To not have bought eggs for DSCs?

[eggsbenedict82]

Long story short, DSD (10yo) and DSS (8yo) are being dropped off here later by DH's ex. The whole visit was arranged with short notice, and only briefly rushed past me, as DH knows I have been busy preparing Easter for our 3yo DS.
This morning, after DS had opened his eggs, DH asked where the DSCs eggs are so they can be set up for later.
I told him I had not bought any, and when he got indignant I said it's as simple as they're not my DCs, they're his, it's not my fault he's waited until Easter day, when no shops are open. Not my responsibility, but as per usual, I've been cast as the wicked stepmother - happy Easter, hey? AIBU

@FangsForTheMemory

Hm. Why didn't the ex buy her kids eggs and drop them off with their eggs?

That said, I would have told my DH to get his kids some eggs because you weren't going to.

Apparently I should have known that eggs were happening at my house this year, rather than at ex-W's! Honestly

@FangsForTheMemory

Hm. Why didn't the ex buy her kids eggs and drop them off with their eggs?

That said, I would have told my DH to get his kids some eggs because you weren't going to.

Eh? No mum does what she wants at her house. It's not up to her to provide chocolate eggs for dad's house.

Honestly your behaviour is appalling you are obviously not one family why buy your own child eggs and a present and not dsc and don’t use the excuse they are hubby’s and ex responsibility

@aSofaNearYou ONCE MORE FOR THE TONE DEAF, IT DOESN'T MATTER IF THEY WERE THERE ON EASTER SUNDAY OR NOT, THEY SHOULD STILL GET EGGS! YOU WOULDN'T NOT GIVE THEM CHRISTMAS OR BIRTHDAY PRESENTS IF THEY WERE NOT THERE, SO WHY EASTER!

@Ffsmakeitstop

Surely someone should have bought eggs even if they were to be given after the actual day. No one comes out of this smelling of roses.

Why? My DP doesn't think it's a good idea for his kid to have two whole sets of chocolate. It's excessive. Not everyone takes Easter eggs that seriously.

You also sorted Easter for your three nieces.
Wouldn't have hurt to buy Easter eggs for dsc.

But you did know @eggsbenedict82. You knew Wednesday.

[quote HELLITHURT]@aSofaNearYou ONCE MORE FOR THE TONE DEAF, IT DOESN'T MATTER IF THEY WERE THERE ON EASTER SUNDAY OR NOT, THEY SHOULD STILL GET EGGS! YOU WOULDN'T NOT GIVE THEM CHRISTMAS OR BIRTHDAY PRESENTS IF THEY WERE NOT THERE, SO WHY EASTER!

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Yes their father should have bought all his children eggs regardless of when he was seeing them.

[quote HELLITHURT]@aSofaNearYou ONCE MORE FOR THE TONE DEAF, IT DOESN'T MATTER IF THEY WERE THERE ON EASTER SUNDAY OR NOT, THEY SHOULD STILL GET EGGS! YOU WOULDN'T NOT GIVE THEM CHRISTMAS OR BIRTHDAY PRESENTS IF THEY WERE NOT THERE, SO WHY EASTER!

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Well I've said the same thing multiple times - but I wouldn't bother getting kids eggs to save for another day. It's either on the day or not worth bothering about to me. It's not as serious an event as birthdays or Christmas, it's a minor thing and doing it twice is excessively unhealthy.

I would buy my DSC eggs, from me, to them, because I care about them, because they are my DSC, the children of the man I love, and siblings to my DC.

If I wasn’t expecting to see them I would send them a week earlier in a carrier bag.

And I wouldn’t be carping on about a ‘hastily arranged’ last minute ‘visit’ of my DSC with FOUR DAYS NOTICE. They are your DH’s kids, your home is their home…

Yes, I would expect my DH to take 50% household tasks, and we would discuss Easter eggs.

Poor kids. You are a crap step mum, he is a crap and selfish Dad.

@eggsbenedict82 I've been expected to buy everyone's eggs in the past, which I have done, but what the incredibly short notice this year and the issues that the cost of living crisis brings, this year I simply sorted Easter for DS

So you bought the eggs previous years for your step children but didn’t bother this year & didn’t tell your DH that you weren’t buying eggs for them . That’s really childish behaviour & the people ending up losing out are your step children.

Cost of living didn’t prevent you buying for your sisters DC though.

Sounds like you don’t like your husband or step children much.

I’m a stepmum. I’d have bought eggs for every child and had the wife work argument between adults when the children were asleep. It’s not the kids fault. I feel sorry for them.

[quote HELLITHURT]@aSofaNearYou ONCE MORE FOR THE TONE DEAF, IT DOESN'T MATTER IF THEY WERE THERE ON EASTER SUNDAY OR NOT, THEY SHOULD STILL GET EGGS! YOU WOULDN'T NOT GIVE THEM CHRISTMAS OR BIRTHDAY PRESENTS IF THEY WERE NOT THERE, SO WHY EASTER!

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WHAT HAS "TONE DEAF" GOT TO DO WITH IT?

Dh kids are your childs half siblings. No matter what me dh did I would be thinking about my childs half siblings and try to involve them. It's not wife work or about showing how crap your dh is, it's about ds siblings being family

I've been expected to buy everyone's eggs in the past, which I have done, but what the incredibly short notice this year and the issues that the cost of living crisis brings, this year I simply sorted Easter for DS.

It's nice of you to have bought them in previous years but did you tell your h on Wednesday that you didn't plan to go to the shops before Sunday so he'd need to sort eggs ?

I feel sad for the children. Do you have real eggs in the fridge ? You can blow them and colour them with felt tips or acrylic paints, make a fun activity all the DC can join in. Don't point score with your useless DH using the DC as collateral.

@TenRedThings

I feel sad for the children. Do you have real eggs in the fridge ? You can blow them and colour them with felt tips or acrylic paints, make a fun activity all the DC can join in. Don't point score with your useless DH using the DC as collateral.

Or dad could do that?

It's either on the day or not worth bothering about to me. It's not as serious an event as birthdays or Christmas, it's a minor thing and doing it twice is excessively unhealthy same. If my DSC went to church I would think of it differently as its like the most holy day so more important than Christmas to them. But no they don't so its just chocolate egg day to them.

@AskingforaBaskin

My DH and his sister grew up with a SM like the OP. Both are in therapy due to feeling rejected and like an add-on that their dad had to provide for separately while their siblings from the marriage of Dad and SM were looked after and treated very differently. It impacts on self esteem for far longer than you think. A blended family is everyone’s responsibility and if you can’t think and live like that then WTF are you doing with someone who has kids, in my opinion. Luckily my DH and his ex-W and her DH share that opinion and we all care equally for “our” child.

@TenRedThings

I feel sad for the children. Do you have real eggs in the fridge ? You can blow them and colour them with felt tips or acrylic paints, make a fun activity all the DC can join in. Don't point score with your useless DH using the DC as collateral.

Why on earth should OP do this? Why can't dad stop scoffing his chocolate and do it?

But you didn’t just sort it for your DS you bought for your sisters children too. If you are going to make things up then at least remember what you said in previous posts

He should have bought eggs for his dc. Lazy arse he is.

YABU in that they are your step children and by having a child with your partner you should be buying stuff for them as well, can't have one without the other I'm afraid, otherwise you shouldn't of got involved with a ready made family in the first place

You can't blame the cost of living crisis when you've gone over budget on your own DS.
Sorry but YABU. Eggs are hardly expensive. You could have got them a £2 one each.
Instead you've made them feel second best to your own DS which is unfair. You knew your DH had children when you married him. You can't treat them differently.
Regardless of whether they were due or not, surely you'd just give them their eggs when they were next over?

We're in agreement on that point moochio!