My colleague had a baby 13 months ago. She's a ginger, pale, freckled Mancunian. Her husband has a white British father and his black mum is from Ghana. They're almost equivalent to Harry and Meghan in that respect. There was lots of speculation as to whether their new baby boy would be as dark as his 2 year old sister or as pasty as his mum. That wasn't seen as racist or unpleasant in their family.
On the televised circus Oprah show, there was some indication as I remember that a similar conversation took place amongst the Windsors but Harry or Meghan, can't remember who, indicated that it was said out of concern, as if it would be a problem. John Barnes had this to say:
‘If you listen to what Meghan says, it’s not about them [the unnamed royal] worrying if the baby is dark or not, it’s them worrying about how the public are going to view that.
‘Because they know if the baby is too dark, the public will not view the baby as positively. They’re being realistic. ‘Let’s not pretend the public won’t care whether it’s a blond-haired blue-eyed baby or jet black, because they will.’
Mr Barnes added the ‘problem’ now is Meghan critics are labelled as ‘racist’, even when they are questioning her ‘character as a human being’.
It seems that if anyone criticises Meghan as an individual, her character, as John Barnes said, this is (hate to use a cliche) weaponised as racism.