To not have bought eggs for DSCs?

[eggsbenedict82]

Long story short, DSD (10yo) and DSS (8yo) are being dropped off here later by DH's ex. The whole visit was arranged with short notice, and only briefly rushed past me, as DH knows I have been busy preparing Easter for our 3yo DS.
This morning, after DS had opened his eggs, DH asked where the DSCs eggs are so they can be set up for later.
I told him I had not bought any, and when he got indignant I said it's as simple as they're not my DCs, they're his, it's not my fault he's waited until Easter day, when no shops are open. Not my responsibility, but as per usual, I've been cast as the wicked stepmother - happy Easter, hey? AIBU

I would have brought them too to be honest. Do you buy eggs for other members of the family? Neices, nephews etc? He shouldn't have presumed but I would have got them one.

You don't use young children to score points.

Easter doesn't need "prep".

There is no mental load required for adding chocolate eggs to a shopping basket.

Bitching about someone buying your kid a gift is just nuts.

Weeks preparing for Easter for a 3 year old - get a grip.

Your DH needs to sort out eggs for his kids. He should have done this regardless of when he was going to be seeing them.

@Tiredmum100

You could have added some eggs in your shop order for your step children regardless if you were seeing them today or not. Seems really weird to leave them out. Spiteful actually. It was hardly difficult to ask your husband if he wanted you to add a couple for his dc was it. I bought all the eggs for all the children, my own dc, nephew, friends dc etc. They are children fgs. Maybe next year ask your husband to buy the eggs for all his children instead.

Why is it in her to ask him?

He knows he has 3 children and he knows that at some point it's Easter. So why isn't he the one doing the leg work with his money?
Why isn't he asking the OP what they should do or contributing anything.

Gosh Kraken you nearly got the entire bingo card in one post there.

It’s hardly snide to say instead of ordering one egg, what harm was there really in pressing the + button and getting three?

You’d hardly need a lie down afterwards, would you?

Interested to know if you have a joint account when it comes to household shopping?

If so, you have been even more unreasonable than I first thought.

You went over budget on a three year old's Easter egg hunt? Were they Fabergé?

I'd try Lidl next time.

Because she was doing the online shop, the same as "dh do you need any toiletries this week, I'm about to do the online shop" if I'm doing the online shop. So easy to add things in. Hardly a big deal. Seems bizzare to me, people don't communicate over the simplest of things.nim not saying it was the OPs responsibility but come on, if your doing the online shop include all the kids.

A few pounds' may be just that to some, but during the cost of living crisis, I have already gone beyond my budget for DS. To expect me to engage in extra preparation and spend more money on his DCs at such short notice is absolutely typical from DH and his ex.

You bought an egg, stuff for an egg hunt and a gift for your son. He's 3 so you could have easily made the egg hunt chocolate his egg and skipped the gift to reduce cost.

The xw clearly has a history of buying gifts for your son which surely suggests that that the same social rules apply as between you and your sister? You buy each other's kids an egg and gift. If you were strapped for cash, you could have asked your sister not to exchange eggs?

Who bought eggs last year ? Are you financially responsible for the family food budget ?

@SpaghettiNotCourgetti

You went over budget on a three year old's Easter egg hunt? Were they Fabergé?

I'd try Lidl next time.

Not sure if now is the appropriate time to be questioning people's finances, during the cost of living crisis?

I can’t get over how some here would purposefully exclude children just to prove a point about mental load.

As someone with step parents, every single kindness is noted.

Why choose to be an asshole just to score points?

@Krakenchorus give over! Buying a couple of extra Easter eggs whilst shopping for Easter eggs is hardly women’s work FFS! No effort would have been involved in adding a couple more to the trolley. It was petty, mean and spiteful to leave them out.

Ah I see it is just a wind up. Bit bored were you?

I have spent the last few weeks preparing the Easter celebrations for DS

What tasks have taken weeks? This is the bit that's hard to understand- you said eggs were bought from Asda.

threads like this are just so sad .The poor kids.All of them.

@LovePoppy

I can’t get over how some here would purposefully exclude children just to prove a point about mental load.

As someone with step parents, every single kindness is noted.

Why choose to be an asshole just to score points?

The asshole is the DH for not wanting to give HIS OWN eggs to his children.

You have spent weeks preparing for Easter, bought gifts and eggs for your child and extended family but keep going on about a cost of living crisis…if your household can afford gifts and eggs for one out of the three children, it can afford at least one egg for each of the other two children

What’s his justification for:

• Not buying them eggs, himself?
• Expecting you to do it?
• Giving them your DC’s eggs instead of his own?

Have you asked? If not, please do. The mental gymnastics required to answer those and not see he’s being a self centred twat would be fascinating to behold.

@eggsbenedict82 Not sure if now is the appropriate time to be questioning people's finances, during the cost of living crisis?

Not sure if now is the time for you to be scrabbling back to the moral high ground, when you obviously just didn't want to bother with your SDC and are determined to make a mean spirited point at their expense?

"I have spent the last few weeks preparing the Easter celebrations for DS"

What have you been preparing? An live-action allegory of the musical 'Jesus Christ superstar' using chocolate bunnies and fluffy ducks?

I mean I do a brilliant Easter egg hunt and when my 3 were younger we had amazing Easter egg hunts in the woods.

I was (am) a single parent and their dad did fuck all for them. Still didn't take me bloody weeks though! You're reaching a bit there!!

Christ almighty, some of the responses on here are unbelievable -- the OP has not done anything wrong at all - the DSCs' visit was arranged hastily at the last minute, she didn't expect to see them at all. And it is not in the least unreasonable to think they would have had Easter Eggs from their own mother.
And the OP's DH sounds spectacularly useless, he could have easily gone out to a convenience store to get Easter eggs today, or as soon as he agreed that his kids could come over. But no, he'd rather berate his wife for not having the foresight to get Easter eggs for children who weren't due to be with them at all and who is also busy with her own child.

@Tiredmum100

Because she was doing the online shop, the same as "dh do you need any toiletries this week, I'm about to do the online shop" if I'm doing the online shop. So easy to add things in. Hardly a big deal. Seems bizzare to me, people don't communicate over the simplest of things.nim not saying it was the OPs responsibility but come on, if your doing the online shop include all the kids.

See I wouldn't say "dh do you need any toiletries". I would say "I'm doing a shop do you need anything" but I wouldn't put anything on for him unless he specified. That would include his children's eggs.

Well I don't think it's your responsibility but I do think you've been mean with how you're treating your DSC. Surely you'd get them an Easter egg in the shop whether you were seeing them Easter Sunday or not?

Ha. Definitely want to know what preparations have been made over the past few WEEKS (!!) for your DS for Easter! please share.