To have a gut feeling that a man I just met is "the one"?

[gelatodipistacchio]

I don't like most men.

The first time we met, I had an instant feeling that he should be my boyfriend. We have now been on 5 dates and we both seem to be head over heels (while not rushing).

I still feel firmly that we will have a serious LTR.

Do you believe in gut feelings/instincts? AIBU to have this intense, instinctive belief?

My mum claims that she knew at first sight if my dad that she'd marry him. Married 45 years this year

I could've posted this except the part about being happily settled with a DP (unfortunately lol)

OP, I did have this once before. I met him young but I knew when I met him I wouldn't be with anyone else. Unfortunately distance/circumstances kept us apart and he eventually married someone else. I have never felt that way about anyone else, and i've dated a LOT. Makes me sad, but I guess that's life for some of us.

Hope everything works out for you!

My parents got engaged after 6 weeks
They've been married 50 years

I did not have this feeling when I met DH (and spent a long time turning him down to preserve our friendship) but as soon as we started going out, I knew we would never break up. I hope it works out, OP.

My friend met her now husband on his farewell night out the weekend before he moved away for his new job. She went with him after only know him five days and theyve now been married 30 years. Some people just find their fit early.

Update: we are still going strong. He has literally said, "I want to have a serious long term relationship with you.'

Update: we are still totally into one another. We aren't rushing any formal commitments or entanglements, but we would both say that we are deeply in love. He just said last week that this is the happiest he has ever been.

Felt the same about my abusive ex. Felling, yes take them into account, but also look for red flags. Eyes wide open please!

YABU.

Loads of people have tipped up already to tell you they knew their husband was "the one" but its selectivity bias in action. They are simply just not telling you all the other people they thought were "the one" but who have now been forgotten.

Gut feelings are a thing but they are not always right. And I don't believe in "the one". So handle with care and don't get carried away.

I once met a man and the first thing that popped into my head when I saw him was I’m going to marry that t man!
After a matter of weeks dating him I was head over heals in love with him.
We’ve been married nearly 20 years and still adore each other.

I knew my hubby was the one before we even spoke. Engaged in 3 weeks and 5 days. Married in 9 months. Happily married 23 years this February.

It's great you like him. It's great he likes you. Maybe it'll go all the way. But the whole lightning bolt/gut feeling is just confirmation bias. Most people just don't like talking about the times their instincts were wrong.

Jesus the negativity ffs. Let the woman have her warm fuzzy happy feelings.

I am delighted for you both op :)

I wouldn't say I believe in love at first sight necessarily but I was definitely like that when I met my DH too, we just instantly fit together

No-one's being negative. The OP asked an AIBU question and people are resonding about gut feelings. If she just wanted 'you go girl!' replies there's always the chat section.

Of course people get a gut feeling, Doesn't mean it will always play out that way for you. Plenty of divorces between people who thought they were 'the one' for each other. Plenty of people convinced their partner was 'the one' but the feeling wasn't reciprocated.

Enjoy the ride!

Lovely updates. So happy for you OP ❤️

Yeah but she posted this in April.

I actually wouldn't say it was love at first sight. More like instant feeling of comfort and compatibility.

So?

I think lots of people say this in retrospect. So maybe it’s correct if you can say it now (as long as you haven’t said it many times before 😂).
DH and I had a rocky start /first year. There was a lot going right but not everything. However 18 years on (smug) marriage is better than I ever hoped or imagined.

Yes I knew from first date with boyfriend that we were compatible and that I need look no further.

But. I don’t believe that everyone has one ‘One’. When I met my ex husband 25 years ago, I knew that he was the One. I think you can be compatible with different people at different times of your life. My boyfriend is right for me at this stage of my life. My exH was right for me back then. We have 2 lovely children and are still on good terms with one another. I think people can just grow apart.

Sorry! Read update now!
Long live love. ❤️

I definitely have this feeling with my boyfriend. I can only describe it as putting in my favourite old comfy wooly cardigan.

Equally, if you meet someone and it turns into an LTR perhaps you're likely to feel you always knew he was the one.