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Hubby ate daughters Easter Eggs!

206 replies

peanuts18 · 02/05/2022 12:27

AIBU? daughter has gone out for the day with Nan and grandad, I’m cleaning the kitchen and notice the plastic tub in the cupboard which had about 4 broken up Easter eggs (daughters eggs) is empty.
He then said ‘oh I ate them last night as I wanted chocolate, she’s got other ones in there’
Shes got about 2 other eggs and odd bits left.
shes going to be so upset when she finds out as it was her ‘special box’ of eggs
Anyway he has stormed out saying I’m being stupid and she’s got to learn to share. I think he’s a pig in both ways!!!

OP posts:
ldontWanna · 02/05/2022 13:29

catstale · 02/05/2022 13:28

Easter was weeks ago. She's clearly not that bothered about the 'special' box and will likely not notice.

He fancied some chocolate and ate some that had been hanging around for weeks. So what!

You're not teaching your daughter useful life skills by making a huge drama out of this.

It was her special box that now is empty. Unless she's blind, she's going to bloody notice.

worraliberty · 02/05/2022 13:30

catstale · 02/05/2022 13:28

Easter was weeks ago. She's clearly not that bothered about the 'special' box and will likely not notice.

He fancied some chocolate and ate some that had been hanging around for weeks. So what!

You're not teaching your daughter useful life skills by making a huge drama out of this.

Easter was weeks ago. She's clearly not that bothered about the 'special' box and will likely not notice.

Why is she 'clearly not bothered'? Because she doesn't eat all her chocolate in one go?

No-one's making a huge drama, but it's pretty shit to teach your kids they need to binge eat in order to have what's theirs.

CuriousCatfish · 02/05/2022 13:30

The only life skill she will learn is it's ok to take other peoples stuff without asking and not to make a fuss if people take her stuff. Not a life skill I want my children to learn.

SamphirethePogoingStickerist · 02/05/2022 13:31

Momicrone · 02/05/2022 12:55

Samphire- er my kids don't mind, barely notice, I wouldn't do anything to intentionally piss them off, but they're just not really into chocolate that much

Sometimes... I even repeated it. Sometimes

TheDoveFromAboveCooCoo · 02/05/2022 13:34

Everyone saying "it's just chocolate, it's not an issue"... Easter eggs are a gift in my eyes. How would you feel if you got home from work and your OH had eaten the box of chocolates you had been bought for your birthday?

It's selfish and greedy and really not fair on your DD.

I wouldn't dream of eating my DC's eggs!

ldontWanna · 02/05/2022 13:36

TheDoveFromAboveCooCoo · 02/05/2022 13:34

Everyone saying "it's just chocolate, it's not an issue"... Easter eggs are a gift in my eyes. How would you feel if you got home from work and your OH had eaten the box of chocolates you had been bought for your birthday?

It's selfish and greedy and really not fair on your DD.

I wouldn't dream of eating my DC's eggs!

Funnily enough when it's an adult/woman posting similar nearly everyone agrees that the husband is unreasonable and greedy. Very few posters if any tell OP it was just a bit of chocolate,that she had too much anyways or that she should learn to share.

When it's a kid suddenly the replies change.

catstale · 02/05/2022 13:36

No-one's making a huge drama

Really? Causing an argument with the husband and then making a post about a non event isn't being dramatic?

Special box Jesus Christ. It'll be an old Tupperware with a few broken eggs in. Put the remaining eggs in, job done.

Theeyeballsinthefuckingsky · 02/05/2022 13:39

so your daughter carefully put her Easter eggs in a special box so she could make them last which is pretty different from leaving them just laying about half eaten & forgotten

and your DH instead of saying “hey DD I’d really like some chocolate could I have some of yours?” just took what wasn’t his and not just a little bit, nearly all of it

he’s an arse

Herja · 02/05/2022 13:40

I think that children have little that is actually their own. Something that is their own possession, food gifts, cash, presents (which an easter egg definitely is, even if parent's didn't want ), shouldn't just be taken from them. The small bits of ownership and control they have are important to them. By all means, encourage sharing and generosity, but not by claiming things from young children just through superior size and age; that's more likely to make a child less generous anyway. I'd certainly not feel generous about sharing gifts, if I thought they'd be stolen if I didn't guard them. In anycase, it teaches kids to eat until they're ill, or not see their treats again - not a great habit to learn.

Him eating general chocolate earmarked for her, is very different to secretly taking her special gift chocolate (particularly as he can't replace like for like). My ex did this with the kid's easter and christmas chocolate too, until they kicked off about it infront of his new inlaws (who were being offered it without the kids suggestion or agreement). DS (asd) still regularly brings up the loss of his chocolate rabbit from Grandad, 4 years later. Your DH is a prick, as are all the other greedy buggers taking their children's gifts. (Not including children too young to be aware.)

HeckyPeck · 02/05/2022 13:42

Does your husband think children learn to share when someone else takes their stuff without asking?

All she'll learn is either that she has to eat or hide any edible gifts she's given so he doesn't steal them or that it's ok for her to take things from other people without asking.

Not really valuable lessons.

If he'd had a little nibble and not enough to notice that wouldn't be a problem, but to eat all of them if bloody rude and greedy.

Next time he had something he was saving I'd take it for myself and tell him he needs to learn share.

girlmom21 · 02/05/2022 13:42

I don't think it's the end of the world.

He should tell her he's had it though.

ldontWanna · 02/05/2022 13:45

catstale · 02/05/2022 13:36

No-one's making a huge drama

Really? Causing an argument with the husband and then making a post about a non event isn't being dramatic?

Special box Jesus Christ. It'll be an old Tupperware with a few broken eggs in. Put the remaining eggs in, job done.

She didn't cause an argument. She told him DD would be upset and he was wrong to do that. He's the one that escalated it by calling her stupid(love how everyone is just glossing over that) and storming out.

EmeraldShamrock1 · 02/05/2022 13:47

I'm guilty of this too.

My DC never notice.

I steal the sweets from the end of the box too.

ldontWanna · 02/05/2022 13:48

So a full grown adult eats ALL the chocolate his daughter has saved in a box.
He didn't ask but he's "teaching" her to share.
He calls his wife stupid .
He storms out.

But somehow he's the fucking victim and it's no big deal?

How low are some people's standards?
I swear we have higher expectations from toddlers than we have from grown ass men.

edwinbear · 02/05/2022 13:50

We don’t steal DC’s stuff in our house either. DS ate all his eggs in about a week, DD still has some left over which she enjoys after dinner, or when watching a film etc. She would happily let anyone have a bit if we asked, but nobody in our house would just take - thankfully.

StoppinBy · 02/05/2022 13:55

This is wrong, it's not a block of chocolate that can easily be replaced. I do think Easter Eggs taste different to normal chocolate... for me, I think it's the thinner chocolate and I like it better.

It is not sharing to take other people's things without their permission and I am sure he wouldn't be happy if his things were taken behind his back with an explanation of he needs to learn to share.

My kids share their stuff (and we encourage it) but I wouldn't take it behind their backs.

He's been a greedy and selfish father and set a bad example of how to treat other people's things.

Herja · 02/05/2022 13:57

ldontWanna · 02/05/2022 13:48

So a full grown adult eats ALL the chocolate his daughter has saved in a box.
He didn't ask but he's "teaching" her to share.
He calls his wife stupid .
He storms out.

But somehow he's the fucking victim and it's no big deal?

How low are some people's standards?
I swear we have higher expectations from toddlers than we have from grown ass men.

This.

EmeraldShamrock1 · 02/05/2022 13:58

Not excusing him, I'd only take a small piece not a noticeable amount.

He needs to replace the eggs today, he can spend the afternoon looking in every store until he finds the replacement.

Uafasach · 02/05/2022 14:00

You don't even know if your daughter cares about him eating the chocolate but you're already making a drama out of it.

Will you be very disappointed if she says she doesn't mind?

dworky · 02/05/2022 14:00

IamnotSethRogan · 02/05/2022 12:31

I duno my dad ate mine. I’ve on occasion eaten the boys. Wouldn’t say it’s the end of the world

So because your dad had no respect for others belongings, no-one else should? Strange philosophy.

TheGoogleMum · 02/05/2022 14:02

I think pinching a small amount is maybe OK but finishing off the tub so it's obvious is a bit mean! I ask DD if I can have some of hers and she normally says yes. DH finished one of her eggs off though and she was a bit sad, I think he shouldn't have done that

Ikeptgoing · 02/05/2022 14:08

I agree it doesn't teach sharing for greedy DH to have eaten all the chocolate Easter egg bits DD had been saving.

It'll just teach her to eat it all in one go or her dad will steal it when she's out or gone to bed Confused

I love Easter egg chocolate but wouldn't eat my children's!!

Staffy1 · 02/05/2022 14:28

That’s crap and the storming out when it was pointed out to him is pathetic as well.

Staffy1 · 02/05/2022 14:30

Just looked and there are still Easter eggs available online. Get the greedy bugger to replace them.

PinkSyCo · 02/05/2022 14:32

Eww what a horrible, greedy, thieving man child. Stealing off your DD is not teaching her to share ffs.