Furbaby - just no

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Make me feel nauseous.

AIBU?

@Illwithdisappointment

I agree. It winds me up. Both the words 'furbaby' and 'holibobs' no idea why but I hate those terms!

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That term annoys me too. I love my dogs more than I like most people, they have replaced my kids that are now grown up. I love them to bits, it's their house as much as mine, etc... But I will never call them "furbabies" it's just a stupid annoying label someone created and caught on by certain types of people.

At the end of the day I don't really care that others use the term but it does annoy me when I hear it. I say nothing in response though.

I don't like it either.

Agreed. Dire.

And I like animals.

I don't like the term but I try to keep my mouth shut. Same with all the rainbow bridge stuff, I adore my dog but facebook quotes aren't my thing.

Maybe the posters who take issue with Rainbow bridge should keep those thoughts to themselves. It is how some people process the loss of a pet. Would you tell someone who took comfort in thinking a relative had gone to heaven that they were being stupid too?

Eh.
It's just a turn of phrase, I don't use it myself but I can't get het up about it either.

wouldn't use it for my cat.
She's a cutsiepoots

Seeing the comment about flexitime above, when cutsiepoots was a kitten I started a new job - self employed contractor - and the woman I worked for asked if I could start earlier (I generally started at 9.15, and the hour or so in the office on my own was really productive, she was generally in by 8) I explained I could for a specific meeting, but it wasn't really convenient because I had to fit in taking my cat for a walk:)

@XenoBitch

Maybe the posters who take issue with Rainbow bridge should keep those thoughts to themselves. It is how some people process the loss of a pet. Would you tell someone who took comfort in thinking a relative had gone to heaven that they were being stupid too?

Actually no, but that's why I HATE other people telling me MY much loved pets have "gone over the rainbow bridge". If that's where Auntie Dorothy likes to imagine her cat has gone, and pictures them happy, content, free of pain etc over there then I'm all for it. But I fucking HATE IT when people who barely know me and certainly had never met my pets telling ME that they know where my pet has gone. Surely that's for MY spiritual or religious beliefs to decide? For what it's worth, I'm not spiritual or religious, however I like to imagine two of my previous rabbits who had the most magical bond imaginable and yet died a year apart to be back together, running round a big, safe field, young and free of any suffering and just enjoying each others' company. For somebody to tell me matter of factly that they've gone to some made-up place that people obsess over and actually believe to be true makes me shudder.

As you were.

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My FurBaby, my gorgeous little boy is currently snuggled up by my feet, on the end of the bed gently snoring away.

@XenoBitch

Maybe the posters who take issue with Rainbow bridge should keep those thoughts to themselves. It is how some people process the loss of a pet. Would you tell someone who took comfort in thinking a relative had gone to heaven that they were being stupid too?

^^ This!

[quote amatsip]@Changechangychange My darling boy died in my arms on Jan 14th this year, he was 14 and riddled with throat cancer. He wasn’t just my dog he was my sanity.
I’m sorry if me grieving for my darling boy offends you or gives you the ick.
Many a much moment I wish I could join him as it hurts so bad not having him next to me as he always was.
My life is a bag of shite, my dog was everything to me.
Id never felt truly loved till I had him.

Thank you for your nasty comments.[/quote]
I'm so sorry. It's terrible to lose a beloved pet. My dog has cancer and is currently having chemo. He's in remission but we've been warned that remission will be short lived once the course has finished. My dog is the baby I couldn't have. I hope in time your memories of him brings you some comfort.

YANBU errrghhhhh

Live, love, laugh with my furbabies and husbeast on our holibobs lol hun.

@Changechangychange I’m so very sorry. They don’t live nearly long enough

When did we get to the stage that someone not liking a word or phrase became ‘nasty’ and translated as ‘who cares about your dog passing away’ 🤨

@Squiff70
Totally agree - we recently had to have one of our cats put to sleep. We miss her and I appreciated the card from the vets, but I personally found the rainbow bridge stuff hard to stomach. I get that for many it’s comforting but not for me.

[quote EthelMerman]@Squiff70
Totally agree - we recently had to have one of our cats put to sleep. We miss her and I appreciated the card from the vets, but I personally found the rainbow bridge stuff hard to stomach. I get that for many it’s comforting but not for me.[/quote]
I get you, and I'm sorry for the loss of one of your cats

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always thought this! I am thee biggest animal lover on the planet. Have two dogs and an actual baby but have my dogs on par with him in my head 😂 despite all of that I would never refer to them as my fur babies 🤦🏼‍♀️ I actually used to hate when I only had them and no child and people would say that’s what they were. Not only is it cringe, it also used to make me feel as if they were some sort of lesser prize to an actual baby like it was a sympathy term of ‘fur baby’ like I was a poor soul obsessed with their dogs. You can actually just have dogs and no child and be quite happy like that, WITHOUT calling them your fur baby 🙈

I note you say buying instead of just getting. Quite a loaded term don’t you think? Not everyone buys their dog.

In the US it seems perfectly normal to call yourself your dog’s mommy and no one bats an eyelid. One of the things I like about the place.

This. If it actually bothers you, you need to zen out. It’s just a silly, widely-used, tongue in cheek term that indicates nothing about the person using it.

I hate it. I hate it when people refer to themselves as their pet's mummy, too. I hate the rainbow bridge bollocks with a passion.

I do however, love my pets and have been devastated when they've died. But I respect them as animals. They're not babies and I hate the infantilisation of pets that become rife over recent years.

I am also at the threads titled “my darling little boy died in my arms today” which sound like bereaved parents but turn out to be somebody whose ageing fish or hamster has snuffed it.

Those posts really bother me when they appear in active. It takes time to notice that they come from the pets branch, and by then my stomach has done a loop.

It's horrible because I picture a human baby covered in fur, but terms like hubby which I know is also deeply unpopular on mn, not sure why that's offensive