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Mum thinks this dress isn't right for wedding

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confusedmummy123 · 25/04/2022 22:28

Going to a wedding in a couple weeks. Saw a gorgeous bardot dress, loved it, fiance loved it so ordered it and I love it in real life too. However I sent a pic to my mum who just texted back "I don't like it for a wedding" then didn't say why or anymore? Am I breaking some kind of etiquette? Clueless about these things. Most weddings I've been too I've been the bridesmaid or the bride and don't have a clue how guests dressed. I do remember a wedding a few years back where I wore a red polka dot dress. Don't know if that was breaking any etiquette rules. I do believe that mother likes that dress though! I will attach a pic of the dress!

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milkyaqua · 26/04/2022 00:12

confusedmummy123 · 25/04/2022 22:45

It's not a church wedding. I like that someone commented that I should wear something that's more "me" . If I bought something specifically like what I'm supposed to wear I wouldn't wear it again.

Over 90% say YABU to wear this dress to a wedding. And you pick one response that says go on, wear what's "you"!

sashh · 26/04/2022 00:31

Not for a wedding.

I think having shoulders and knees on show is a difficult look for anyone.

Also is this wedding in the UK? What would it look like if it rains? What would you look like. the same if it is windy.

Do you love the dress or the top of the dress? It would be easy to add a longer skirt, maybe a wrap around skirt for the formal bit then the dress as is for the evening.

Robinni · 26/04/2022 00:36

This looks like something you would wear at the beach bar in Ibiza… not at all appropriate for a wedding.

Try Monsoon, HOF, Coast, or anywhere that has dresses that are in the style of what you’d find in those shops.

It doesn’t need to be expensive, but it does need to be formal, and relatively classy (knee length dress, not booby, formal jacket to go over it if your arms/chest are exposed and you’re attending at the church)

stevalnamechanger · 26/04/2022 00:37

That is NOT acceptable for a wedding

Robinni · 26/04/2022 00:41

@confusedmummy123

Go back onto boohoo where you got the other dress.

Type in “formal dress” in the search bar. That is what you are going for. But DO NOT buy any with a thigh high split or cleavage down to the navel… Most formal dresses that are on boohoo are ok, some suspect ones though!!

MistyGreenAndBlue · 26/04/2022 00:43

At least it's not white I suppose Grin
Hideous colour though. Like candy floss

AnAfternoonWalk · 26/04/2022 00:54

Sometimes listening to your mother is a good idea.

You should be thinking of the bride and groom and wearing appropriate respectful attire. A very casual, off the shoulder, mini dress meant for the beach and pretending you didn’t know any better “am I breaking some kind of etiquette?” 🙄will telegraph to everyone that your primary concern is bringing attention to yourself. The wedding of two other people, presumably your friends, is not about you but you’re insisting on making it about you. Go ahead if that is your character.

greenlynx · 26/04/2022 00:58

It’s too casual and definitely beach style rather then occasionwear.
I was just browsing online in Zara and New Look - plenty of nice dresses suitable for a wedding, not overly expensive.

Carrotmum · 26/04/2022 01:00

if your mum thinks it’s not appropriate and most of the PP’s think that it’s inappropriate don’t you think that most people at the wedding will be thinking, what on earth is she wearing? I’m sure that no one would be so rude as to say anything to you but would you be comfortable wearing it now knowing how most people would be thinking? Also you’ll stand out in the wedding photos, and not in a good way.

donquixotedelamancha · 26/04/2022 01:27

My 8YO would think it's too casual and childish for her to wear to a wedding but my 6YO would love it.

You should wear it, so what if no-one else likes it? It's interesting, pretty and not dull.

I routinely wear stuff others think looks daft. I wear what I like. Do the same.

milkyaqua · 26/04/2022 01:29

No, save it for a funeral. Be you!

Eucalyptusbee · 26/04/2022 01:34

If its a casual beach wedding eg no shoes very hot etc then maybe

Otherwise not OK for a wedding- way way too short and too much exposed

Eucalyptusbee · 26/04/2022 01:39

Your mum is right and trying to save you from embarrassment.
It would be very tacky to arrive at a wedding in that-Save it for the beach this summer :-)

Electriq · 26/04/2022 01:53

That dress isn't for a wedding, sorry, you may wear it again, but it's not wedding attire.

Nice for a holiday somewhere hot or the beach.

Superhanz · 26/04/2022 01:54

No way can you wear that to a wedding no matter how casual. Its a beach cover up you'd look ridiculous. Christ no. Don't do this to yourself. Honestly, you'd be a laughing stock. I don't want to be mean but I'm really trying to save you the embarrassment of rocking up in this.

It's quite nice for throwing over a bikini with your flip flops. But other than that, no.

Kennykenkencat · 26/04/2022 02:44

If it was a beach wedding on a Caribbean Island then it is perfect.
Anything in this country I think the etiquette is more formal cocktail dress or tea dance dress. Something that has straps that go over the shoulders even if the entire shoulder isn’t covered and skims the knees at least.

One thing you have to look out for if the wedding is in this country is that you need to think about the weather. You need something that you can add a jacket or shrug or shawl to in case it is on the only day in July or August that there is a thunder storm and it is pouring with rain.

THEDEACON · 26/04/2022 02:51

That is not a dress to wear to a wedding

PurpleFlower1983 · 26/04/2022 03:19

Nice summer/beach dress but far too casual for a wedding.

SD1978 · 26/04/2022 03:24

If you're comfortable, that's what matters, personally I'd wear it to the beach, or in summer as a chick on dress, it wouldn't be an 'event'dress in my mind. Sorry!

milkyaqua · 26/04/2022 03:36

If you're comfortable, that's what matters

Bollocks. It's a wedding. You can't just wear your trackies or a bikini or hooker boots, because that's what you feel comfortable in, to someone's wedding.

RoseGoldEagle · 26/04/2022 03:40

It’s not traditional wedding attire, but honestly people wore all sorts to my wedding and I loved the variety. I think it’s a lovely dress and will be fine to wear.

mathanxiety · 26/04/2022 04:10

That's a dress to wear at a bar on a beach.

Hallyup89 · 26/04/2022 04:13

I agree with your mum, it's not for a wedding. Looks like a sack of potatoes fell into a blancmange.

CheekyHobson · 26/04/2022 04:19

For a dress that short, you'd definitely need your shoulders to be covered to make the look dressed-up/sophisticated enough for a wedding. Even then I feel it's probably a little on the short side unless you're attending an evening reception only.

If you like to show your shoulders more than your legs, choose a dress that's midi (past knee-length) or maxi length.

Dita73 · 26/04/2022 04:22

No no no!!! That is something you chuck over a swimming costume when you leave the beach and walk to the hotel. Completely inappropriate for a wedding and probably any other social occasion