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Would you date someone with missing teeth?

258 replies

Claddinghell · 16/04/2022 20:07

Went on a date with a really nice guy. Ticked boxes and was attracted to him. However he had teeth missing. His top front tooth and few teeth towards the front. Very noticeable, but the cresting his teeth were white a like after. His pictures online had no pictures showing his teeth.

I told him a story of a tooth abscess during lockdown 1 when everything was closed. Told him that I had to get massive repair when everything opened. Thought this might provoke a conversation on his teeth. Sort of I had an accident they are getting fixed. But nothing.

My teeth are not the best and I do have a back tooth missing due to injury with a cherry pip and failed root canal.

Wouid you continue to date. It’s really noticeable

OP posts:
EliyanahM · 16/04/2022 21:31

I would and I do. It's very expensive for implants, and the horrible denture pieces are very uncomfortable. I'm 30 with 5 missing teeth due to having had bulimia for most of my life. He had his knocked out over time from face planting the floor (he has seizures). I'm so glad I found someone who doesn't judge me or think I'm less pretty because of my teeth.

fairylightsandwaxmelts · 16/04/2022 21:32

@SnipSnipMrBurgess

Some people don't even realise their privilege and its showing in this thread.
Yep, bang on.
Furrbabymama87 · 16/04/2022 21:33

Yes I would. I've got a thing for imperfect teeth actually. If I like someone their flaws are what make them sexy.

LetHimHaveIt · 16/04/2022 21:37

@SeenYourArse

Haha lot’s of the super wealthy on this thread as always! 🙄 It’s around £2500 PER TOOTH to be replaced, my DH broke the bottom half of his tooth off on holiday last year and we haven’t been able to justify the money to fix it yet, it’s a front one two to the left from the middle it’s not great aesthetically but it doesn’t cause him any trouble or pain so it’s fairly low on the priority list for spending a couple of grand on at the moment to be honest!
Well, that's fine - as long as you're aware that quite few people on this thread wouldn't go out with your husband: broken teeth and the inability to pull a few grand out of your back pocket, are huge 'turn-offs', apparently. Sounds like the 'Just Seventeen' problem page.
CurlyBurley · 16/04/2022 21:37

@GivenchyDahhling

Absolutely not. Total dealbreaker. You can get implants everywhere now for a few grand so no excuses.
Not everyone has 'a few grand' to spend on teeth!
SummerWillow · 16/04/2022 21:38

One of DH's crowns fell out on our first date during the meal!! I evidently wasn't put off, although it seemed a bit strange at the time. DH does have a number of implants now and no longer any gaps, and takes good care of his teeth. Bad teeth seem to run in his family so genetics a big part of it.

SummerWillow · 16/04/2022 21:40

DH was able to pay for his implants after inheriting some money from his father. He wasn't able to afford it before.

Rewis · 16/04/2022 21:45

I'm missing a tooth at the back. That tooth was a problem for 15 years and we decided to just take it out. I've decided not to have the implant since in this case it will be move involved (and expensive) than regular implant. So no, missing tooth is not a dealbrekaer unless it is very obviously due to lack of dental care. Which then goes to bad personal hygiene being a deal breaker.

Monty27 · 16/04/2022 21:47

@57itsgettingweird that's awful. Is it private prices? NHS has a ceiling on costs. £200 per denture and I don't mean per tooth. A set of dentures.

BojoMamanBebe · 16/04/2022 21:50

OP, has noone ever told you that you don't need to date anyone you don't want to? If you don't like his teeth (or lack of) it's ok to not go on a 2nd date with him.

Did you really need to start a thread to bring out all the nasty cunts?

AngelinaFibres · 16/04/2022 21:51

Nope not a chance.

Twilight7777 · 16/04/2022 21:51

As someone with a cleft lip and palate, I never grew top teeth. I’ve always had a false tooth on a plate but I now have a permanent bridge. I can’t believe how shallow people can be! I think it being due to self care would be a very rare case

Rewis · 16/04/2022 21:59

I went to a consultation to my NHS dentist and they said that they won't do dentures or bridges and I should go private. The private dentist said I'd had to remove my all 4 wisdom teeth (that haven't appeared yet. Well 1 is a must, 2 would be goood, 4 recommended) under the gums by a surgeon before I can get an implant. I thought fuck that. I'll just add it to the list if reasons why I'm undatable.

80swerethebest · 16/04/2022 22:01

There are some interesting replies on here but I do wonder how the thread would have gone down if a male poster had stated " Would you date a female with no teeth" and the replies included from men

No it would give me the ick
She isn't solvent so that would put me off mate
I couldn't be seen with a female with no teeth or bad teeth due to my professional job

Each to their own and all that but when a male mentions a negative aspect of a females appearance they are labelled shallow misogynists yet men are fair game apparently. As if everyone has thousands to throw away at dental implants to be accepted by some on here incase they " would be bad for professional image " when about town. I just hope these same vacuous souls don't complain when males make similar comments about weight etc

pedropony76 · 16/04/2022 22:05

Sorry no it’s not for me. Teeth are important to me!

ZealAndArdour · 16/04/2022 22:12

@fairylightsandwaxmelts

Of course, but the vast majority of people with bad teeth don’t have a genetic problem or an illness. They just neglected them.

I frequent a certain music scene where terrible teeth are absolutely rife and there’s nothing more at play than poor personal hygiene, laziness and drink/drugs.

incywincyspider1 · 16/04/2022 22:14

@GivenchyDahhling

Absolutely not. Total dealbreaker. You can get implants everywhere now for a few grand so no excuses.
Because everyone has a couple of grand lying around.... Seriously 🙄
YayitisfinallySpring · 16/04/2022 22:17

The first thing that attracted me to DH was his perfect and natural teeth. There's no way I'd date someone with missing teeth as a result of neglect. Decaying teeth can cause a number of health issues including heart disease. Envy

fantasmasgoria1 · 16/04/2022 22:17

A friends husband had a tooth disease which led to all of his teeth being removed before he was 25. It was not through any lack of hygiene. If someone had missing teeth because of poor hygiene etc then probably not but if it was something beyond their control like a disease then probably yes.

SucculentChalice · 16/04/2022 22:17

80swerethebest Each to their own and all that but when a male mentions a negative aspect of a females appearance they are labelled shallow misogynists yet men are fair game apparently.

Thats because women get negative comments about their appearance all the time and are judged heavily upon it. Yet as soon as they dare present a physical preference themselves, they are hauled over the coals because they are supposed to be open to dating anyone.

I just hope these same vacuous souls don't complain when males make similar comments about weight etc

I get negative comments about my appearance all the time. FWIW I think its because people think I can handle it - I used to do sports modelling but overall I'm pretty unremarkable looking really - size 10, 5 feet 9, long hair. I get told I'm "too tall" (for what exactly is unclear), to get a haircut, told I'm too chunky yet the next day I'll be told I'm too thin, told that I must have long legs no actually I have a long body but short legs, etc etc. Its never ending. When I tried internet dating, I was told that I would cheat because I'd been a model and one guy told me I was "too good looking and too intelligent" for him as he dumped me after our fourth date.

Whereas in my career (not modelling, the one I had to spend years qualifying in and building up my practice), I became conscious of how my choice of boyfriend could impact upon my reputation when an ex cheated on me with both a colleague and a friend, and word got round before I knew anything about it. Its a small world.

So, not vacuous, just careful to protect what I've spent my life working for in the best way I know how. That is not to say that there might not be some gem of a man out there with missing frontal teeth whose charm, wit and confidence might not overcome his lack of incisors, but given the OP's description, it seems a tad unlikely in this scenario.

Housetreecar · 16/04/2022 22:25

I wouldn’t. Appreciate its shallow but teeth are really important to me

MarmiteCoriander · 16/04/2022 22:27

I have a think about bad teeth- crooked, missing, yellow etc. I always think of this add campaign which shows how distracting and obvious dental issues are:

fstoppers.com/post-production/colgates-clever-advertising-campaign-4002

Aquamarine1029 · 16/04/2022 22:27

@Housetreecar

I wouldn’t. Appreciate its shallow but teeth are really important to me
It's not shallow. You are perfectly entitled to find things attractive/tolerable or not.
MarmiteCoriander · 16/04/2022 22:29
  • a thing, not a think!
bellac11 · 16/04/2022 22:30

@Rewis

I went to a consultation to my NHS dentist and they said that they won't do dentures or bridges and I should go private. The private dentist said I'd had to remove my all 4 wisdom teeth (that haven't appeared yet. Well 1 is a must, 2 would be goood, 4 recommended) under the gums by a surgeon before I can get an implant. I thought fuck that. I'll just add it to the list if reasons why I'm undatable.
Yes and this is exactly what I meant when I referred earlier to ignorance. People seem to think that if you have bad teeth, you just pop off to the dentist get your wallet out and its easily fixed. As others have said, sometimes you cant have an implant, sometimes to have to have other teeth removed, sometimes the NHS wont do the work and htats if you can even get to seen an NHS dentist.
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