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Hubby ate daughters Easter Eggs!

206 replies

peanuts18 · 02/05/2022 12:27

AIBU? daughter has gone out for the day with Nan and grandad, I’m cleaning the kitchen and notice the plastic tub in the cupboard which had about 4 broken up Easter eggs (daughters eggs) is empty.
He then said ‘oh I ate them last night as I wanted chocolate, she’s got other ones in there’
Shes got about 2 other eggs and odd bits left.
shes going to be so upset when she finds out as it was her ‘special box’ of eggs
Anyway he has stormed out saying I’m being stupid and she’s got to learn to share. I think he’s a pig in both ways!!!

OP posts:
BabyofMine · 02/05/2022 16:46

HeadNorth · 02/05/2022 12:55

People that routinely eats their kids chocolate - do you have a weight problem? I find it a really odd concept to take someone else's chocolate without asking.

What is the reason you don't ask your child for a piece rather than just take it without asking?

I DO have a weight/overeating problem, but I wouldn’t DREAM of taking my child’s chocolate. It actually makes me happy that they still have Easter chocolate left, and that they just take a little when they fancy it. One of my biggest parenting worries is not to pass my disordered eating onto them and I do everything I can to prevent that.

I’m actually shocked so many people disrespect their own child’s things to be honest!

Alcibiade · 02/05/2022 17:05

Real men don't eat their children's Easter eggs 😉

catstale · 02/05/2022 17:45

LightningAndRainbows · 02/05/2022 16:37

I used to save the eggs my grandparents gave me for weeks. I'd have been destroyed if my parents had eaten them. I have really strong memories of enjoying a little bit each day and feeling so loved.

You felt so loved because you were given a few eggs?

Why do people on here make everyday things so flowery and important.

It's Easter eggs not her life savings fgs.

Smileyaxolotl1 · 02/05/2022 17:55

Babyofmine
I agree wholeheartedly with your post. I am over weight and a chocolate fiend and can hand on heart say I have never taken any sweets or chocolate belonging to my children.
on occasion they have been given something they don’t like and I have eaten it and then I have replaced it with something they like.
I think it’s awful that so many on here think nothing of stealing from their kids. how is it different to taking pocket money from them or other presents?
If I gave a child an Easter egg I would expect the child to eat it not for his thieving greedy parents to eat in instead.

OneTC · 02/05/2022 18:04

ITT: a whole load of adults up on their hind legs over some chocolate eggs

Tiredmum100 · 02/05/2022 18:08

I'm with the op. I think its bad form on the husbands part. At 7 she will notice. Some posters are saying its too much chocolate for a 7 year old anyway, then others saying she can't be that bothered if she's still got eggs left. Sounds like she's a 7 year old who is able to self regulate her treats. Well done to her. I would not eat my children Easter eggs, as another poster said they are a gift. I wouldn't expect someone to eat my birthday chocolates if I had been given them as a present. I would expect them to wait until I offered to share them. My children have broken up eggs and shared them out, but only because that's what they want to do. It may be "only a chocolate egg" but it's about the principle really.

Momicrone · 02/05/2022 18:11

Whose principle? My kids would just shrug their shoulders, we don't all have the same values.

HRTQueen · 02/05/2022 18:12

It really isn’t an issue

unless you make it one

when she notices he owns up she has a bit of a moan end of drama

ldontWanna · 02/05/2022 18:12

Momicrone · 02/05/2022 18:11

Whose principle? My kids would just shrug their shoulders, we don't all have the same values.

Do they ever save something just for themselves to enjoy for longer and then shrug their shoulders if you eat them?

Tiredmum100 · 02/05/2022 18:18

Momicrone · 02/05/2022 18:11

Whose principle? My kids would just shrug their shoulders, we don't all have the same values.

Exactly we don't all have the same values, and in the OPs house it clearly sounds like an issue. The father doesn't care, he takes what he wants. It may be fine in your household and you all just shrug your shoulders, but as you say we don't all have the same values. It won't kill the kid, no, far worse things will happen, however I still think it's a bit mean of the dad to do that.

AlasEarwacs · 02/05/2022 18:21

@SamphirethePogoingStickerist you went lc with your dad because he ate your Easter eggs? Jesus Christ

caringcarer · 02/05/2022 18:26

So your DH stole from his own dd. I would make him scower every tiny shop until he had replaced them.

FinallyHere · 02/05/2022 18:30

she’s got to learn to share.

Wow. Just wow.

JackieQueen · 02/05/2022 18:31

Herja · 02/05/2022 16:30

This is going to sound ridiculous to many, I'm sure, but still...

As a young child, I was neglected, occasionally beaten, routinely smacked, saw a 1000 things a child should never see. The time I returned from a week away to find my precious birthday sweeties all eaten, despite me carefully saving them, genuinely stands out in my memory more than most other things. It's one of a few really clear early memories 3 decades on. Not because it was worse than those other acts, by any means; to the 4 year old me though, it evidently ranked as equally important. No one likes their things stolen by people they trusted, not even children.

😥🌷

Smileyaxolotl1 · 02/05/2022 18:39

This thread has made it abundantly clear to me why so many children in my classes think it’s perfectly fine to take food from other children and to take pens from me and not return them.

FinallyHere · 02/05/2022 18:40

Chocolate is communal in our house

I see a very sharp divide between chocolate purchased for the household and something given to a child. We were very much encouraged to share things like Easter eggs and lavishly praised for doing so.

There was no expectation that another member of the household would just help themselves. Discovering that your chocolate disappears if you don't eat it immediately is. It teaching the right life lessons

Taking without asking is really not a great role model for sharing

fairylightsandwaxmelts · 02/05/2022 18:40

Marvellousmadness · 02/05/2022 16:16

She is 7.
And easter was weeks ago. And dont we all eat our kids chocolate?
Get a grip

Easter was only a fortnight ago. I still have chocolate left over from Christmas!

And no - not all parents raid their kids chocolate stash and eat it - it's such a shitty way to behave. You're a grown adult with your own income - go and buy your own bloody chocolate if you're that desperate, ffs.

ldontWanna · 02/05/2022 18:43

Smileyaxolotl1 · 02/05/2022 18:39

This thread has made it abundantly clear to me why so many children in my classes think it’s perfectly fine to take food from other children and to take pens from me and not return them.

Yup. After all it's just there and that means it's ok.Confused

KaraVanPark · 02/05/2022 18:44

I’ve eaten my kids eggs too and then replaced them

Momicrone · 02/05/2022 18:50

Idontwanna - wow that's a leap, just because we have no possessive food issues in our house doesn't mean we go around nicking other people's stuff!

TheGoodEnoughWife · 02/05/2022 18:54

Momicrone · 02/05/2022 18:50

Idontwanna - wow that's a leap, just because we have no possessive food issues in our house doesn't mean we go around nicking other people's stuff!

But the chocolate is a present? Why is a food present any different from any other present?

We have communal food, staples, crisps, chocolate (sometimes not always) but a present of food is just like a present of anything. It belongs to the person it was gifted to.

ThatsBullshirt · 02/05/2022 19:36

We have a 3yo and a 5yo and we certainly have eaten a couple of their Easter eggs because they got far too many for them to eat themselves as they don't have chocolate very regularly. We'd still have it at Halloween when there'd be another onslaught of sweets and chocolates! As it is I think we still have the odd sweet/chocolate from Christmas. This is probably the last year we will do it though as DC will a) notice and b) the eldest will be old enough to mostly self regulate his chocolate consumption - and I can't let him do it and not the youngest!

I don't see the problem in eating the odd egg IF the child got waaaaay too many and doesn't really eat chocolate or will notice. It will sit there for months otherwise in our house!

CleansUpButWouldPreferNotTo · 02/05/2022 19:49

RandomQuest:
"Chocolate is communal in our house."

Not in my household! We have our favourite kinds and it's bought as a treat. DH gets his and I get mine. He's a gobbler and I'm a nibbler so I usually have some left when his is gone - if you want some of mine, just ask, but don't take.

Not a good message to teach children - that their parents steal and there's no idea of ownership or keeping your mitts off what's not yours.

ChocolateHippo · 02/05/2022 20:05

Surely communal chocolate only works if you all eat chocolate at roughly the same pace and have an ingrained sense of fairness. Not when some greedy arse comes along and swipes 6 twixes or 3 creme eggs in one go.

Jimmer253 · 02/05/2022 20:05

I haven’t rtft, but in my opinion, its only ever ok to ‘borrow’ some of your child’s treats if they can be eaten and replaced, ‘like for like’, before they notice. In my local area, there isn’t a single Easter egg left, therefore they couldn’t be replaced ‘like for like’ so it’s a huge NO to eat them!