heart, if we lose like that, even more so. My DH is actually Man City, he was sad obviously, is philosophical this morning. He is actually better at regulating his football emotions than me. It's not a man thing. My MIL is gutted this morning, it's quite normal! I would imagine OP being facetious about ruined day, if not, that's not on. We wouldn't let it ruin anything but it does cause a bit of sadness. That's not a male thing, or unreasonable!

Flopisfatteningbingforchristmas · 05/05/2022 09:09

brookstar · 05/05/2022 08:02

Didn't take long for the 'will he be violent' comments to pop up. Nothing in the op suggests he will be violent. People are allowed to be grumpy! It doesn't mean they will turn violent - even if they are a football fan.

He'll get over it OP. My DH is also a city fan. He was a bit sad last night but he's snapped out of it already.

Unfortunately incidents of domestic violence do spike after a team loses a football match. It’s a logical question? It shouldn’t be but that’s the world we currently live in.

Aimee1987 · 05/05/2022 09:10

I ignore DP when he gets grumpy about sport and tell him to go moan somewhere else so he has stopped moaning at me 😊
I found any kind of sympathy of theres always next year just made him more money.
Although one time his team scored while I was in the kitchen making tea and he spend the raining hour or so of the game trying to convince me to go back into the kitchen because the men kicking a ball around a field a hundred miles away gave a shit what room I was in. 🙄

Chocolatefreak · 05/05/2022 09:10

She's looking for advice and the fact that she's posted this on an anonymous forum indicated she's nervous of the outcome. To assume she's anticipating violence would not be such a stretch.

MintyCedricRidesAgain · 05/05/2022 09:11

Honestly I'd just park myself up with a good book and leave him alone until he's finished sulking.

I absolutely loathe football and am very grateful to have left this kind of BS behind along with my ex.

Whenever I dabble in OLD anyone who lists football as one of their main interests gets an instant swipe left...even if they look like Henry Cavill and have a bank balance to rival Bill Gates.

waterlego · 05/05/2022 09:11

My husband is a huge football fan (Arsenal) and gets very grumpy when they lose. I have no interest in the sport at all but I tend to allow him a bit of time to have a little rant about it while I make sad faces and issue some platitudes. ‘Such a shame’…
’so frustrating…’ etc

Mrsherdwick · 05/05/2022 09:13

I’m a LFC fan, dh a Man City fan. My dh is supporting Real Madrid in the final!!!

thing47 · 05/05/2022 09:20

Not Man City fans here but to be fair to them they were the better team over the 2 legs by some considerable margin so I can absolutely see why their fans would be a little upset last night.

For most football fans, a loss in an important match is followed by a short period of annoyance/disappointment etc. It's only a problem if they don't snap out of it pretty quickly and realise there are bigger things in life.

Thepeopleversuswork · 05/05/2022 09:22

I wouldn't say "its only a game" as that's the female equivalent of "cheer up, love, it may never happen".

But I would take a very dim view of an extended sulk around this. I have extremely low patience for the mission creep of football into family life.

GreenWheat · 05/05/2022 09:23

AgnesNaismith · 05/05/2022 07:07

But it is just a game though? Urgh toddler men and their football tantrums are so unattractive.

Where does OP say he had a "tantrum"? He is disappointed that his team lost a major match. Are you normally unsupportive of your partner's interests and hobbies?

Creamcrackersandricecakes · 05/05/2022 09:25

Knockoneofftheshelftowin · 05/05/2022 07:07

I met a woman once who wouldn't put ketchup on her chips because it was red, she was a blues fan and hated United.

I think I can say with complete honesty that this is one of the most pathetic things I've ever heard in my 48 years on this planet. I can't even comprehend the mentality of someone who thinks like this.

Horizons83 · 05/05/2022 09:26

The error here was supporting Man City in the first place. If he was a Spurs fan like me he would be so used to the team bottling it in the final few minutes he would have just shrugged it off and woke up this morning with a sunny disposition.

CharSiu · 05/05/2022 09:27

As long as people are not harming others, neglecting their family or spending all the family money on a hobby what does it matter what that hobby is. I am not especially in to football but my DH is as is DS and DS GF.

It brings groups together and is very much more complex than its just a game if you look at the way a hobby can bind people together with some common ground. There is a history of organised violence within football but the vast majority of fans are just people with a shared love of the game.

There is a habit on MN of belittling certain hobbies.

brookstar · 05/05/2022 09:27

Unfortunately incidents of domestic violence do spike after a team loses a football match. It’s a logical question? It shouldn’t be but that’s the world we currently live in.

I am fully aware of that but there was zero suggestion of violence in the Op.
Violence also increases in on bank holidays, during heat waves and over Christmas.
I'm the biggest advocate for challenging the problem of male violence in society and have volunteered for DV charities due to my own personal experiences. However, assuming a football fan is going to be violent (when there was no suggestion of that being the case) doesn't help ..... but hey, we know MN hates football so these threads always go the same way.

Comefromaway · 05/05/2022 09:29

I've not spoken to ds yet as he hadn't woken when I left for work, last night ne he was very tense, he came down to tell me what a tense game it was.

I do feel sorry for them.

caringcarer · 05/05/2022 09:31

Of course he is going to be upset, City got close but messed up again in dying minutes. They took of De Bruyne thinking they had in won but then conceeded 2 goals in 3 minutes. Should not have counted their chicken before they were hatched. They still have league to play for though.

Momicrone · 05/05/2022 09:33

'Belittling certain hobbies' that negatively affect others, I don't have any hobbies that I get grumpy about