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peanuts18 · 2022-05-02T11:27:45+00:00

AIBU? daughter has gone out for the day with Nan and grandad, I’m cleaning the kitchen and notice the plastic tub in the cupboard which had about 4 broken up Easter eggs (daughters eggs) is empty. He then said ‘oh I ate them last night as I wanted chocolate, she’s got other ones in there’ Shes got about 2 other eggs and odd bits left. shes going to be so upset when she finds out as it was her ‘special box’ of eggs Anyway he has stormed out saying I’m being stupid and she’s got to learn to share. I think he’s a pig in both ways!!!

Seenoevil1 · 02/05/2022 20:13

He shouldn't have touched them. She wanted to keep them. Not a good example! Yanbu.

I once ate my partner's tasty crisps without asking and in response he crushed my own crisps (bakes) into dust. Lesson learned!

SpindleInTheWind · 02/05/2022 20:17

How can chocloate be 'communal' when there isn't any left because one person ate it all?

RandomQuest · 02/05/2022 20:28

CleansUpButWouldPreferNotTo · 02/05/2022 19:49

RandomQuest:
"Chocolate is communal in our house."

Not in my household! We have our favourite kinds and it's bought as a treat. DH gets his and I get mine. He's a gobbler and I'm a nibbler so I usually have some left when his is gone - if you want some of mine, just ask, but don't take.

Not a good message to teach children - that their parents steal and there's no idea of ownership or keeping your mitts off what's not yours.

Gobbler or nibbler, I love it 🤣 I don’t think I’m teaching the kids to steal, I bloody hope not, we just don’t do ownership of food in our house, we always have nice chocolate in and no one gobbles. There’s plenty of ownership of other stuff so hopefully I’m not fucking them up!

ldontWanna · 02/05/2022 20:45

SpindleInTheWind · 02/05/2022 20:17

How can chocloate be 'communal' when there isn't any left because one person ate it all?

Normally in cases like that all the household members are pretty sensible and no on eats it all.

And if it's a parent that has a particularly sweet toots they replace the stuff or buy extra in advance.

SleepingStandingUp · 02/05/2022 20:54

Smileyaxolotl1 · 02/05/2022 18:39

This thread has made it abundantly clear to me why so many children in my classes think it’s perfectly fine to take food from other children and to take pens from me and not return them.

You just need to learn to share, obviously. Go steal them from someone smaller

TheNestedIf · 02/05/2022 21:11

Hotel Chocolat still have a couple of egg on sale, including some of the Ostrich sized ones.

www.hotelchocolat.com/uk/unbelievably-vegan-ostrich-easter-egg.html?cgid=chocolate-offers

You should empty your 'D'H's wallet and use that money buy your daughter one as a replacement. If 'D'H complains, tell him it's only money, he's being stupid and he's got to learn to share. See how he likes it.

FrangipaniBlue · 02/05/2022 21:45

I still have one of my Easter eggs left. Because I'm not a greedy pig who feels the need to inhale all the chocolate in sight. I like a piece now and again.

If DH ate my egg "because Easter was weeks ago and I clearly aren't that bothered about it" he would be buried under the fuckin patio!!

FrangipaniBlue · 02/05/2022 21:50

All the people saying 6 eggs is too much for a 7 year old and they would only let her have 3, does that mean you wouldn't buy her any other chocolate for the rest of the year?

Because I bet you've would.

So what's the difference if she just made her 6 eggs last longer?

Fernticket · 02/05/2022 21:57

If he was mine and had stolen and rated my DCs Easter eggs, he would be occupying a bed in Intensive Care!😠
Greedy selfish Pr**k.

fairylightsandwaxmelts · 02/05/2022 22:20

ThatsBullshirt · 02/05/2022 19:36

We have a 3yo and a 5yo and we certainly have eaten a couple of their Easter eggs because they got far too many for them to eat themselves as they don't have chocolate very regularly. We'd still have it at Halloween when there'd be another onslaught of sweets and chocolates! As it is I think we still have the odd sweet/chocolate from Christmas. This is probably the last year we will do it though as DC will a) notice and b) the eldest will be old enough to mostly self regulate his chocolate consumption - and I can't let him do it and not the youngest!

I don't see the problem in eating the odd egg IF the child got waaaaay too many and doesn't really eat chocolate or will notice. It will sit there for months otherwise in our house!

But what's the problem with it sitting there for months?

I still have boxes of chocolate from Christmas that I've not opened yet - but I'd be really pissed off if DH decided to eat them for me as they'd been "sat there for months anyway".

My chocolate, my decision whether to eat it right away, share it or save it for when I really fancy it.

ThatsBullshirt · 02/05/2022 22:29

fairylightsandwaxmelts · 02/05/2022 22:20

But what's the problem with it sitting there for months?

I still have boxes of chocolate from Christmas that I've not opened yet - but I'd be really pissed off if DH decided to eat them for me as they'd been "sat there for months anyway".

My chocolate, my decision whether to eat it right away, share it or save it for when I really fancy it.

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Because we don't have space in our kitchen to store loads of chocolate for months? Because my kids are 3 and 5 and don't care or mind about it right now? I don't allow my children to eat however much chocolate or sweets they want, any time they want right now so it isn't exactly their decision. We also still have chocolate from Christmas, just like we had stuff from Halloween into the New Year, and we are likely to have Easter chocolate into the summer. I'm talking about a couple of eggs when they each got eggs into the double digits and even then they didn't even pay any attention to exactly what Easter eggs they got. They were more interested in the Pokémon pjs and craft kits!

girlmom21 · 03/05/2022 06:08

Fernticket · 02/05/2022 21:57

If he was mine and had stolen and rated my DCs Easter eggs, he would be occupying a bed in Intensive Care!😠
Greedy selfish Pr**k.

Bit dramatic

Momicrone · 03/05/2022 07:25

No wonder we have a health crisis in this country if so many people are getting worked up about such an unhealthy high sugar snack

BarbaraofSeville · 03/05/2022 07:34

worraliberty · 02/05/2022 13:30

Easter was weeks ago. She's clearly not that bothered about the 'special' box and will likely not notice.

Why is she 'clearly not bothered'? Because she doesn't eat all her chocolate in one go?

No-one's making a huge drama, but it's pretty shit to teach your kids they need to binge eat in order to have what's theirs.

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Yes, that's what she's learning here. If she wants to eat her own treats at her own pace, without some gannet inhaling it all in one go, she'll need to hide it or go without.

fairylightsandwaxmelts · 03/05/2022 07:44

Momicrone · 03/05/2022 07:25

No wonder we have a health crisis in this country if so many people are getting worked up about such an unhealthy high sugar snack

It's not about the fact that it's chocolate.

It's the fact that DD received a gift and her dad decided to just take that gift for himself without asking. It's shitty behaviour.

Adults can go out and get their own chocolate or gift, they shouldn't be taking said gifts off their children without having the decency to ask them first.

If you think your kids received too much chocolate for Easter - then actively do something about it. Offer to donate it to a food bank and buy them something else instead, melt it all down and use it in crispie cakes so it's used up - but just taking it off them and eating it is such a poor way to behave imo.

Momicrone · 03/05/2022 07:51

Not if your kids don't mind, it's a fine way to behave

Bimblybomeyelash · 03/05/2022 07:57

I really don’t think it’s a big deal. It’s only
chocolate. My kids of a similar age are chocolate obsessed, and they still
have a load of eggs left from a Easter, but they’ve lost interest in it. If I didn’t eat some each night we’d still have eggs left at Christmas!

Theeyeballsinthefuckingsky · 03/05/2022 07:58

Except the OP who knows her daughter best said quite clearly she would be upset

so she does actually mind

NeverDropYourMooncup · 03/05/2022 07:59

sst1234 · 02/05/2022 12:55

He ate her chocolate, not blow her trust fund. Did he?

You might think that's silly, but it's the same principle - if somebody is quite happy to take a child's present in this way, it's not that much of a leap to think 'well, I want that money now, she doesn't need it, she's only a child and has to think of the family'. It's how every financial gift and bequest made to me never got past my mother.

HeadNorth · 03/05/2022 08:02

Bimblybomeyelash · 03/05/2022 07:57

I really don’t think it’s a big deal. It’s only
chocolate. My kids of a similar age are chocolate obsessed, and they still
have a load of eggs left from a Easter, but they’ve lost interest in it. If I didn’t eat some each night we’d still have eggs left at Christmas!

But do your children know you have a bit of their eggs some evening? Or do you secretly binge eat 3 eggs in one evening that they had deliberately been saving? I am sure you can see there is a difference.

Binge eating should be discouraged and is not behaviour that should be modelled to children. Remember, they learn more by what we do than what we say.

fairylightsandwaxmelts · 03/05/2022 08:08

Momicrone · 03/05/2022 07:51

Not if your kids don't mind, it's a fine way to behave

I just don't agree.

Lots of young children will pretend they don't mind if it's their mum or dad doing something they dislike.

But even if that's not the case, it's just the principle to me. It's not yours to take so just leave it alone - why is that such a difficult concept to grasp?

This time it might "only" be chocolate but what happens when someone takes a toy or electronic item of theirs and it gets broken or damaged or ruined?

Would your attitude be different then?

Momicrone · 03/05/2022 08:12

Fairylights - Why is it such a difficult concept to grasp that we don't view chocolate like that in our house, toys are different and a ridiculous comparison

IncompleteSenten · 03/05/2022 08:14

Does he not understand what share means?

It doesn't mean take without permission or knowledge.

It means the person whose stuff it is chooses to offer you some.

fairylightsandwaxmelts · 03/05/2022 08:19

Momicrone · 03/05/2022 08:12

Fairylights - Why is it such a difficult concept to grasp that we don't view chocolate like that in our house, toys are different and a ridiculous comparison

I just don't see why a chocolate gift is treated differently to any other type of gift.

I wouldn't want someone taking, say, a jumper of mine and wearing it without my permission, and I apply the same logic to edible gifts.

Communal chocolate bought for the household is different to chocolate bought as a gift for one person.

Each to their own though 🤷🏻‍♀️

TheDoveFromAboveCooCoo · 03/05/2022 08:20

TheNestedIf · 02/05/2022 21:11

Hotel Chocolat still have a couple of egg on sale, including some of the Ostrich sized ones.

www.hotelchocolat.com/uk/unbelievably-vegan-ostrich-easter-egg.html?cgid=chocolate-offers

You should empty your 'D'H's wallet and use that money buy your daughter one as a replacement. If 'D'H complains, tell him it's only money, he's being stupid and he's got to learn to share. See how he likes it.

I would definitely do this!