To not have bought eggs for DSCs?

[eggsbenedict82]

Long story short, DSD (10yo) and DSS (8yo) are being dropped off here later by DH's ex. The whole visit was arranged with short notice, and only briefly rushed past me, as DH knows I have been busy preparing Easter for our 3yo DS.
This morning, after DS had opened his eggs, DH asked where the DSCs eggs are so they can be set up for later.
I told him I had not bought any, and when he got indignant I said it's as simple as they're not my DCs, they're his, it's not my fault he's waited until Easter day, when no shops are open. Not my responsibility, but as per usual, I've been cast as the wicked stepmother - happy Easter, hey? AIBU

@AnneElliott

Our corner shops were open this morning- yes more expensive than the supermarket but that's the deal. Was there nowhere he could have for some from?

Yes he could have given up his own but he turned I to a sulky child instead

‘ It has everything to do with wife work. ‘

Picking up 2 more eggs while out buying eggs and presents for another child is hardly the issue? And if it is ‘wife work’ that’s the problem then OP has bigger issues to deal with - and point scoring against your DP using an 8 and 10 year old? Low-class and petty.

@AskingforaBaskin no-ones vilifying anyone for having fun. People are perplexed how you can prepare fun for one child but not the others that will join you that day. Cinderella?

[quote CakeAmbushAlert]**@eggsbenedict82* DS has had a lovely day*

It’s lovely you enjoyed making Raster nice for your son. What makes you sound heartless is that you don’t seem to give a shit what kind of day your step children will have. As someone else said your 3 year old won’t remember but your Step children will know that neither you or their father could be bothered to pick up an egg for £2 for them.

Who bought their eggs from your household in previous years?[/quote]
I've been expected to buy everyone's eggs in the past, which I have done, but what the incredibly short notice this year and the issues that the cost of living crisis brings, this year I simply sorted Easter for DS.

[quote CakeAmbushAlert]@AskingforaBaskin no-ones vilifying anyone for having fun. People are perplexed how you can prepare fun for one child but not the others that will join you that day. Cinderella?[/quote]
There are countless posts ripping the piss out of OP for planning Easter for her child.

Her child.

If Step children wanted to join their father and the father of her child should've chipped in.

Maybe DH can sort it all next year

Your husband sounds horrible and I don’t think I could be with someone who doesn’t take responsibility for their own children in that way.

But there’s no way in hell I’d have given my dc Easter eggs whilst their siblings got nothing. That’s just so mean.

I wouldn't have gone and bought eggs for my dc and not the sc, even if I wasn't going to see them on the day

He's a shit parent for not going and buying eggs for all his dc and you are a shit step parent for not even thinking about them while you spent weeks arranging easter for your dc

If I was buying for my own child then yes, I would have picked up eggs for stepchildren too, as I would for any visiting children over easter.

Your husband is being a twat about it though.

Toddlers probably won't remember Easter, but you know who will - 8 & 10 yr olds for sure.

DS had such fun doing the Easter Egg hunt at that age, that I can't imagine why you'd deliberately not tell your DH or buy the £1 bag of eggs so they could include in the enjoyment . Toddler would enjoy it more with some companions surely.

It just seems such a sad way to live your life, deliberately excluding your DHs DCs on the sake of some principle when for the sake of a couple of quid, everyone could have had an enjoyable day.

"I've been expected to buy everyone's eggs in the past, which I have done, but what the incredibly short notice this year and the issues that the cost of living crisis brings, this year I simply sorted Easter for DS."

Don't forget your sisters kids, op.

Wednesday isn't incredibly short notice. It's enough time for you to say 'I'm not sorting dsc eggs this year. That's on you'

‘ but what the incredibly short notice this year and the issues that the cost of living crisis brings, this year I simply sorted Easter for DS.’

Out of interest, how much money did you spend on your DS that meant you could afford the 2 eggs for £5 deal in most supermarkets?

[quote CakeAmbushAlert]@AskingforaBaskin no-ones vilifying anyone for having fun. People are perplexed how you can prepare fun for one child but not the others that will join you that day. Cinderella?[/quote]
Once more for the people at the back- BECAUSE THEY WEREN'T GOING TO BE THERE WHEN SHE BOUGHT THE STUFF FOR HER OWN KID.

Couldn’t afford

We always make sure our children have the same (blended family). Otherwise it creates animosity. However would expect DH to pull his weight in this as well.

@eggsbenedict82 the amount of time you've spent in MN, telling us how right you are, how wrong DH is, how wrong his wife is.

After all your planning for a three year old, it's ridiculous!

Honestly, such intricate planning and then constantly posting to moan about the situation.

Just enjoy your Easter Sunday and stop looking for issues.

It wasn't your job but you have been buying for other people's children on the basis that they gifted your kid, and now your DH's ex has similarly gifted your kid (a move you judge to be insincere she manipulative) and you still won't. I can understand your DH seeing all this preparation and eggs for other children and it just not occurring to him that you'd be mean-spirited enough to act as though his kids don't exist, since you are so clearly Doing Easter.

You are creating problems where there don't need to be any. If you'd told him that despite the clear Easter faffing all week you refuse to buy Easter eggs for his children so it's his responsibility, he would have at least known.

I have never heard of a step mother behaving so ... uncharitably. Did you know Easter is considered a Christian festival about hope and reconciliation? By all means stick with the Easter Bunny but you are drowning in irony with this thread.

I don't understand all the people saying you should buy for DSC. Don't they have a mum of their own? Did she buy them Easter eggs? Why should they get twice the amount of eggs that your own child gets?

Hm. Why didn't the ex buy her kids eggs and drop them off with their eggs?

That said, I would have told my DH to get his kids some eggs because you weren't going to.

@Incapacitated

It wasn't your job but you have been buying for other people's children on the basis that they gifted your kid, and now your DH's ex has similarly gifted your kid (a move you judge to be insincere she manipulative) and you still won't. I can understand your DH seeing all this preparation and eggs for other children and it just not occurring to him that you'd be mean-spirited enough to act as though his kids don't exist, since you are so clearly Doing Easter.

You are creating problems where there don't need to be any. If you'd told him that despite the clear Easter faffing all week you refuse to buy Easter eggs for his children so it's his responsibility, he would have at least known.

I have never heard of a step mother behaving so ... uncharitably. Did you know Easter is considered a Christian festival about hope and reconciliation? By all means stick with the Easter Bunny but you are drowning in irony with this thread.

I can't imagine my DH watching me do all that work and not participating and assisting.

I have spent the last few weeks preparing the Easter celebrations for DS, while DH has done nothing for his DCs, yet I'm the mean one?

I don't understand why it would take you several weeks to prepare Easter for a 3 year old? Yes your husband should have sorted eggs but it also seems very petty and passive aggressive of you to not buy them eggs when you had a few days notice, especially as you had been sorting out the rest of Easter. I expect your SC will feel rather hurt.

Surely someone should have bought eggs even if they were to be given after the actual day. No one comes out of this smelling of roses.

Well yeah, cost of living on the rise. That's why for once I got in there early and just bought everyone the small £1 ones (and a couple of the rolo ones for me)

Bollocks that it was incredibly short notice. I only got back from the US on Wednesday afternoon but managed to sort an egg hunt and Easter eggs and bunnies for my DC. My DH organised a full on Easter Sunday lunch and tried to buy more eggs for the kids - I had to rein him in! We bought gifts for each other plus I got chocolate bunnies for my oldest DS to take to his friend who he had a play date with. That was all in FOUR days whilst jet lagged. Above everything, no child would come to my house and be left out whether they are related to me or not.

@CuriousBogInTheNight

I don't understand all the people saying you should buy for DSC. Don't they have a mum of their own? Did she buy them Easter eggs? Why should they get twice the amount of eggs that your own child gets?

Well they have a dad. He could also have done that. But without a straightforward conversation it seems he assumed that the op would do what she has previously done and for some reason, when she decided she wasn't going to, didn't think to let him know!