To have a late night / early morning rant about how no sleep is ruining my entire life?

[Notsleepingandnotcoping]

Lying here unable to sleep as have toddler with me. He refuses to go in his cot.

I have a three hour window (you can almost time it to the minute) when he goes to bed where he will sleep. Usually 730-1030. Then he wakes and that’s it.

I can either try to sleep myself then, or get all the other shit done. Either way I’m exhausted but if I sleep I am in chaos. If I don’t I have literally no sleep.

I can’t see friends, have a glass of wine, there is no enjoyment or pleasure in anything at all.

rant and moan and misery, pure misery.

i wish I had never done this.

DS was like this I was hallucinating with exhaustion. I genuinely thought I hated him. I probably did. He had CMPI.

Have you tried co sleeping? Make the room as safe as possible and just sleep with him. For a while I just went to bed with him and didn't leave. Which is a whole new level of isolating but at least I didn't think I was dying.

I also had a partner who couldn't help due to work and no amount of sleep training would of helped. I was also against it. I'm glad I never did in the end. He needed me and that was my job.

@AskingforaBaskin I'd read the full thread - the problem is the OP is co-sleeping but it's no longer working for her.

I went through this will my son. He would take hours to settle, sleep a short while then would be up. Our only solution was to Co sleep which worked for him, he slept better. But I felt like you. I was never apart from him, he was touching me 24/7 and I felt very overwhelmed by that. It was a hard part of my life. When he was 3 & started nursery we managed to get him in his own bed and he's been fine since. He's 11 now!! And loves his bed :-)

I went throught this for 5years. Not one nights sleep. It destroyed me and has my dreams as we couldn't have more children due to the fear of history repeating.
She's 8 now and still the earliest riser..
She someone who understand completely I'd honestly say get a sleep consultant and quickly it was another 3years for us before we got full night sleep at the toddler stage.

I would if the app wasn't so shit.

I can't relate, co sleeping worked until it didn't and DS became too grabby and fidgety. We resorted to turn taking at night as my mental health nosedived from lack of sleep. We did however find that their sleep got a lot worse in the month or so before they started to sleep through at around the 18 month mark. There's a regression around this time that may have come early in your case.

That said if taking turns at night isn't for you and you're not coping, and it really sounds that way then I don't think it's the worst thing in the world to sleep train. He's not a tiny baby and you have to look at the whole situation. I used earphones with white noise on my nights off which seemed to help.

@Notsleepingandnotcoping how are you doing?