To not have bought eggs for DSCs?

[eggsbenedict82]

Long story short, DSD (10yo) and DSS (8yo) are being dropped off here later by DH's ex. The whole visit was arranged with short notice, and only briefly rushed past me, as DH knows I have been busy preparing Easter for our 3yo DS.
This morning, after DS had opened his eggs, DH asked where the DSCs eggs are so they can be set up for later.
I told him I had not bought any, and when he got indignant I said it's as simple as they're not my DCs, they're his, it's not my fault he's waited until Easter day, when no shops are open. Not my responsibility, but as per usual, I've been cast as the wicked stepmother - happy Easter, hey? AIBU

You're really not covering yourself in glory here.

You're being really ungrateful about a gift to your ds. You're trying to justify overspending on your son and nieces, as a way to justify ignoring step kids. That's just not very nice.

You don't sound as if you even like your husband very much.

Yes, your husband should have spoken to you about getting eggs for the dsc, but other than that I think you're sounding like hard work tbh.

Gosh, you sound really mean spirited towards those kids. I cannot understand why someone would behave like this towards kids. YABU and more importantly unkind.

They're children. If you can afford it one of you should've bought eggs and you should discussed it between you.

DH's ex bought an egg and outfit for DS, as one of her usual attempts to keep in DH's good books while I am painted as the evil stepmother. This is typical of the both of them tbh

Im not sure why this but is upsetting you, but it feels a bit unkind begrudging her attempt to do something kind for your son for Easter. I agree that DH should be taking responsibility for getting his kids Easter eggs if the plans changed and I absolutely think it should be his Easter eggs that he gives to them now, but I can't understand why this wasn't a discussion if you knew about the change of plans back on Wednesday. I assume maybe it stemmed from frustration that he doesn't think these things through and so you didn't bring it up because you knew this might happen, but the sucky thing is that now his kids will feel excluded and sad on Easter when with a bit of communication (even if it was an upfront "things are hectic this week so you'll need to pop down to the shops DH to grab them a couple of eggs"), this whole saga could have been avoided. I hope what's going on now doesn't end up leaving them feeling like third wheels on what should be a fun day, because of the principle that your DH should have remembered something you guys should both have taken responsibility for communicating about in the first place.

@heartofgrass

The visit was casually dropped on me on Wednesday

Omfg it gets worse. I assumed it was a last min visit and you didn't know til this morning/last night?!

You had PLENTY of time to make sure they weren't excluded.

Unbelievable.

As did the man who made them.

An 8 yr old and 10yr old would have enjoyed an Easter Egg hunt which they could have done with their younger step sibling.

You have had since Wednesday to either tell your DH to buy some eggs or buy them yourself.I just think it's sad that you wouldn't even consider one of those two options.

I can be a bit of a cunt but I’d have probably bought all of them together (as I did this year, even though all our kids are adults)

@JackieWeaver101

My sympathies are with your two DSC.

Their father sounds like a waste of space.

I cannot imagine why anyone would buy easter eggs and a gift each for their child and their nieces and not buy for their stepchildren.

Exactly this, no-one is saying you treat your step-children the same as your own on every occasion but it’s quite unfeeling to view them, or treat them, as less than your nieces.

So you’re now blaming the increase in the cost of living for not buying your step kids an Easter egg? Fuck off.

A few pounds' may be just that to some, but during the cost of living crisis, I have already gone beyond my budget for DS. To expect me to engage in extra preparation and spend more money on his DCs at such short notice is absolutely typical from DH and his ex.

It seems that they are taking you for granted and taking advantage of you.

Op, Do you have separate finances?

Now you’re being unreasonable

You have deliberately left your sc out

I was defending you, but come on. You’ve made it clear you could have bought them one small egg between weds and now, but chose not to because you didn’t want to

Not really fair is it

Nasty and mean. No excuses.

Agree greensleeves

Poor step kids, talk about feeling left out!! I would have picked some up when buying the other one . Father needs to go out before they arrive and buy the kids some eggs!

I was all set to say YANBU, but their mum bought your kid an egg and gift and you didn't reciprocate even though you did for your nieces and nephews in the exact same scenario? Yes, your DH should fix it by giving up his own eggs not your DC's, but this seems like a very deliberate exclusion of your DSC. At the very least you are both responsible for not discussing it between Wednesday and now

Just read your update.
A bag of wrapped mini eggs suitable for an egg hunt costs £1.

Yes, YABU.

You have been tied up preparing Easter for your 3 year old but couldn't even get SC Easter Eggs with that shopping??

You may not have known they were coming today, but surely it wouldn't have ordinarily been very long before you saw them anyway?

You are preparing Easter... it shouldn't be necessary for DH to go out separately to buy eggs for his DC, don't be so bloody precious & petty!!

I’m having trouble imagining this whole scenario to be honest.

@Toottooot

So you’re now blaming the increase in the cost of living for not buying your step kids an Easter egg? Fuck off.

Quite.

Yanbu.if you weren't planning to see them, why would you buy eggs for them? Tell him to drive to the petrol station for a couple of he's that bloody bothered. Cheeky shite.

I would see your N’s ex giving your child an egg to remain in good books as nice as their children are siblings.
Your DH gives his eggs to his kids,
But then it sounds as though you need to think about splitting up.

After the op's last update I'm not convinced this is real. At least I hope its not. Those poor kids will know and remember how little they are worth.

Obviously it's not down to you, but it's petty point scoring, why not just get them one each when you got one for your DS?

Regardless of the OP getting them or not her DH should have checked and made sure his children had Easter eggs! That’s on him.

I would have picked up some for them when I bought for my own child. Even if I weren't expecting to see them until next week. Not because it's woman's work but because I would want them to know that I care about them.