To be flattered? Or is this strange?

[sleepfortheweek]

Walking my dog this evening. I was walking through a local park, as were many other people.

I had my headphones in listening to my audio book but out of the corner of my eye I saw a man crossing the park towards me. I didn't think much of it and just kept walking but then I noticed he was walking directly towards me.

When he was close enough I could see he was saying something to me so I took out my ear buds and I didn't catch the first bit but he basically said sorry for being so random but he really like my fashion (I was wearing jeans, boots, an hoody and a body warmer 🤣) and wanted to say hi.

He introduced himself to me and shook my hand. I had no idea what was going on, and I told him my name. He was just kind of smiling at me and making conversation. Asked what I liked to do to relax etc. It was a very normal conversation but in very strange circumstances.

He then asked if I was taken.I said yes, I have a husband and two children. The conversation ended not too long after, with him apologising again for being so random. He said cheerio and off he went on the opposite direction to me 🤷🏼‍♀️

Does this kind of thing actually happen in real life or do you think he was on drugs?? He didn't seem drunk.

I live in a tiny town, and he said he was here for work (even told me what work).

Should I be flattered? Or should I be looking over my shoulder from now on?

This has NEVER happened to me before, it's not like I'm a beauty queen that men fall over themselves to speak to 🤣

The strangest thing was that the part of my audio book I was at was a man and woman who barely knew each other went for a coffee together and I was literally thinking how that never really happens in real life then BOOM I'm accosted by a stranger 🤣

Wow!

the guy wasn’t wearing a trench coat with only a pair of tight underneath it ffs!

I think it’s quite sweet tbh, OP. You clearly thought it was bizarre and your gut wasn’t to run away screaming and call the police. like most of the pp would have. That probably tells you something.

I’ve had this happen to me over the years. I’m absolutely no looker, but I don’t think approaching someone like that is necessarily a weird or creepy thing to do! It’s engagement and when we live in a world now where it’s all about swiping on a screen, actual proper 3D interaction is something we should do more of. There’s SO much more to a person than just how they look in a photo and done typed words. Anyway thats a different rant, but screens have got s lot to answer for.

Not every man is Jimmy Savile. It’s true!

Wow!

the guy wasn’t wearing a trench coat with only a pair of tight underneath it ffs!

I think it’s quite sweet tbh, OP. You clearly thought it was bizarre and your gut wasn’t to run away screaming and call the police. like most of the pp would have. That probably tells you something.

I’ve had this happen to me over the years. I’m absolutely no looker, but I don’t think approaching someone like that is necessarily a weird or creepy thing to do! It’s engagement and when we live in a world now where it’s all about swiping on a screen, actual proper 3D interaction is something we should do more of. There’s SO much more to a person than just how they look in a photo and done typed words. Anyway thats a different rant, but screens have got s lot to answer for.

Not every man is Jimmy Savile. It’s true!

Fuck you new mumsnet.

Hahahahahhaah

Hahahahahhaah

Ok now I see the problem

How is it creepy, weird, strange, frightening etc etc?? How on earth do you think our parents and grandparents got together in life before the invention of social media? It’s a sad day when you can’t try and ask someone out. It’s not like he hung about and followed her home is it… if this is what our children are being taught then soon we will do away with conversation all together. He fancied you, he asked you if you were single, then left you alone. Nothing wrong here.

How is it creepy, weird, strange, frightening etc etc?? How on earth do you think our parents and grandparents got together in life before the invention of social media? It’s a sad day when you can’t try and ask someone out. It’s not like he hung about and followed her home is it… if this is what our children are being taught then soon we will do away with conversation all together. He fancied you, he asked you if you were single, then left you alone. Nothing wrong here.

How is it creepy, weird, strange, frightening etc etc?? How on earth do you think our parents and grandparents got together in life before the invention of social media? It’s a sad day when you can’t try and ask someone out. It’s not like he hung about and followed her home is it… if this is what our children are being taught then soon we will do away with conversation all together. He fancied you, he asked you if you were single, then left you alone. Nothing wrong here.

How is it creepy, weird, strange, frightening etc etc?? How on earth do you think our parents and grandparents got together in life before the invention of social media? It’s a sad day when you can’t try and ask someone out. It’s not like he hung about and followed her home is it… if this is what our children are being taught then soon we will do away with conversation all together. He fancied you, he asked you if you were single, then left you alone. Nothing wrong here.

How is it creepy, weird, strange, frightening etc etc?? How on earth do you think our parents and grandparents got together in life before the invention of social media? It’s a sad day when you can’t try and ask someone out. It’s not like he hung about and followed her home is it… if this is what our children are being taught then soon we will do away with conversation all together. He fancied you, he asked you if you were single, then left you alone. Nothing wrong here.

How is it creepy, weird, strange, frightening etc etc?? How on earth do you think our parents and grandparents got together in life before the invention of social media? It’s a sad day when you can’t try and ask someone out. It’s not like he hung about and followed her home is it… if this is what our children are being taught then soon we will do away with conversation all together. He fancied you, he asked you if you were single, then left you alone. Nothing wrong here.

How is it creepy, weird, strange, frightening etc etc?? How on earth do you think our parents and grandparents got together in life before the invention of social media? It’s a sad day when you can’t try and ask someone out. It’s not like he hung about and followed her home is it… if this is what our children are being taught then soon we will do away with conversation all together. He fancied you, he asked you if you were single, then left you alone. Nothing wrong here.

How is it creepy, weird, strange, frightening etc etc?? How on earth do you think our parents and grandparents got together in life before the invention of social media? It’s a sad day when you can’t try and ask someone out. It’s not like he hung about and followed her home is it… if this is what our children are being taught then soon we will do away with conversation all together. He fancied you, he asked you if you were single, then left you alone. Nothing wrong here.

This is like in a cartoon where people's words keep going round and round in someone's head 😉

This is like in a cartoon where people's words keep going round and round in someone's head 😉

Exactly. Used to happen a lot and was actually how I met my first husband.

I find this far less strange than meeting someone online…..

Exactly. Used to happen a lot and was actually how I met my first husband.

I find this far less strange than meeting someone online.

I was in a pub once with family and friends, a local band was playing, as they were leaving the lead singer approached our table and starting telling me how beautiful I was.
All my lady friends felt quite offended but I felt like it was a mean joke! I don’t find myself attractive so it ruined my night and I couldn’t shake the feeling it was a dare to pick on the ugly girl.
Either way whatever his intentions or true feelings were I just wanted to share as men do approach women randomly!

I find it really sad that there are still women who perpetuate this idea that women are available 24/7 to be approached by random men, and should be flattered by it.

Its quite obvious to any NT person when someone is just going about their own business and isn't inviting conversation. As a rule of thumb, men shouldn't walk up to women on their own in public spaces and start chatting them up.

I've had a number of dates/partners. Never did any of them approach me in a park while I was walking in my own, minding my own business. That would be a red flag to me.

He showed no interest in my dog at all

He showed no interest in my dog at all

He showed no interest in my dog at all

So from across the park he decided that he wanted a date I'm with pp. Vile & creepy. All seems a bit predatory as he picked you from a distance. How far is 'across the park' ? Cant believe you entertained his small talk, I would have said 'cheerio' pronto

So from across the park he decided that he wanted a date I'm with pp. Vile & creepy. All seems a bit predatory as he picked you from a distance. How far is 'across the park' ? Cant believe you entertained his small talk, I would have said 'cheerio' pronto