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Would you date someone with missing teeth?

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Claddinghell · 16/04/2022 20:07

Went on a date with a really nice guy. Ticked boxes and was attracted to him. However he had teeth missing. His top front tooth and few teeth towards the front. Very noticeable, but the cresting his teeth were white a like after. His pictures online had no pictures showing his teeth.

I told him a story of a tooth abscess during lockdown 1 when everything was closed. Told him that I had to get massive repair when everything opened. Thought this might provoke a conversation on his teeth. Sort of I had an accident they are getting fixed. But nothing.

My teeth are not the best and I do have a back tooth missing due to injury with a cherry pip and failed root canal.

Wouid you continue to date. It’s really noticeable

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toconclude · 16/04/2022 23:27

@GivenchyDahhling

Absolutely not. Total dealbreaker. You can get implants everywhere now for a few grand so no excuses.
And of course everyone has 'a few grand' ( I was quoted over 6k for four teeth) lying about handy🙄
SkiingIsHeaven · 16/04/2022 23:28

It would depend on whether it meant he could whistle really well.

musicalfrog · 16/04/2022 23:28

Far rather missing teeth than terrible breath!

SucculentChalice · 16/04/2022 23:30

8ps Calling out the superficial rubbish you write doesn't mean I'm " distressed" now does it?

I think Mr Peterson's latest podcast might be calling...

As for your comment of not wishing to attract any other males, barring the obvious, I can't imagine any man wishing to spend the rest of their days with such a pompous, judgemental waste of space that has utter delusions of grandeur like your goodself. I'm still laughing at your " it may reflect poorly on your profession" line implying if your partner had no teeth/ poor teeth what would the community say.... not all of us are peering through net curtains all day. You sound so far ensconced up your own backside with self importance, you would struggle to find your way out without a flashlight tbh.

Serious point. A lot of men are a bloody liability and I'd be wary, if anything happened to DP and I was left single later in life, of taking another one on. Mainly due to their propensity to be after money and/or a house.

A toothless one at a young age, other than in an accident...mmmn no. Especially not a virtual stranger who seemed blissfully unaware of it.

Jewel1968 · 16/04/2022 23:32

People are funny about teeth. They can spend thousands on cosmetic dentistry and yet don't see it in the same way as other cosmetic procedures.

None of us are without fault. I am sure we all have physical imperfections that hopefully are overlooked by people otherwise nobody would ever hook up with anybody.

I can ignore a lot of imperfections if someone is kind and/or makes me laugh.

80swerethebest · 16/04/2022 23:35

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SucculentChalice · 16/04/2022 23:40

Yes, theres a lot to be said for having a dog as company...

DoorWasAJar · 17/04/2022 00:00

@Workyticket

Yup. Married one - he said he "wasn't a prolific teeth brusher" when he was younger.

He's had rhe shit ones pulled now, wears 2 sets of 4 false ones and takes really good care of the ones he has left.

How much was that? My DP has a few missing at the side and back. He also has deformed ankles which the NHS are not helping him with and works on his feet all day, don’t know how he does it.
80swerethebest · 17/04/2022 00:01

@SucculentChalice

Yes, theres a lot to be said for having a dog as company...
You can use that line when on tinder if you have no luck.
AliceMcK · 17/04/2022 00:02

Not sure I’d be attracted to a man with gaps in his teeth initially, but if I got to know them I may change my mind.

There may be a reason he’s not wearing a plate, he might not care or could be something else. My cousin lost teeth during chemo, he couldn’t get anything done until his treatment was done but then covid hit so he had to wait longer. Lots of sports people, rugby and hockey players also have gaps in their teeth and is dosnt bother them.

Thatswhyimacat · 17/04/2022 00:07

If you find them attractive anyway then there is no problem? It isn't a moral failing.

DoorWasAJar · 17/04/2022 00:08

@alittlefickle

My ex had full dentures! Never bothered me.

He wouldn't have ever told me, but, he was going into have emergency surgery and they asked him in front of me if he had dentures and he couldn't lie .....

Didn't think any less of him. Still loved him... Plus his teeth looked amazing!

Wow, he didn’t take them out to eat and it didn’t hurt to eat with them? My DP is thinking of dentures but afraid, he’s only 35. Do you know how much they cost him? DP has something wrong with bones, his ankles are deformed and his mom has bad rheumatoid arthritis but the NHS hasn’t told DP what is wrong with him and are not helping with his ankles either.
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MangyInseam · 17/04/2022 00:36

I don't see this as answerable in terms of principles. I'd date someone with missing teeth if I was attracted to him, and I wouldn't if I wasn't.

It makes me think of Jimmy Nail in AWP. He seemed to get a lot of girls though of course they were written that way, for laughs I think.

All that being said, I have never dated anyone with some missing teeth, but when i was in my early 20s I dated a guy with no teeth. Which was actually fine, surprisingly.

HeArInGhandsgirl11 · 17/04/2022 00:40

Front teeth no. A nice smile is a big attraction for me

ManateeFair · 17/04/2022 00:40

but the cresting his teeth were white a like after

I don’t understand what this means.

Whatever, though - I would have assumed he lost them in an accident or through a health condition, not through poor dental hygiene. It’s not uncommon at all for front teeth to be knocked out and it’s not always feasible or affordable to get implants.

Surprised he wouldn’t have dentures fitted though. Up to him, of course, and maybe they’re really uncomfortable. I could probably get past it if I’d really built up a rapport with him as a friend first but an internet dating situation where you don’t have an existing real life connection first, it might be a struggle. Ultimately, if you don’t fancy him, you don’t fancy him - it’s not something you should have to justify and it’s not shallow. Nobody fancies every man they find likeable.

FindingMeno · 17/04/2022 00:49

It's not something that would be a factor if I liked him. Looks are pretty low down on my priorities.

veronicagoldberg · 17/04/2022 00:52

No. Dickensian.

WaveParticleDuality · 17/04/2022 01:24

No. Toothless people are either terrified of or can't afford the dentist. Neither of which are attractive.

MissPattyGilmore · 17/04/2022 01:41

I hope that I would not be so shallow as to stop seeing a man for this reason (but cannot say for certain so I’m not judging you if you cannot get over this).
Op, you say he is “really nice” and you found him attractive- so please try and focus on his good qualities and try not to think of other people’s opinions. It is not easy to find a perfect match - and as long as his general hygiene is good - then his personality and compatibility is so much more important
My guess is that if he didn’t join in the tooth discussion on your first date, he may be very sensitive about it (as careful photos show) and you won’t learn more until he is comfortable with you.

Don’t be one of the judgemental people… try and rise above it. Remember you did find him attractive when you met him, despite seeing his teeth so you probably won’t hardly notice it after a while if feelings develop

AutumnColours9 · 17/04/2022 01:55

If he is a nice person then it wouldn't matter how he looks

Aquamarine1029 · 17/04/2022 02:22

@FindingMeno

It's not something that would be a factor if I liked him. Looks are pretty low down on my priorities.
This particular issue goes way beyond just "looks."
Nat6999 · 17/04/2022 02:34

Knowing we are in the middle of a massive cost of loving crisis & the fact that it is nearly impossible to find an NHS dentist a lot of people just don't have the odd few thousand lying in the bank to pay for implants. My dentist surgery was sold, it used to have four full time dentists, now only has one three days a week, I'm on a waiting list for another practice but there are over 500 people in front of me.

LetHimHaveIt · 17/04/2022 03:01

In what sense are crooked teeth 'bad' teeth? Nuts.

It's also the case that foetuses are often like tiny succubi, and leech all the nutrients from your body, leading to 'bad' teeth. My friend has 'nice' teeth, but they're crumbling and she'll have to have loads of expensive dental work done in the not too distant future.

I'd love to meet some of the posters who regularly manage to allude to their own attractiveness. I bet they're not half as smokin' as they clearly think they are.

Thoosa · 17/04/2022 03:18

@GivenchyDahhling

Absolutely not. Total dealbreaker. You can get implants everywhere now for a few grand so no excuses.
Seriously?

Is it wind up weekend on MN?