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Mum thinks this dress isn't right for wedding

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confusedmummy123 · 25/04/2022 22:28

Going to a wedding in a couple weeks. Saw a gorgeous bardot dress, loved it, fiance loved it so ordered it and I love it in real life too. However I sent a pic to my mum who just texted back "I don't like it for a wedding" then didn't say why or anymore? Am I breaking some kind of etiquette? Clueless about these things. Most weddings I've been too I've been the bridesmaid or the bride and don't have a clue how guests dressed. I do remember a wedding a few years back where I wore a red polka dot dress. Don't know if that was breaking any etiquette rules. I do believe that mother likes that dress though! I will attach a pic of the dress!

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KatherineJaneway · 26/04/2022 08:10

Dress is fine for a day at the beach or a BBQ. Not a dress to be worn at a wedding, however informal that wedding is.

Bleachmycloths · 26/04/2022 08:11

I agree with all the posters who point out that is a very cute dress but definitely not for a wedding.

DolphinaPD · 26/04/2022 08:13

I'd wear that to the beach, not a wedding, sorry!

MichelleScarn · 26/04/2022 08:15

Most weddings I've been too I've been the bridesmaid or the bride
How many times have you been a bridesmaid (or the bride) surely you must remember the style of clothes guests wear!

JinglingHellsBells · 26/04/2022 08:21

Etiquette is that you should not wear anything that upstages or takes attention away from the bride.

Your dress would do exactly that. Most women will be in smart dresses, often midi or knee length, with sleeves, a bolero or a jacket. And even a hat.

It's exposing too much flesh - short, off the shoulder, flimsy cheap material.

Totally inappropriate.

Sosigsandwich · 26/04/2022 08:22

It's lovely but I'd wear it on holiday not to a wedding.

MiniCooperLover · 26/04/2022 08:22

If it was a maxi dress I'd say it was OK, but there's too much shoulder/too much leg. It feels like one or the other would be better? Even a relaxed wedding it just doesn't seem quite right?

SnozPoz · 26/04/2022 08:28

Lovely dress... for a beach holiday.

PlayGIBluff · 26/04/2022 08:30

I agree with your DM @confusedmummy123 I’d wear this around a swimming pool or out for dinner on holiday. I think you’d look odd at an English wedding in that.it’s also a bit young - are you early 20’s?

Thatswhyimacat · 26/04/2022 08:36

Most of the stuff I've ever bought from boohoo has always looked cheaper and thinner than the picture - so even though in the picture it looks solid pink, I bet in real life it's flimsy and see-through.

Sorry OP, I'd maybe look for something like a floral pink off shoulder maxi dress, that would look lovely at a spring/summer wedding.

EmpressSuiko · 26/04/2022 08:39

Sorry I do agree with your mum, it’s perfect for a holiday and relaxing around the pool or going to the beach in etc but it’s just not a wedding guest dress. I’d look for something that’s still you but more suitable for a wedding yet something you can wear again.

AChocolateOrangeaday · 26/04/2022 08:42

Listen to your Mum.

Iamthewombat · 26/04/2022 08:51

PlayGIBluff · 26/04/2022 08:30

I agree with your DM @confusedmummy123 I’d wear this around a swimming pool or out for dinner on holiday. I think you’d look odd at an English wedding in that.it’s also a bit young - are you early 20’s?

I was wondering ths. To have been a bride at least once before and now engaged to someone else: the OP has certainly lived life to the full if she’s still young enough to (1) contemplate wearing that dress to a wedding and (2) seek her mother’s approval (although I’m glad she did, since her mum appears to know how to dress for an occasion)

Greyarea12 · 26/04/2022 08:51

I would say that's a Beach dress.

SexyPortugese · 26/04/2022 08:56

It's a bit too informal and beachy. If I were the bride I wouldn't give a toss though, I can't even remember what my family wore to my wedding because their presence was all I cared about. But some people will think you look a bit out of place.

Labscollie · 26/04/2022 08:58

confusedmummy123 · 25/04/2022 22:45

It's not a church wedding. I like that someone commented that I should wear something that's more "me" . If I bought something specifically like what I'm supposed to wear I wouldn't wear it again.

That's part and parcel of attending a wedding, buying something formal. It sounds like you are thinking more about you and not what the event entails.

SomersetONeil · 26/04/2022 08:59

Amusing that the OP didn’t like what her Mum had to say … so she came on here to ask a load of Mums. Grin

I mean, we’re right. Just not sure what she was expecting to hear.

HazelBite · 26/04/2022 09:01

You either show your shoulders or your legs, not both! I agree with your Mum inappropriate for a wedding.
I think you need something "elegant" for a wedding, a little more formal, have a look on the Dorothy perkins website lots of lovely midi dresses some in their sale quite cheap.

NeedWineNow · 26/04/2022 09:03

Sorry, but I'm with your mum. That's a beach/holiday/informal dress, not for a wedding (church or otherwise).

Oblongogo · 26/04/2022 09:06

I think it’s ok! Agree that maybe for a church wedding you might want to cover up a bit more and I’m not sure what sort of cover up would go with that style but for an informal barn or tipi type wedding it’s ok. Though I would be wary that something from boohoo might in reality look a bit cheap material wise.

Sceptre86 · 26/04/2022 09:07

It too casual and many people have already said that. It's up to you wear what you want but don't be surprised that you might look underdressed compared to others.

KatherineJaneway · 26/04/2022 09:07

SomersetONeil · 26/04/2022 08:59

Amusing that the OP didn’t like what her Mum had to say … so she came on here to ask a load of Mums. Grin

I mean, we’re right. Just not sure what she was expecting to hear.

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Honeyroar · 26/04/2022 09:09

MichelleScarn · 26/04/2022 08:15

Most weddings I've been too I've been the bridesmaid or the bride
How many times have you been a bridesmaid (or the bride) surely you must remember the style of clothes guests wear!

I agree! I thought you were very young and hadn’t been to many weddings from your earlier post, but clearly you have and should know!

CounsellorTroi · 26/04/2022 09:11

I think it’s a holiday/summer night out sort of dress, but it’s not a dress for a wedding. I agree that elegance is what is needed and that can’t be achieved putting loads of flesh on display.

I think too much bare leg at a wedding is inappropriate regardless of whether shoulders are out.

katepilar · 26/04/2022 09:13

Looks like a summer dress, suitable for a hot day in a park or at the beach. I wouldnt wear it to work but other people at my work would and it would be fine.
I woulnt wear it for a wedding, unless it was clearly a very casual one.
Its the bare shoulders, the embroidery, the material.

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