Good Morning 👋
I REALLY need help with this one, I will try and keep it as short as possible.
My DS12 is currently in his first year of secondary school.
He has settled in very well 🙂
The issue is regarding another child in my sons class, we will refer him as X.
Just for the record, I don’t feel the least bit comfortable discussing another persons child on a parenting group.
During the first few weeks of the beginning of term, DS told me that there is a boy in his class that doesn’t come across as a nice person and that his friends and a few other boys discreetly make fun of him.
He said that he always steps in and tells them to leave him alone and to be kind, he had also tried to take the time out and speak to him, but he just tells him to go away.
That particular day, he had said that for the first time at lunch break, he spoke to X and he actually seemed like a nice person, and that he would like to be X friend because he doesn’t have any.
Fast forwarding
My mum collects DS from school, so does X mum and the pair of them became friendly with one another.
DS went to X house twice before I met mum, who seemed lovely so did X.
She let me know that X has always found it hard to make friends, never had friends home from school, and that she is happy and relieved that he has finally found someone.
During half-team DS was invited out to attend some VERY expensive activities and days out with X (very wealthy family) I let him go, because mum is lovely and I trust her with DS.
On Wednesday, DS didn’t want to go to school (which is very unusual) it took a while for him to tell me what was wrong.
X had sent him text messages threatening to kill him and our family, he if doesn’t stop speaking to his best friend which he has known since Prep.
I asked him if this was the first time he had ever been nasty to him, it turns out that it isn’t.
DS said sometimes at school, X pinches him under the table, but he always apologises.
I have asked him to write down what other nasty things X has said/done to him.
X gets upset when we play a game and he loses, so I always let him win.
X doesn’t like me playing with my other friends online, I try and include him but he says he doesn’t want to join, because I’m playing with my other friends.
X calls me stupid sometimes for no reason, but always apologises.
I believe that mum is aware of what X is like, and when I come to think about it, it’s almost as if she has been bribing my son with expensive activities, days out and trips.
He has asked me not to tell X mum or anyone else, would it be unreasonable of me to raise this issue with the school and show them the texts?
school more than likely would ask X to leave.