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Hubby ate daughters Easter Eggs!

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peanuts18 · 02/05/2022 12:27

AIBU? daughter has gone out for the day with Nan and grandad, I’m cleaning the kitchen and notice the plastic tub in the cupboard which had about 4 broken up Easter eggs (daughters eggs) is empty.
He then said ‘oh I ate them last night as I wanted chocolate, she’s got other ones in there’
Shes got about 2 other eggs and odd bits left.
shes going to be so upset when she finds out as it was her ‘special box’ of eggs
Anyway he has stormed out saying I’m being stupid and she’s got to learn to share. I think he’s a pig in both ways!!!

OP posts:
fortifiedwithtea · 03/05/2022 08:31

When DD1 was in reception class she won the school art contest. Her prize a Wispa Easter egg. Now she had about half dozen eggs from us and relatives. But DH had a chocolate need one night and of all the eggs he could have scoffed , he chose the prize egg.

Encouraged by me we have made him pay for it every year since. Each year he has to replace that egg with a special one and my daughter now has expensive taste 😂. His punishment has gone on for 19 years and counting.

5foot5 · 03/05/2022 08:34

worraliberty · 02/05/2022 13:27

Every year there are threads about this and it's shit.

It's shit that adults who's kids can clearly self regulate, will eventually learn to binge eat before their greedy parents take their stuff without asking.

This.

If the OPs DD had been a greedy little pig like her father and eaten all the chocolate by Easter Monday he might have cause to comment about learning to share.

But she didn't. She was good and sensible and was making the nice treat last by having a bit now and then. Until selfish, greedy pig of a father scoffs the lot. What sort of lesson is that?

For all we know maybe the little girl is very good at sharing, when she gets the chance. Sharing is not the same as accepting that someone else can just help themselves to all your stuff without asking.

Momicrone · 03/05/2022 08:39

I thought he didn't scoff the lot, just what was left in the box

NotMyselfWithoutCoffee · 03/05/2022 08:49

Greedy pig, eating a little kids chocolate.
Just teaches her to binge eat instead of saving as a treat.
End of the day it's your daughters chocolate, how would he like it if he had a gift for himself and it was gobbled up as he was too slow to eat it.

CandidaAlbicans2 · 03/05/2022 08:51

Bottom line is you shouldn't just help yourself to someone's things without asking IMHO, unless they've already said you could. It's not "sharing" it's stealing. If she wanted to share her chocolate it was her decision to make, not his.

LampLighter414 · 03/05/2022 08:52

He binged 4 of her eggs? He is so greedy. I can't imagine scoffing and gorging upon treats for my children. And even if I did I would certainly replace them. What a pig!

I bet if you helped yourself to his treats he would be fuming!

HRTQueen · 03/05/2022 09:03

Fernticket · 02/05/2022 21:57

If he was mine and had stolen and rated my DCs Easter eggs, he would be occupying a bed in Intensive Care!😠
Greedy selfish Pr**k.

😆😆😆

and some wonder shy MN is ridiculed

it’s a bit chocolate is life so boring that you want to create drama over a bit of chocolate

if ds created such drama over a bit of chocolate I would be questioning my parenting. If he has a moan fine but he would get over it

HRTQueen · 03/05/2022 09:04

*why

NotMyselfWithoutCoffee · 03/05/2022 09:27

@HRTQueen but it wasn't "just a bit of chocolate" it was dd once yearly easter treat!
You can't just help yourself to people's things, especially when they are gifts.
My dh wouldn't like it if I just cracked open his birthday treats and started gorging myself.

Shoxfordian · 03/05/2022 09:33

Is he usually this inconsiderate op?

AtwilightRebellion · 03/05/2022 09:51

To those saying it isn't a big deal, it is only chocolate.

It was the 7 year old's chocolate not stuff bought at a weekly shop and in cupboard for all to help themselves to.

My own 8 year old is a big time sharer but would be crushed to find chocolate or treats she had stored as special, eaten without being asked.

It comes down to respect and boundaries. Some of you may scoff but It is completely unacceptable to take the belongings of others without asking. And yes, that goes for a child's Easter egg chocolate too.

Squillerman · 03/05/2022 09:52

Yeah, at 7 I’d say it’s a bit mean. When they’re toddlers it doesn’t matter so much because they probably won’t remember and if they get too many it’s only fair to ‘help’ them Wink. By 7 though, I’d say it’s wrong unless they agree to it.

TeddyisMydog · 03/05/2022 10:30

The hyperbole on here is ridiculous
I'm sat reading this thread as I eat some of the kids easter egg
I also take money out of their piggy bank if it's needed 🤷‍♂️ condemn me now 😂

ferneytorro · 03/05/2022 10:39

My mum used to do this. I’d come into the kitchen in a morning and she’d say oh I ate your egg last night. I never felt able to say why or be cross or make a fuss but I really resented it. I’m 50 now and it still irks!

SpindleInTheWind · 03/05/2022 11:21

Momicrone · 03/05/2022 07:25

No wonder we have a health crisis in this country if so many people are getting worked up about such an unhealthy high sugar snack

Thank you for sharing your insight.

BlackeyedSusan · 03/05/2022 13:32

Kids should be allowed to keep their own stuff without someone stealing it. She was doing really well self regulating.

Smileyaxolotl1 · 03/05/2022 15:37

TeddyisMydog
You’re on a wind up surely?
You think it’s funny that you steal from your children?

Momicrone · 03/05/2022 15:48

Spindles thewind - my pleasure

zingally · 03/05/2022 16:44

Easter was two weeks ago now. I'd say by this point they're fair game.

BarbaraofSeville · 03/05/2022 17:06

zingally · 03/05/2022 16:44

Easter was two weeks ago now. I'd say by this point they're fair game.

Why? Chocolate lasts for months. Like others have said, her healthy ability to self regulate is being punished by her being taught that unless she eats her treats straight away, her dad will just eat them all and she'll miss out.

AtwilightRebellion · 03/05/2022 17:16

TeddyisMydog · 03/05/2022 10:30

The hyperbole on here is ridiculous
I'm sat reading this thread as I eat some of the kids easter egg
I also take money out of their piggy bank if it's needed 🤷‍♂️ condemn me now 😂

Sounds like you need the chocolate if you are raiding their piggy bank.

Unless you are genuinely hungry hun. If so, eat some chocolate!

fairylightsandwaxmelts · 03/05/2022 17:18

zingally · 03/05/2022 16:44

Easter was two weeks ago now. I'd say by this point they're fair game.

I find this such a weird attitude.

Chocolate lasts months - why should it be "fair game" after just a couple of weeks?

I still have unopened boxes of chocolate left over from Christmas - I would be pretty annoyed if DH decided that meant it was "fair game" and ate them.

ldontWanna · 03/05/2022 17:22

zingally · 03/05/2022 16:44

Easter was two weeks ago now. I'd say by this point they're fair game.

DD got me some chocolates that I really really like for Mother's Day. I only finished them this Sunday. Would it be fair game to come home from work and find them all gone?

PeekAtYou · 03/05/2022 17:39

If the chocolate is seasonal stuff like a packet of mini eggs then it's a bigger deal than if it was just part of the shell. The dd might have been saving the best for last and looking forward to one of the left over ones.

In our house, people ask if they want a bit of somebody's else's treat. Usually the other person offers some but it's up to them what is offered. I pick the eggs that my kids will like and it's up to them the order that it will be eaten. They might be looking forward to a specific one and it would be crap if someone had eaten it.

I think communal chocolate works if everyone eats it at the same rate. One of my kids will eat theirs quickly while the other stretches it out so it would be hard to balance that if we just did a communal supply. I wouldn't want to encourage the slow eater to binge or the binge eater to slow down to their sibling's speed. It's a gift for them so they can eat it when they want. (They are teens so capable of deciding this themselves)

KettrickenSmiled · 03/05/2022 17:41

Anyway he has stormed out saying I’m being stupid and she’s got to learn to share.

What a charmless turd.
When he rocks back up, explain to him that children don't learn how to share by being stolen from.