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Would you date someone with missing teeth?

258 replies

Claddinghell · 16/04/2022 20:07

Went on a date with a really nice guy. Ticked boxes and was attracted to him. However he had teeth missing. His top front tooth and few teeth towards the front. Very noticeable, but the cresting his teeth were white a like after. His pictures online had no pictures showing his teeth.

I told him a story of a tooth abscess during lockdown 1 when everything was closed. Told him that I had to get massive repair when everything opened. Thought this might provoke a conversation on his teeth. Sort of I had an accident they are getting fixed. But nothing.

My teeth are not the best and I do have a back tooth missing due to injury with a cherry pip and failed root canal.

Wouid you continue to date. It’s really noticeable

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BigFatLiar · 16/04/2022 20:37

You should have just asked him about his teeth. You don't have to date anyone you don't want. Nose too big/small, hair too long/short, wears glasses, has tattoos, puts cream on scone before jam. Anything your choice (and his - he might not have liked your earrings)

thewhatsit · 16/04/2022 20:38

No I wouldn’t.

I did know someone who had lost their top two front teeth early on in rugby but they always wore a plate / dentures so that looked absolutely fine.

KalaniM · 16/04/2022 20:38

Teeth break, fail, and fall out. C’est la vie. It happens to us all.

I suppose the question here is if you like him enough to continue getting to know him!

If it were me I’d probably just ask, how come you don’t have a denture for that gap?
I’d be curious. I imagine he’s got used to the gap or gaps and doesn’t fret over them. Body positivity!

Bumply · 16/04/2022 20:40

Oh, ok.
Another reason to stay off OLD.
I have three teeth missing.
Two that had fillings over the years, which weakened them
Another that developed a crack right down the middle for no known reason.
I could get implants, but it seems a lot of money when the gaps don't bother me.
I am in my late 50s and single, but did wonder how the gaps would be perceived if I ever tried dating.
Now I know

sweetbellyhigh · 16/04/2022 20:41

No, massive turnoff

Nomad916 · 16/04/2022 20:43

Dentures are available on the NHS though & not as expensive as implants if he went privately.

Keyra · 16/04/2022 20:44

I had a massive crush on a builder doing some work here a few years ago. Sometimes he had front teeth, other times he didn’t! His appearing/disappearing teeth were part of his allure :)

MrOllivander · 16/04/2022 20:45

Front teeth no, others then yes
I've had a back upper tooth removed so I can't judge!

Aquamarine1029 · 16/04/2022 20:46

@Nomad916

Dentures are available on the NHS though & not as expensive as implants if he went privately.
Exactly, so there's two reasons he hasn't addressed this... One, he doesn't care, which would be a deal breaker for me, and Two, he can't afford it, which would be another deal breaker.

If it bothers you for any reason, op, it bothers you, so don't see him again.

Goldenhairbrush · 16/04/2022 20:46

@GivenchyDahhling

Absolutely not. Total dealbreaker. You can get implants everywhere now for a few grand so no excuses.
Not everyone has a few grand !!!
Panningforfish · 16/04/2022 20:47

@Nomad916

Dentures are available on the NHS though & not as expensive as implants if he went privately.
Assuming you can register with an NHS dentist that is…
CharlotteRose90 · 16/04/2022 20:47

Wouldn’t bother me. Mine aren’t perfect either . I’d rather date someone with natural teeth then someone with obvious Turkey teeth that look fake and awful

Totalwasteofpaper · 16/04/2022 20:48

I cant beilieve this poll.

No way. i just wouldn't date a guy with missing/ non repaired front teeth.
No one i know would (thats both male and female)

Timide · 16/04/2022 20:50

Not unless he is in his late 90s. Then maybe I'd give him a chance

godmum56 · 16/04/2022 20:51

dunno. I have struggled with my teeth all my life and taken as good a care as I can. I have got poor bone density so can't have implants and a HORRIBLE gag reflex so wearing dentures is not an option.....so I am maybe seeing it from the other side.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 16/04/2022 20:52

You can get implants everywhere now for a few grand so no excuses

Yeah like everyone’s got a few grand lying around. Never mind heating and food bills.Hmm

Talk about out of touch

GivenchyDahhling · 16/04/2022 20:53

@Goldenhairbrush If we’re talking about front teeth, then you’d find a way. Finance, loan, credit card, family… and if you couldn’t qualify for affordable finance or a low interest loan then to be honest that’s another turn off.

Flavabobble · 16/04/2022 20:53

Seriously though, it’s not attractive. Doesn’t like he’s solvent either OP. I suspect you can do better.
'Doesn't look like he's solvent'? That's some extrapolation there. Maybe he's just terrified of the dentist?

chipsandpeas · 16/04/2022 20:53

yes i would date him, i have a missing tooth due to no fault of my own and not being able to afford an implant at the time and now it doesnt bother me, its not really noticeable so never bothered with a denture

StooOrangeyForCrows · 16/04/2022 20:55

No. Having a few quid put away in case of the need for a 2k implant or two is important. I wouldn't go on holiday or buy anything nice if I didn't have enough dosh to replace a knocked out tooth.

Aquamarine1029 · 16/04/2022 20:55

Not everyone has a few grand!!!

Yes, and that's yet another reason not to date him. I wouldn't date someone who isn't financially secure.

GivenchyDahhling · 16/04/2022 20:56

@StooOrangeyForCrows Agree, there are very few things I would prioritise above getting a missing front tooth sorted, bar the absolute bare essentials.

LoisLane66 · 16/04/2022 20:56

@Claddinghell
'...but the cresting his teeth were white a like after'? What's that all about?

KohlaParasaurus · 16/04/2022 20:57

Yes, I did, between marriages I dated a man a few years older than me who'd had all his teeth taken out and dentures fitted in his twenties because he had enamel hypoplasia. It was never an issue. I might have hesitated if he'd had a couple of tombstones sticking up from otherwise bare gums.

CeeceeBloomingdale · 16/04/2022 20:57

I was born without my canine teeth. I then had huge problems with other teeth due to a medical issue. I have always tried to take care of my teeth but they aren’t great and it really embarrasses me. When I was having a bridge made I had dentures. I lisped and couldn’t eat properly. I wouldn’t judge someone for it but I don’t think it is massively obvious to look at me that I have issues but it really knocks your self confidence.